I will be conducting my first wedding as a minister. What do you remember about the minister that married you or when you attended a wedding. Good and Bad.
2006-08-18 14:40:37 · 12 answers · asked by island living 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have performed over 100 weddings and each one is unique. Be sure to meet with the couple enough times that by the time you are standing with them you are all three very comfortable with each other. Always remember it is THEIR wedding, not yours. Although you will be the glue that holds it together spiritually, it is a celebration of their commitment to one another. Let it be their day without forcing a lot of legalistic stuff on them.
Any way, I am sure you willl do fine. Blessings and we wil be praying for you.
2006-08-18 14:50:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was southern Baptist and in the prayer said I needed to remember my place was to be subservient to my husband . . . it was offensive. (Even more offensive looking back since I supported his sorry self and two children for years only to be mistreated. He obviously did not believe his own religion, but yet I was supposed to be subservient to him.)
Weddings I have played for: I know a lot of evangelical ministers like to change their breathing patterns to where they can barely be understood. Somehow it always comes out in the final prayer . . . IMHO it calls attention to the minister and is very distracting from the purpose of the wedding. Non members sit there wondering if the guy is about to have an asthma or panic attack.
My former BIL survived evangelical ministers by counting of the number of times they loudly catch their breath . . . then his friends would bet on this after the service.
I think if you remember to put the Lord and the couple first, you will do fine.
2006-08-18 14:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by whozethere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good-- keeping it short and making it about the bride and groom. If you keep the focus on them and keep it as short as possible, people will love you. Also, speak up and make sure that you keep the groom calm.
As a Catholic, the worst thing I experience is a foreign priest who is hard to understand, forgets we are "cafeteria catholics" (does everything super traditional), and makes the homilies (sermons) over 15 minutes. In non-Catholic weddings I hate when a preacher decides to go into a rant about God, how we should live, and anything else that doesn't relate to marriage and seems like an attempt to convert me instead of a way to celebrate the union or makes the ceremony the vows and nothing else. If it is less than 20 minutes I feel like it was not viewed as an important event and was just hurried to get to the party. 30-40 minutes in a good time frame.
I am sure you will be great!
Good Luck!
2006-08-18 14:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by emp04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a good idea to know real wedding etiquette so you can advise the couples properly. Get a few books by published, well-respected authors. Miss Manners on Weddings is a fantastic book to start with.
Too many people in the wedding industry don't know what in the world they are doing, end up giving bad advice just to make a buck, and the bride and groom come off looking ungracious and foolish.
2006-08-18 16:50:44 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a good sense of humor mate! The very important thing is to keep the guest laughing and the bride and groom smiling. I know it is a serious occasion and all. Come on! Its a wedding! People are suppose to be happy and all so it wouldn't hurt to crack a few jokes here and there
2006-08-18 20:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by Abel Blessed Lim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most ministers use a pre-written service so I don't know what your problem is. Most couples, by the time they get tt the altar, just want to get on with the ceremony, and unless they have requested something specific, just use what is available.
2006-08-18 14:46:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
havent been married but have seen a few. the best ones take the time during the rehersal to guide the whole production AFTER they talk with the bride and groom. then when the wishes of the couple are know then you can add a little to it.
2006-08-18 14:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy who married us was really funny and sincere. He had a lesson that I still remember: Take one hour in a day, a evening in 'n week and a day in a month and focus only on your partner.
and... remember that sex is part of a marriage... nearly 40% of it!!!
2006-08-18 14:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by iluvafrica 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak clearly and take time to practice mistakes are human but someone who is totaly lost and cofused not cool.
2006-08-18 14:45:22 · answer #9 · answered by mytruecolorschik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sincerity. Belief in our Lord.
2006-08-18 14:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋