My 2 year old daughter whines and cries about everything. She has a great vocabulary but when she wants something like juice or a toy she starts screaming until she gets it. I have no problem giving her these things I'm just tired of the whining. I have tried ignoring her when she whines but that just seems to make the situation worse. I need to know if this is just a phase or if there is something else I can do. Please help!
2006-08-18 15:20:13 · 14 answers · asked by TJ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Try to ignore these types of behaviors. If she gets a reaction from you, or gets what she wants from you when she behaves this way, she will continue the behavior.
If she doesn't stop screaming remove her from the situation and give her a quiet space to think and relax.( do not put her in her room, and don't call it time out, a child sees this as punishment and the behavior will escalate.) Calmly tell her that she needs to go have some time to think about how to ask for things nicely. Once she stops crying try talking to her and explain that crying does not get her what she wants.
Soon she will learn the correct way to ask for things if you model these types of behaviors for her. For example you should try saying, "Baby, if you want something, crying is not how you get your way. Please use your words." In that sentence you're modeling the word please and she will pick up on it.
But whatever you do, DO NOT give her what she wants when she cries.
2006-08-18 18:24:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I strongly disagree with dazed. It's a phase. It will pass. You must ignore the behaviour completely. Do not feed it with attention in any way. I have a 4 year old, 2 year old and 8 month old and if I tried to reason with my two year old(s) every time I had to "take control" the other kid would have died from neglect long ago. Two year olds are not reasonable. Period. You must tune out whining. Explain what you want- "I will not answer you until you ask me properly" and tune it out. I have three relatively easily controlled children because I will not tolerate being taken for a ride. And several times (although not that many) I have turned on my heels at the mall, at McDonalds or at the park and gone home to prove my point. Don't expect a two year old to be reasonable but they can understand basic rules like whining and screaming means you are staying home and will be ignored. Tough mama be I but my kids are happy and easy and I take them with me everywhere.
2006-08-18 15:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by Weedy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a phase, it is called the TTs (terrible twos), but you have to start controlling her behaviour now or it will get worse and become the TTs(terrible threes) and then the TFs (terrible fours).
You need to firmly tell her that you will comply with her wishes, whether it be a toy or drink or food but while she whines or screams she gets nothing. Put her in a place you have designated as the 'naughty corner' or 'naughty chair' and she
stays there for two minutes (that is one minute for each year of her age). You then go down to her level and ask her to apologise and give her a hug for the terrible noise before she is allowed to leave naughty corner. Once she has behaved then she can have whatever she was wanting. It will take a while for this to work but it does work.
2006-08-18 15:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dazed 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is just a phase, and ignoring it does work it just takes some time...but you have to ignore it completely..act like you are busy make no eye contact with her, talk to her about something else while you are getting her juice.. I just took a great parenting class based on a book called the Incredible Years....and went throgh the ignoring, and how it works
2006-08-18 16:06:37 · answer #4 · answered by jenlew73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You teach people how to treat you honey! :) Tell her you can't hear her when she whines. When she stops, and says it in a calm nice voice, then she'll get what she wants. Until then, whine on baby girl! :)
My son is kind of whiney right now, I think mainly because of my daughter. He's almost 4 and now, my daughter (1) is getting more vocal about things and can talk some. So he's immitating her and trying to be babyish. And it too, drives me nuts!
Best of luck to you!
2006-08-18 18:45:48 · answer #5 · answered by the_proms 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
feels like you're doing great! Whining isn't the start of a self-discipline situation, it truly is totally wide-spread for her age. only shop telling her that you won't be able to understand her even as she cries, and she or he needs to talk with you in a "huge female voice". as long as you do not supply INTO HER even as SHE WHINES you'll tutor her that purely a deferential and sparkling tone of voice receives her needs met. As an aspect note, if she purely receives into her moods once you're nursing, it would want to be because she needs interest, too. per chance once you nurse you could do something particular mutually with her too, like watch a movie she selections out, or she will "study" you a narrative, or she will "help mommy with the newborn" and get a blanket or your slippers. if you're making her experience area of the nursing time, she will be able of seem ahead to it instead of having disenchanted that your interest is elsewhere.
2016-11-05 03:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind her of how to ask, juice please, then wait for her to repeat it nicely before you give it to her. When she screams and then you give her whatever it is she wants you are only reinforcing the behavior. Yes it is likely a phase, but if you don't take the time to remind her and teach her of the proper way to ask, then it will take much longer to break her of it. By reminding her to ask nicely and say please and having her repeat it she should eventually just do it out of habit. At least that is what worked for me.
2006-08-18 16:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by curls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son does the grunting/whining thing when he wants something. We don't give it to him until he either (1) uses the word(s) if we know that he knows it, or (2) gives us the handsign for it.
You might be reinforcing her whining by giving in to her demands. Instead, don't give her what she wants until she can ask nicely for it.
2006-08-18 21:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by skydivemommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girls whine a lot. When they do, I tell them "I can't understand you. You need to talk in a nice voice." And they don't get what they want until they don't whine.
2006-08-18 17:08:08 · answer #9 · answered by CCTCC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your child is not the only one. I have a boy who will be two next month and he is going through the same thing. I think they call it the terrible two's for a reason:) I think she is just trying to test you to see how far you will let her go. The best thing I can suggest is time out. Children HATE time out and she will get the clue.
2006-08-18 15:29:18 · answer #10 · answered by wandito 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋