I have a male "friend" who I met on the internet nearly 4 yrs ago. I have flown 3 times to two different countries to see him and he has flown here to the US twice to see me.
When ever we are together, we are "together" and we have talked about making a go of it permanatly. Each time, he backs out though (he is working through some issues) but we remain friends.
We are very fond of each other and comfortable with each other and we trust each other and respect each other. We are both hesitant to use the "L" word and us being from different countries makes it hard to stay together for any length of time.
Can it ever work out????
2006-08-18 14:31:22 · 8 answers · asked by Dolphin lover 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We did live together for a month and a half when he was here last time and that went well between us.
2006-08-18 14:43:02 · update #1
Yes I think it might work. Actually I am a in a similar situation with a friend of mine who I met in my country but he is from the States. We both work for the same company but now he is leaving it and it will be very hard for both of us to see each other. So as you can see other people lives with that situation as you do. I think you guys have to make a big effort to gather permanently soon cause a long distance relationship gets so hard to deal with if it takes so long for you to see each other, since the physical contact is important. You guys need to love each other physically, see what I mean. Not meaning sex, but caring. Serving the dinner for the other, watching a movie together, sleeping together and feeling the breath of the other. Thats my point, for me its important to share the life together, live together as a couple, as a family. So I would recommend you to keep it up, dont give up, just try to resolve your problems and join together as soon as you can!! And be happy together!!
2006-08-18 14:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by bloodymary24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is happy with the arrangement, as is.
You can never tell if a relationship could work from only getting together the way you do because all you experience are the highs of seeing each other in other lands and having fun.
Real relationships hold so much more, don't they.
Could you both be commitmentphobes-that's fine, just face it if you are.
2006-08-18 21:41:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a tough one. i think you will have to apply the "if you love something, let it go. If it comes back, then it was meant to be....." saying.
I was in a long distance relationship and then we both decided to put everything on pause until we could be together and we got on with our lives and it just so happened that we ended up being together again. Its all good now, 8 years down the line. You have to be prepared for alot of hardships but everything can be overcome with determination!
2006-08-18 21:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by Mister Man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't care for long distance relationships. Before my husband and I got married we lived in different locations for a year. It was hell to say the least. However, every couple is different. I would say that it would be a whole lot easier to make your relationship work if you and your friend live in the same area. Also, have you really questioned your friend as to why he backs out of making things permanent? That would concern me and it would make me nervous of relocating to another places to be with someone who keeps "backing out".
2006-08-18 21:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the point? How long do you think you will find emails and phone calls a complete and satisfying relationship? And how many more years are you going to waste finding out? What kind of issues does someone have that it takes FOUR years to work out?
2006-08-18 21:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES IT CAN! My wife is from Cape Town I'm Greek and i work in China. I see my wife twice a year and believe me it can work out. About all that different countries, that is bulls girl!
2006-08-18 21:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's been going thru issues for 4 years?...that's a lot of issues...look, you either want it or you don't...being hesitant of telling each other you love one another is...well??...come on, for Gods sake...when you love someone you want to scream it out...you want EVERYONE to know....especially the other person...think about it!
2006-08-18 21:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, over seas relationships don't work out because you don't see each other enough.
2006-08-18 21:36:45 · answer #8 · answered by Researching 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋