my girlfriend is married and bi-sexual and her husband dont know and she is scared to tell him because, he doesnt like the 2 women thing, but he is muslum and he wants her to help him find a second "im sorry play wife/sister" she doesnt know what to do and I dont know what to tell her.. they have been married for 8 years and they are actually happy .... all but her little secret.. he thinks the girl is her best friend from college... help!
2006-08-18 15:37:36 · 18 answers · asked by Let's be real 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I'm also bi, but my husband knows about it. Being bi-sexual does not mean that you can or should cheat on your spouse. She needs to tell him, for her own good as well as his. She cannot truly be happy if she is living with this lie hanging over her head. My grandma always use to say "If your man enough to do it, then be man enough to stand up and say you did it."
2006-08-18 15:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adultery is adultery. Doesn't matter if you are cheating on your spouse with a same-sex person or opposite-sex person.
The Muslim man will not accept a same-sex relationship for his wife. It is an "abomination" to him, a deviation in the sexual relationship. According to Islamic law, however, he is allowed to take more wives, as long as he can provide for them.
The "happy marriage" is built on a lie. The sand castle will come crashing down very soon. I don't know how they stayed together all this time, without sharing such intimate details as faith and sexual feelings! They should never have married. I hope there are no children to get torn apart by the coming maelstrom.
2006-08-18 15:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by MamaBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is wrong!
2 points for me and a kick in the head for you & your girlfriend. You call this situation happy! Stop enabling your friend. Tell her she has a choice to make if she wants to be truly happy. Be faithful or get a divorce.
2006-08-18 16:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by genuine1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being bisexual doesn't mean you cheat on your husband. If she's cheating, then she needs to get a divorce. If you can't commit, you don't deserve to be married.
I feel horrible for her husband. He may be attracted to other women but he doesn't have sex with them. You shouldn't pity your friend, you should be telling her to get with the program and either be a wife or get divorced. You're not helping your friend with letting her mess around outside marriage, you're enabling her to ruin her life and his.
2006-08-18 15:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right thing to do is to tell him. Whatever her secret is he has the right to know. Not telling him such a thing is against what marriage stand for. Marriage means a man & a woman becoming one.
Good Luck
2006-08-18 15:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by Alfred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets be real? considering the question, thats a good one. if they are both either seeking or involved with someone else, that is not happy. the old double standard, dont you know. the best thing i can think of is for her to walk away. she will eventually anyway.
2006-08-18 15:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by chris l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol! sorry about that though.
That's life. So what if she's a bi? her husband wants another wife doesn't he? lol. Even if she's bi, as long as they're both happy, then let just fate do it's thang!
2006-08-18 15:47:46 · answer #7 · answered by sheer♥black 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is bisexual and her hubby doesn't know...
Why would he be upest at the two women thing and trying to get another wife??
Your making up stories...go to bed...school is starting soon.
2006-08-18 15:46:34 · answer #8 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get one for me to i need the 2 points= tell , if not she will be unhappy all her life
2006-08-18 15:47:04 · answer #9 · answered by powernewfie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is a Muslim then maybe you should show interest in him then he may marry you to then you and your girlfriend can live happily ever after
2006-08-18 15:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by rasta4vida 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋