Why do guys do stuff like this? Guys and girls opinions!?

Question

Me and my boyfriend are in a serious relationship, I think. I mean we live together. His job just sent him to Alabama for like a week. I have no job right now and Wed is my birthday. Why wouldnt he ask me to go with him. Instead I am stuck at home by myself oh and my car is broken so I cant go anywhere. And he knows this! I would think he would want to be with me.

Me and my boyfriend are in a serious relationship, I think. I mean we live together. His job just sent him to Alabama for like a week. I have no job right now and Wed is my birthday. Why wouldnt he ask me to go with him. Instead I am stuck at home by myself oh and my car is broken so I cant go anywhere. And he knows this! I would think he would want to be with me.

He works at a doughnut shop, assisstant manager. Not that business like. And its my birthday...hello

Answer 1

You're really a piece of work. Why don't you take some responsibility for taking care of yourself. You can begin by getting a job so you can get your car fixed.

Answer 2

I think he wants you to stay there and look for a job. I mean really you can't afford to go with him. Most places that send workers on out of state trips give them enough money for them to eat and only pay for lodging for them. Not them plus 1.

You should stay home and do work around the house. Make sure its clean when he comes back, cloths washed, dishes done beds made. He might be bringing you back a surprise.

Bummer about the car but been there and done that. I hope you have sneakers you can rely on. Or a friend to drop you off at a mall or shopping center or something.

You obviously have the Internet so start looking for a job there.
Don't just sit at home and be bummed out, do something with your alone time.

Answer 3

ok look sometimes he may just want a little space or he just wants 2 be real serious on his job with job with no distractions. orr maybe he saw that he could get u a present from another state well whatever tha reason trust him and dont go on a road trip with ur friends or nething. maybe he wanted u 2 have some fun with ur friends. or maybe yall were moving 2 fast when yall moved n 2gether. but u 2 should give each other space every now and then. im not saying 4 1 of u 2 move and find another place but just take a break from tthe married couple life. or maybe he just wants 2 take a vacation by himself. well im starting 2 confuse my self so ill stop just remember what i said. and try 2 enerpret it. ccg

Answer 4

Maybe he has to work- it is a business trip. If your car is broken, why are you worrying about going on some trip? Get a job and fix your car. if you already have a job then you can use that money that you worked, instead of going on the trip, to pay for your car. If you are in such a 'serious relationship', why are you worried about a week? Why can't you celebrate it when he gets back?

Answer 5

First off Happy Birthday!! It sounds like you have some type of "Victim Mentality". You must learn to love yourself and be full emotionally, that way you are not looking outwardly for fulfillment, like through a guy, a car, or a job. Please stop putting yourself in victim situations and this wont happen to you any more. NO ONE can take care of you like YOU can. Obviously this guys job is pretty important to him, so if you want to really know whats up with him, just communicated to him how you feel about it. Don't act like the victim....live in the solution, not the problem. good luck

Answer 6

I understand that this is a hard time for you to be alone. I doubt that your boyfriend doesn't want to be with you. His job unfortunately sometimes has to come first, and if his boss demanded that he travel, then he probably didn't have much of a choice. As far as not taking you with him, he may have not been allowed to. I don't know your financial standings or anything, but his company may have only been willing to pay for his ticket, and maybe the two of you couldn't afford for you to go with him. All in all, it sounds like the two of you need to take some time and talk this over. Communication is key to making things clear.

Answer 7

You already answered your own question. You said we are in a serious relationship, I think. Why do you think? You need to verify. And Why should he have taken your supposed lazy self out of town for his business trip? You have legs, so you can go somewhere, if you want. And why should he want to be with you? Someone has to pay rent. And a birthday is nothing but a day. Bills still have to be paid. Stop crying and find a job, even if it is Burger King. Before you find yoruself homeless and manless.

Answer 8

I'm sorry, yeah, I don't think my Hubby remembers mine is coming up soon also...And my car works, but I have nowhere to go...life sucks!

Hey, I have an idea, where do you live, I'll come pick you up, we can go out and celebrate...screw them! LOL

Just a thought to your added info...what the heck is so important in Alabama for doughnuts?...I would definately be concerned with him if I were you!

Answer 9

are you sure his "job" called him to alabama? I mean your birthday is coming up so you should get the attention make sure that you get all of the inside info b4 you get your heart broken. but who knows you just might realize that he is the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with. the option is up to you. Hurt his feelings by asking if his priorities are in alabama or hurt your feelings by finding out for sure that his priorities are in Alabama. one day can change everything, its up to you to decide how you want to live your life. Good Luck and I hope all goes well. Oh yeah, happy Birthday!

Answer 10

You know how you thought of all this stuff, well he didn't, he is a guy you will need to remind him, believe me we are forgetful, we get to watching the game or doing something were interested in at the time, he will think of you when you call and talk sweet then he will rush home to enjoy your company. He is not a woman, worrying over every detail, he is a guy accept it.