Help me...having a BGR problem here!?

Question

Hi peeps..seriously need help here.
Been with my partner for almost 5years now. Ups and downs in a relationship are inevitable. But the main thing that i m facing with my boyfriend is that till now he has not brought me to see his parents...or at least his parents doesn't even know that i exist! i m suffering mentally coz my parents, my peers are all asking me about how is the bond between me and his parents...how am i to answer them?anw me n my boyfriend are of different races. in the initial state we both belief that races dont reali play an important part but looking at it now......
Anw he claimed tat his parents are those conservative type..and feels that he is too young to get a girl! for goodness sake he is 25 this year!just want to build the bond there and just to show them the respect they deserved. my boyfriend cant be possibly keeping lying to them everytime he meets me. and oya..i CANT even call his house if he is not picking up his mobile! Haizzzzzzzzzzzz.....
HELP PLS..

Answer 1

I would seriously move on. You don't need to date someone who is keeping you a secret from his parents. How about calling his house anyway? I mean, what's he gonna do? Break up with you? If that's the case, tell him that you had planned on breaking up with him anyway.

Answer 2

I Would Move On.. If Hes keeping You A Secret From His Parents He Must Not Be That Serious.. Sure 5 Yrs Is Long.. But.. i Dont Think Hes Seeing The commitment.. Atleast Not Any More.. And If You Cant Call His House When Hes Not Answering The Phone.. Maybe He Gave You That Rule For A Reason.. Maybe He Doesnt Want You To Interupt Something???? Just Assuming.. And If He Really Loved You He Wouldnt Care About What His Parents Would Think..

Answer 3

Am sorry but i don't believe that i think your boyfriend is lying i could be wrong, but think about it, he is 25 he is an adult. Am sorry you're taking his feelings into consideration by not calling his house Are you even sure that he really lives with his parents? I don't know about you but i'll confront any situation head on cause i ain't got time to waste, i'll call his house i might even pay them a visit if am wrong then i'll apologise, but for my own sanity i will find out, after all it's your life too you can't keep living in uncertainty do you want to waste months years being understanding and in the end get nothing from it that doesnt make sense you need to know where you're going in this relationship.

Answer 4

I think you have to consider this relation carefully. If you have been with your bf for 5 yrs, he should bring you home to meet his parents already. From what you have describe your bf listen to his parents more than anybody else. I don't mean it is no good for your relationship but at certain aspect he have to be firm with his stand. Can you imagine that he tell you his parent want him to find a gf of the same race and religion, then what will be your first reaction? I believe you have to made a decision at some point whether to carry on with this relationship or not. Please think carefully before you made your decision.

Answer 5

You had wasted 5 years with someone not serious with the future for both of you. You still want to waste for another 5 years? The bigger problem now is you don't want to let go...for your sake, move on.

Answer 6

Sounds like he is an Indian and you're not. Nothing wrong with that. But there are things you should understand about the indian culture and relationships. It can still work. You need to talk to me.

Answer 7

MOVE ON!
Everything is like an investment. If the stock prices don't move...DUMP the stock.
So MOVE ON...your time is too precious.