I am 40 and he is 26. Initially great chemistry. We saw each a couple times then decided to be just friends since we work together. Well I want him to go to school and I write him emails about that...I also buy him things like coffee since he is tight financially but then I noticed then when he sees me he avoids me he changes direction. Why? Sometimes he smiles but it seems fake. He really liked me in the beginning. I don't want him anymore, but I care about him and just want him to do the right things in life. Why is he avoiding me?
2006-08-18 15:51:05 · 7 answers · asked by vangogh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want to add that I am not chasing the guy. When I went in vacation...he emailed me and asked why he hadn't seen in me in the library.. how do you explain this?
2006-08-18 16:12:04 · update #1
Just think of it this way... your age difference is quite a difference. him being the younger one makes it even harder on him, even though you don't realize it. He probabley has gotten some bad talk from people around him, and doesn't want that anymore, so he is avoiding you so people won't see and make fun. What I would do is email him asking him what he is thinking and that you don't want him to avoid you, and that you never wanted it to end up like that, you just like to talk to him and you just want to be friends and see what he says!
2006-08-18 16:02:39 · answer #1 · answered by meangel15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may think you're still interested. Usually "just friends" after a breakup is just a polite way of saying, "we should stop seeing each other", and here you are emailing him and buying him coffee, he may have been perfectly fine with stopping what you 2 had started, and now thinks you are cranking things up again.
It may be that it's just not in the cards for you to be in his life in this way. Reading between the lines, I think it may not have been as mutual a breakup as you seem to indicate, and that you actually are still interested in being involved with him. That's not saying you want some type of dating relationship, but writing him, offering him advice on his future, personally caring for him....that's still involved.
I find it interesting where you are at on this. Being September to his May, you've got more experience here...I would think you would find his actions easy to read...except that it shows you have a blurred perspective, which is another sign you are more smitten than you care to admit.
2006-08-18 16:02:32 · answer #2 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he don't like you any more and really doesn't want to see or talk to you much. and hun you could get someone ur age don't settle with the guy that 14 years younger. . .
2006-08-18 15:59:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is thinking that you like him and he is uncomfortable about it now. Even though you care about him, just leave him alone and give him space.
2006-08-18 15:56:49 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he afraded you dont like him
2006-08-18 15:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by Caroline D. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's immature.
2006-08-18 15:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by My View 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AND...what else...tell me more and more and more and more...
2006-08-18 15:58:11 · answer #7 · answered by theone-N-only 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋