I love being alone. How do I convince people that I'm not lonely. I was born to be like this.?

Question

I want to be respected and not judged for my choices. I play life safe because I've been through so much. I like late night booty calls where I don't have "day after" resposibilities. I'm not lonely but I prefer to be alone. Does that make sense to anyone out there? email me @ [e-mail]

Answer 1

Yeah, you make sense. Life isn't lonely when you give yourself enough satisfaction anyway. I'm sure some in the world can understand that.

I think mostly that people don't know what to say to people who don't have many needs, like you... so they just suggest silly things like "why don't you get some baggage... I mean, a partner"

Answer 2

I know what you mean. The idea is out there that anyone who likes being alone must either be really lonely and just not be able to admit it, or there must be something wrong with him or her. I would say don't try too hard to convince people you're not lonely. If they've made up their mind you are, they'll just take it as proof that you're "in denial." Just live the way you want to and anyone who's paying attention will see you're happy the way you are.

Answer 3

Yes I under stand. I am 24 I went through that but it gets old. To answer your question you do not have to convince any one of who you want to be and the way you run your life. Those people just don't have a life of thier own. I have realized people who get on you for the things you do in your life have been through it but most of them are just hypocrites and are doing worse then they think you are so dont listen to other people. You are the only person who will have to deal with the consiquences of your actions. If you go trying to prove your self to people that only makes you look like you care about what they say you are doing.

Answer 4

There is a lot of people that need their own space and enjoy their own company AND they still have a relationship. Your problem sweetie is not your independence, it's your fear of intimacy.

Yes, people can respect your need for a lone time but how can you expect people to respect your decision to have booty calls..that's not respecting yourself.

You rather have empty meaningless sex and then push them away because you can't trust men..you fear being hurt. The sad fact is you are still hurting yourself by having no self respect and you are allowing men to disrespect you by using you purely for sex.

Please consider counselling for your relationship and self esteem issues, so you can start to have a healthy relationship because deep down, you really do want someone to love,appreciate and cherish you. You are so much better than the situation you're in and you are deserving of having a loving partner. I wish you best of luck.

Answer 5

I am with you......I like being alone, too. I am very social but when I come home to my little house......it is cozy and nice and I can do as I please! I travel to visit my kids in 3 states. I am going to drive to Key West for the Labor Day weekend.....rent a bike, stay in a bed & breakfast and eat Key Lime pie every day. And, one more thing......I NEVER try to convince anyone of anything......I don't have to.....I don't care what they think. I just smile and do my thing!

Answer 6

yes it makes sense but its also wierd people are communal creatures and with out that its kinda wierd. but im like that so i understand where you are coming from. many girlfriends have been told that we now have a not date night so that i can have a little time to just be me. so yeah if you work around it a little and actually tell people that then it seems to go a lot better.

Answer 7

Sweety, it doesnt matter what people think. People will always talk, might as well give them somethin to talk about. Cuz some people like to be lonely, some people like to be more sociable so we're all diff, and thats what makes us unique. People will always misjudge someone, its called stereotype. So dont worry about it, just be you.


Hope I helped♥
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Answer 8

When people comment about you being alone, tell them the more you get to know people the better you like your dog. If they don't understand that, that's their problem.

Answer 9

I understand what you mean because I'm just like that.Try to look happy all the time.Do things by yourself that makes you happy like singing.Let them know that you are not lonely and it is just your personially.

Answer 10

Makes perfect sense. Some people prefer their own company.
When they are ready to socialize they do/will.