hi, i'm a 15 year old girl in a relationship with a guy the same age. we have been going out for about a month now. we met in summer school and now that it's over, we barely see each other. we keep in touch on msn and through the phone but lately he doesn't seem to be talking much. i don't think he is very busy with anything else, but just not talking. i know that he is shy because he has told me so, that in relationships he's much quieter, but i'm afraid our relationship is.. fading. i don't know what he's thinking a lot of the time, and would like to talk to him about this, but i don't know how to, without sounding too possessive and/or clingy. i was going out with a player before this, and so did he, and i think because of this, it's hard for me to trust him totally.. all the time. and i don't think he trusts me sometimes either. i don't know.. our relationship is still very weak. & he used to 'test' me. so wht do you think he's thinking/ is he still interested ?
2006-08-18 15:47:45 · 16 answers · asked by kaaay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to reply/clarify a few things..
i put school as #1 priority; my final marks in all subjects are 90%+, and i will never give up any of that for a guy. however.. it is summer and i feel that i have more time for this ? and also, i have a feeling that this guy is a good guy. he has the same values and morals as i do, and we both share common interests. and spending 5 hours per day, 5 days a week, nd for 4 weeks with him in summer school (we sat next to each other), i think i pretty well know that he's honest, caring, and all that. it just confused me how he's acting b/c he wants me to talk to him, but when i DO talk, i receive one-word replies back from him. i dont know. is this really a guy thing? less talkative online? we have great communication on the phone and especially in person, but we live in different areas and i can't stay on the phone for very long. oh, and thank you to the previous advice : ) it's good to hear other opinions to help me sort through this. thanks !
2006-08-18 16:16:44 · update #1
Listen and don't ever forget this. When a guys wants you he will not fake it and he will want to be with you. If he's distant and you know he doesn't have nothing better to do then chances are he's not interested in you as much as he use to be. If he has a problem he is trying to solve then thats different. He should still be calling and wanting to be with you if he is upset this goes for most men.
Also since its a long distance thing he may feel that there's no use in talking or trying to make the relationship work. He's smart if this is the reason because its hard keeping long distance relations together
2006-08-18 15:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by LaToya J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is and perhaps he isn't. At 15 the male's hormones are going CKRAZZZY! and he probably does like you very much. But the best you can do because he is not talking to you is let him know how you feel. Tell him that ya care about him but that you need to know how he feels or else you are just spining your tires "so to speak".
After you tell him that and ask him how he feels if he has little to no response you break up with him and tell him that he needs to speak up. School is startin' honey and there are plenty of young studs out there. A month isn't a whole hell of a long time in the scheme of things anyway...
If he does however come up with a good logical excuse "in your opinion of course" than you should give him a break, forgive, but don't forget.
Anyway thats all I think I got to say good luck and don't ever sell yourself short!
2006-08-18 15:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by Beano4aReason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are only 15 then there is NO way that u are in "love". If you are in "love" then u must of been dating since you were 5 and had some pretty serious relationships! On top of this all you have been with him only a month anyways! reconsider what you are thinking. If you have doubts then it is not meant to be. Move on there are plenty of other fish in the sea!
2006-08-18 16:02:14 · answer #3 · answered by kittengoesgrrr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh i bet he is still interested. and i think he misses being able to talk face to face. i dont think hes cheating us guys just dont like to talk on the net much to people we know. a relationship wont work out very good if u cant do more than talk on the net.
2006-08-18 15:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by rocker87_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this question in the first place then obviously its not going to work. You should never feel insecure in a relationship. Real love is being secure with yourself and your relationship.
2006-08-18 15:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by supraracer87 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....tricky question. i think that hes just insecure by the way hes sounding. i mean he sounds like a nice guy, but how often does he call u?? i think that he just wants to make sure that he can trust you is all. and if u call him here and there maybe u can patch it up. talk to him! tell him things u would only tell someone u love....be cool and be yourself!! GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-18 15:55:09 · answer #6 · answered by greenelephants33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the signs point to him losing interest, im sorry i know how that feels...but you should try to just forget about him and move on there is no use in holding on to something that is only hurting you. I hope i am wrong for your sake and i hope it all works out for you hun..
2006-08-18 15:55:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that unless he steps up to the plate and starts acting like he cares about you, then you're out of the relationship.
2006-08-18 15:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohhh my gosh that happend to me he may have something on his mind in that case why dont you just go see a movie or something like that is put a spark back in the relationship kk well glade to be of help
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2006-08-18 15:53:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's very interested anymore. Out of sight, out of mind applies here. Are you really only 15?
2006-08-18 15:53:10 · answer #10 · answered by craftykid22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋