What would you do if it was your Sister?

Question

About 4 yrs ago i bought a car for 10.000.To make this as short as i can my sisters car died so i gave her my car about a few months after making my last payment.Now i did have another car so i thought it would be the sister thing to do.Nowing my sister hasnt always had the best life but alot of it was from her dueing.Well about a year and a half the trains started to go in it and she could have had it fixed and never did and it ended up dieing.The car was in awsome condition when i gave it to her and not it sites in a million pieces in the junk yard.Well any how i have another small car that i sold her for 1.000.She asked to make payments and promised to pay 200 every other week.Well 4 weeks have gone by and no money.Ive called her all day and she said i should stop trying to run her down.Do i have the right to walk away from her .Or should i just give her another fee car.Now im not rich i hold 2 jobs and have kids to feed and she doesnt have a clue what 7 am is and gets everything

Answer 1

you have been a wonderful sister, but 1 free car is enough, if you give her another free car then she will always depend on you for things like that. i think you should give her a limited time to make her first payment or get the car back from her. just think, that is money that you could be spending on your children. you have been good enough, do what you gotta do, even if you have to take back the car. good luck.

Answer 2

If you still have the title to the car go take it back. She's got a bad record already. She's not going to pay you for it. So, Repo it and sell it. She really can't say anything about it because she has not give you any money. If she wants the car, have her sign a contract that states how much the car is and what the payments are,when their due. And most of all when the car should be payed-off. Write it up and hold to it. It's called ruff love.

Answer 3

Here is my opinion. If I give something to someone it is then their property and they can do whatever they see fit to do with it. Unfortunately she saw fit to run the car into the junkyard and shame on her. The second time you sold her the car and she sees fit not to pay for it. Probably your only recourse will be small claims court to either get your money or the car back...before she runs that one into the junkyard.
Everybody needs a hand up sometimes; Lord knows I've had a few of those in my life. But a person can only do so much for someone before they have to take responsibility for themselves. She obviously is not choosing to that. You're going to have to exert some tough love and stop helping her out. Sooner or later she will have to wake up to her situation and help herself. I know it's difficult to take the hard line with someone you love but sometimes it's the only way.

Answer 4

Give up on her and forget about getting any money and don't do it again. For pete's sake what about your kids?!
The other option is small claims court. Did you get any agreement out of her? Start taping your calls and try to get her to say she will pay her. Try to get her to sign some kind of paper, but that's probably hopeless. The phone messages will stand up in small claims court. Have all your papers from both cars. Maybe if she thinks you will take her to court, she'll pay up. She's a deadbeat and you have KIDS THAT COME FIRST. Been there, done that, and learned.
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Answer 5

There is an old adage that one should never lend money to a family member, but to give it freely if you can afford to do so.

It is very difficult when it involves family, but sometimes tough love is the only way they'll learn to correct their behavior. In this case the sense of "entitlement" where one feels they should have something that they did not earn. If your sister didn't take care of the 1st car that was in great shape, than likely she won't take care of the 2nd one either... Maybe a few months of using public transportation will show her the true value of taking care of a car?

Good luck!

Answer 6

Just wait for her to pay you for your car. Maybe she's a little short right now. Calling and bugging her wont do any good. If she doesnt have the money, she cant pay you anything.

If its my sister, I'll wait for her to pay.. If she cant pay, then thats the last thing that she'll ever get from me.

Answer 7

Sooooo...............#1 question is why are you doing this to yourself? The old saying once shame on you, twice shame on me. Why do you feel she is free to take advantage of you and get away with it? I would NEVER have given her a 2nd car.....she is what is considered a mooch and how is she going to learn to care for herself if there is always someone to do that for her? Have you heard of repossesion? That is what they do when people don't make payments and that is exactly what I would do. She is not your child, she is your sister and has the same opportunities as you do. You might have to write this off to experience.........DON"T DO IT ANYMORE!!!

Answer 8

i know she IS your sister, but shes not acting like it at all. so i dont think you should have to either. you should explain to her that you have things that you are responsible for and that you either need the payments or the car. if she wont do either, i would just tell her not to rely on me for help again. i think shell get the point. hope it works out.
good luck.

Answer 9

You will probably never see the $1,000. But don't just walk away from her. She is your sister. Just don't give her any more cars, money, etc.

Answer 10

clearly you are trying to be a good sister and be the better person. kudos to you there but do not let your sister walk on you as a doormat style. it is not fair to you and your life. it is tought when it is blood your dealing with good luck