Me and this guy went out for about 8 months and now he's saying mean things about me... which aren't true. I was wondering what a good way to approach the problem would be? Thanks.
2006-08-18 15:43:55 · 14 answers · asked by lilrindie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I agree with valcus43. He's probably doing it just to get your goat but by agreeing with him he can't "win". He's just looking for the attention.
2006-08-18 16:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by ~*~*~*Jenny Anne~*~*~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go up to him and say: Look it's really cool that you're talking about me. I mean look at all these other people in the world to talk about and you wanna talk about ME that's flattering. I understand if you have nothing better to do I mean your life can't be too interesting if I am the only thing you have to talk about... but it's okay I take that as a compliment. It's ok if you're immature and wanna talk about me... I doubt if any of the things you're saying is true seeing as though you went out with me. But that's fine keep talking you got a good subject.
2006-08-18 15:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a word: agree. If he says you are lousy in bed, agree that it is possible you are not. If he says you are fat, say that you have been thinking the same thing lately. If he says you are mean and vicious, say that you probably are rather harsh some times. If he says you have body odor, say that it might be the new soap you are using and maybe you should use it more often. Stuff like that.
Under no circumstances are you to say anything negatively critical of your old boyfriend except one thing. "I understand that Whoever is not dating now, you know he had a charming talent for pointing out ways that I could improve myself."
2006-08-18 15:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by valcus43 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If confronting him in person and asking him to cease and desist does not work, and if he is not a big enough person to correct the truth with everyone, then you will have to just live with this thing he is doing and take it as a part of what happens when you involve yourself with someone as immature as he. Smile, hold your head high, and do not stoop to his level. Do things that are above reproach and just be strong. Those who do not get that he's a lying cowardly bully...well, that's their loss and yours too unfortunately.
Just be strong.
2006-08-18 15:54:31 · answer #4 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What i'd in all probability do is enable is decide for now notwithstanding next time she tries to speak to you and be all superb i'd in all probability purely ask her why she bothers going out of her thank you to be superb to you just to instruct approximately and laugh approximately it or play different infantile video games like forget approximately approximately your buddy request whilst she became into the only that had to be sure photographs of your daughter. i'd tell her you have extra comprehend for persons who're user-friendly in the event that they dislike you. tell her your slightly too previous for the undemanding college drama and walk away.
2016-10-02 06:41:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the fool. He's most likely trying to make points with his buds. Childish behavior usually stems from rejection because they couldn't have everything their way. Move on and by all means, improve your taste in men.
2006-08-18 15:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by dreamchsr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to tell him when in an one-on-one situation. Maybe like buy him something to eat or something. Start telling him his good points first then proceed to tell him what he's lacking in life. Smile always and be firm
2006-08-18 21:26:40 · answer #7 · answered by Abel Blessed Lim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay having majorr headaches with this what is he too you a, ex boyfriend right, okay get him, in a room, alone okay(wait until you hear our anwser here before you start throwing disishes okay this might cure his jets) okay get him in a room seet talk him okay at first dont let on okay, 2-- okay do you have somebody who you know who he lied too one of your friends okay-- get back too your riend, hide her in the room, okay-- now take your ex boy friend in the room when you get him there start asking him why he lied too your friend in the room okay, now when he starts lying about your friend okay, bring her out-- in the openn- have your friend who he lied about slap him right in the godam face really hard--- and you both say look you are a godam liar- confront him hard fast--- and give him a slap in the face or a kick in the bals do it it wil work good luck now!!
2006-08-18 15:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop him from saying things which are not true behind your back and you can sue him for slander if he says it in your face...but the best thing is to stay away from him.
2006-08-18 15:51:01 · answer #9 · answered by michael2003c2003 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it's to you then tell him off or file for harassment or get somone to hang out with you he's afraid of if it's not to you bring somone with you he's afraid of or uncofrtable around and tell him not to he's trying to get to you to make ou feel bad becasue he has nothing better to do now that you broke up and wants to take his anger out on you and make a big teen drama thing out of it
2006-08-18 16:04:29 · answer #10 · answered by obiwan41288 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋