what do you do when you really think you love someone so much but then there is apart of you that you know will never be over your ex no matter what you do??
ive been with this guy for two years and i know im young but i really think i love him.....but i still think about my ex ALOT.I have tried everything there is to get him off my mind and all and at one point i thought he was.but then out of no where he called and its like now its like its back the same............i don't know what to do ????????????????????????????????????help e plzzzzzz
2006-08-18 15:24:47 · 17 answers · asked by destiny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
here's what you do:
1. Whatever you do don't cause your current man any unnecessary harm by letting him know!
2. Tell your ex that its not fair to you or your current man for him to call you since you are involved now
3. Make a list to remind yourself the reasons why you love your current boyfriend and if any of that hasn't happened lately tell him nicely to step up!
4. BUUUUUUTTTTT if you do mess around do your man the respectful thing and break it off with him. you don't have to tell him why just say you are really confused right now and don't want him to be a casualty of your issues. BEG HIM NOT TO PRY
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2006-08-18 15:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by bigsho222 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the first thing I would point out to you is that it is your "ex" for a reason. Letting go doesn't mean that what happened in your past didn't matter, it was a part of your life that meant something. But it is in the past! If you want to live life, you can embrace the past, have wonderful memories and appreciate the ones you were close to, but you have to "let go" and move on for a more beautiful and meaningful future! Just because it's your ex doesn't mean they can't be a "close friend" that you care for very deeply, but if they are stopping you from moving on with your life and happiness, and messing with your head, then it's time to shut them out!
2006-08-18 15:41:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dear, since you've broken up with your ex, it's time to let go & let your heart find new love.
Please do not hang onto your old flame just because you love him so much & all that. You're still not letting go. I've been there.
Trust me. You'll get over it gradually.
You deserve a fresh new start, a new beginning.
Perhaps, it takes a longer time for you to get over it. Do not fret.
Yes, you love your ex alot. But it's over now. Part of you still loves him & even miss him. Do not feel bad / guilty because you've genuinely put in your true feelings for him. It's impossible to lose your feelings overnight. Learn to let your feeling go bit by bit. You have to. You do not need to cling on anymore. You'll feel lighter & happier eventually after letting go bit by bit. And you'll be refreshed for a new relationship should the opportunity comes by.
Explain to your new guy friend nicely that you think you like / love him but you need time / space to get over. Ask for his support.
If he likes / loves you, he'll respect you & give you time / space.
If he waits for you, don't let him wait too long. Be fair to him & yourself.
I'm sure your new guy friend will know that you're serious into relationships & would not take it lightly with you should it happen that both of you start a relationship. If he can't wait, then it's not meant to be.
2006-08-18 15:39:58 · answer #3 · answered by Queenie Tay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trying to forget someone you loved is like trying to remember someone you never knew
First loves...that’s exactly what they are...those are the ones that introduced you to everything, made you love them, loved you back, and also broke your heart. But no matter how hurt you are, you’ll always love them. Always...they’ll stay with you forever. And not only will you not notice it, but deep down you will compare every other guy to him. And none of them will live up...because he was your first love. Then after months of letting go...when you finally think you are okay with letting him go, you'll hear "your" song...or see a movie...or something that reminds you of how much he meant to you and how much you really loved him and realize you’re not completely over him and never will be.
2006-08-18 15:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by Your best friend 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why did he call again? I would take care, he might feel lonely and knowing u still love him...Why u broke up? If he was the one who ended your relation and now trying to make his move i would send him away. Some guys are jalous seeing their girl happy with another guy...If you are sure he loves u and he wasn't responsible for the end of your relation, then u have to take your decision...You have now a nice relationship with a guy u love, so think twice, be sure before u make your move. we all had a past. we all had feelings as u do. But we have to move on and time will do his job...
2006-08-18 15:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from experience that sometimes what you think you had with your ex is just an illusion. I thought it was what I wanted once and when I got it I remembered why he was my ex. It seems like sometimes we want what we think we had and it wan't that good but we seem to forget how bad it was when you were togerher. As we get older we only remember the better times or life would be unbearable. good luck
2006-08-18 15:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by 51ain'tbad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, to start with, I think there are still some unresolved feelings left over, with you & your ex.Maybe there's a chance of getting back together.He left some impression on you for sure.I would see if he's been doing the same, thinking of you, & take it from there.It's said, that the reason you think of a person, & don't know why, is because their thinking of you, & you Mentally pick that up, & it will cause you to think of them back, without knowing why.
2006-08-18 16:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by sqishieears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww, that does suck, I know, but eventually, you'll come to figure out that you can love someone and not be with them. All you can do is fill up your time with things to keep you busy and things that bring you joy, a hobby maybe.
Don't let your love for him make you crazy (been there, done that) and don't answer his calls, there is a wonderful thing called call block.
Good luck
2006-08-18 15:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by ladylunamina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like yur in a bit of a pickle. but stay with the one your with and be happy but stay just friend with your ex. because in the long run you will be happier. with the guy your with. remember why you broke it off with your ex. then it will all make sense he probably has no one and figures he can come back to you until he breaks your heart again. sorry just being honest. and listen to the song by gloria gaynor I WILL SURVIVE.that should put things in to prospective.
2006-08-18 15:37:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok ask your self this was your ex your first love because if he was then that is way you can't forget him you are always going to have feelings for your first love. i say just try to be with the guy you are with now because there was a reason why you and your ex broke up.
2006-08-18 15:33:12 · answer #10 · answered by c0nsuel0_06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋