please help. i have a 13 yr old who currently lives with her dad. she has called numerous times saying how bad she wants to be with me, what would be my next step? she doesnt want to stay with her dad cause his wife treats her like crap. HELP!
2006-08-18 14:22:32 · 13 answers · asked by meljermel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
does she have any say or rights?
2006-08-18 14:23:45 · update #1
im asking you guys just to get some insight. i know to consult a lawyer but its nice to here what you guys think. i have been clean and sober since 2/7/06 and have alot of people that are willing to stand up for me.
2006-08-18 14:35:32 · update #2
other people are telling me about the situation between her and her father so she is not playing us against each other. she is a very good, and intelligent 13 yr old. her dad tells her she can see me then says no because of his wife. we were never married
2006-08-18 14:42:15 · update #3
i dont say anything bad about her dad. i just tell her to keep her head up, plus shes hardly with him he pawns her of to other family members
2006-08-18 14:44:12 · update #4
yes she does have a say and she DEFINATELY has rights. once you turn 12, you can voice your opinion in court as to where you want to live, but if one parent has been deemed unfit, then it doesnt matter what the child wants, its whats best for them
2006-08-18 14:27:26 · answer #1 · answered by hahtnamas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you just go right along with that teenage crap. where she plays the adults against each other!
It is not good for her, to see she can sway you to her 'side' against her dad, by using his wife.
Sure, we know that ALL stepmothers are sadists, and cruel, and want nothing better than to make the child, of the man they love dearly, to suffer horrible pains and agonies...
Think for a minute what is going on here. I was a step child, as were my sisters, in several instances. Every adult we met loved and nurtured us, though one sister was a bit rebelous and would lie, and 'set up' a step parent so that it appeared she was badly treated, but, she was and is, the very GREEDY child of our family, and everyone knows this.
At the time, and for a short time, she was in 'control' of two sets of parents! Until she was 'found out', because the rest of us were not substantiating the similar events, and she was never able to manipulate through lies and deceptions again!
She still lies, and tries to manipulate the family, mainly at holidays, but, the rest of us are more honest, and ended up a lot happier! Too bad when she throws some imaginery huff, and doesn't come to a family get-together! Her loss!
2006-08-18 14:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhm in the adventure that they are doing it really is is amazingly unlawful, pondering the hard newborn exertions regulations they have those days..The youngest you may start up operating is 14 and the time restraints for an adolescent a lengthy time period 14-16 is so limiting and complicated to time table that I doubt that 12-13 year olds are operating there..yet you by no skill recognize, something might want to be occurring
2016-11-26 00:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your lawyer. Hire a psychologist and social worker. She has rights and can make the decision, but you have to do it the right way. You'll need to let a lawyer know she wants to initiate the change in custody, and pursue it. In the meantime, a psychologist and social worker will need to visit her and make observations for the court's final decison on her maturity, conditions in the home, etc.
2006-08-18 14:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by mom2babycolin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she would have some say. but it also depends on your situation too if you are doing lots of drugs or you are a drunk or something good luck with that.
if her father or step mother beats her well i think you could get her back probably.
if you are just as messed up as they are then the child will be taken from both parents and she will live with foster parents instead.
2006-08-18 14:29:27 · answer #5 · answered by pevehead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to a lawyer, all states are different. but in ohio. they (judges) usually listen to the kids sometimes.
you also are only listening to a "typical teen" that dont like rules and consequences.AND ONLY HER SIDE(THERE ARE 2 SIDES TO EVERY STORY) maybe have a talk with your daughter and find out EXACTLY HOW she is treating her "crap"? maybe talk to her dad and his wife. all of you need to sit down and discuss rules. maybe they have rules she just dont like.
she is playing the "sad kid" card and she has gotten you. as her mother.
maybe she sees how you have acted or said things about his wife. and she is using that to her advantage.
2006-08-18 14:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 13 the court will listen to her. Go for custody. If you are gainfully employed, have no alcohol, drug or weird boyfriend problems. Do not abuse children. You should probably be oK.
2006-08-18 14:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tryed talking to the dad about leting her stay with you every now and then? im sure that would be fine, she is your child as well as his, if that doesnt work ask a lawmen or a lawyer, you have your rights to YOUR daughter
2006-08-18 14:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by Newbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE IS OF THE AGE THAT SHE CAN CHOOSE. WHAT YOU SHOULD DO IS CONTACT A LAWYER, WHO THEN CAN SET UP A HEARING SO YOUR CHILD CAN LET IT BE KNOW WHO SHE WANTS TO BE WITH. DON'T WORRY ABOUT HER BEING PRESSURED BY HER FATHER ABOUT LIVING WITH HIM. THE JUDGE WILL SPEAK TO YOUR DAUGHTER PRIVATELY IN HIS CHAMBERS. THIS IS WHAT I HAD TO DO ABOUT FIVE YEARS AGO. IT WORKS!
2006-08-18 14:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose that you two are divorced. If so, she can write a letter (petition) to the court asking to live with you.
2006-08-18 14:28:00 · answer #10 · answered by Albannach 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋