what is the best way to handle social anxiety?

Answer 1

FIRST OF ALL, EVERYONE HAS SOCIAL ANXIETY TO SOME DEGREE OR OTHER....SO YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
PEOPLE HAVE IT FOR DIFFERENT REASONS. SOME FEEL LIKE THEY'RE NOT GOOD ENOUGH OR WILL EMBARRASS THEMSELVES. OTHERS FEEL LIKE THEY WILL IRRITATE OR PISS PEOPLE OFF. AND SOME FEAR REJECTION OR NEGATIVE OPINIONS.

WHATEVER YOU FEEL, KNOW THAT YOU DON'T NEED TO WORRY SO MUCH ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF YOU, BECAUSE CHANCES ARE, THEY DON'T......NOT UNLESS YOU GIVE THEM A REASON TO. IF YOU HIDE YOUR PERSONALITY TOO MUCH AND WITHDRAW, PEOPLE ASSUME YOU'RE ALOOF OR STUCK UP. IF YOU JUDGE YOURSELF TOO HARSHLY, OTHERS WILL, TOO.

BE FRIENDLY AND EXTROVERTED. SMILE ALL THE TIME (PEOPLE WILL WONDER WHAT YOU'RE THINKING). THE WAY TO GET GOOD ATTENTION IS TO GIVE IT. PRETEND EVERYONE LOVES YOU, AND GIVE EVERY OTHER PERSON YOU ENCOUNTER, A COMPLIMENT ON SOMETHING SPECIFIC. REALLY....THIS WORKS. TRY TO GET PEOPLE TO SMILE AND MAKE EYE CONTACT. PRETEND THAT OTHERS ARE EVEN MORE NERVOUS THAN YOURSELF, AND PUT THEM AT EASE BY SHOWING THEM YOU WILL NOT JUDGE THEM HARSHLY, BUT RATHER YOU NOTICE THEIR ATTRIBUTES....

NOTICE ONE GOOD THING ABOUT EVERYONE (NOT JUST GOOD LOOKS, BUT TALENT, SKILL, CHARACTER TRAITS, TOO) AND POINT IT OUT TO THEM.

EVERYONE WANTS THE SAME THING. WE ALL WANT TO BE THOUGHT OF IN A FAVORABLE LIGHT. WE WANT TO BE SEEN AS SUCCESSFUL, SKILLED, DESIRABLE, INTELLIGENT, POWERFUL, ENGAGING, TALENTED, THOUGHTFUL, UNIQUE, AND SAUGHT AFTER. ....

REMEMBER, YOU DON'T NEED EVERYONE'S APPROVAL. YOU WOULDN'T GET IT ANYWAY. YOU CAN'T PLEASE EVERYONE. AND WHO CARES ABOUT THE APPROVAL OF PEOPLE YOU DON'T KNOW, CARE ABOUT, AND WILL NEVER SEE AGAIN?

ASK PEOPLE ABOUT THINGS, AND THEMSELVES. OPEN WITH A COMPLIMENT. PEOPLE LIKE IT WHEN YOU CARE ABOUT WHAT THEY THINK ABOUT THINGS (ESPECIALLY GIRLS). THEN PROCEED WITH A QUESTION....

TRY THIS "I REALLY LIKE YOUR STYLE. WHERE DO YOU GET YOUR INSPIRATION?" OR "I REALLY THOUGHT WHAT YOU SAID IN CLASS WAS THOUGHTFUL. WHAT'S YOUR TAKE ON .....?" "WOW! YOU ARE REALLY GOOD AT THAT! CAN YOU SHOW ME HOW TO DO IT?" "HEY, I SAW THAT BOOK AT BORDER'S.....WHAT DO YOU THINK OF IT SO FAR?"

SEE WHERE I AM GOING WITH THIS? IT CAN BE A RUSH TO JUST GET OUT THERE AND FACE IT. SOCIALIZING WILL COME NATURALLY AFTER A WHILE.....

SO QUIT HIDING YOUR PERSONALITY BEHIND YOUR PERCEIVED SHORTCOMINGS. WHEN YOU FORGET ABOUT YOURSELF, AND FOCUS ON OTHERS AND BEGIN DRAWING THEIR PERSONALITY OUT, YOU WILL BEGIN TO FEEL MORE WELCOME IN THE WORLD.

AS FAR AS CONFIDENCE GOES....MASTER A SKILL OR TALENT (MARTIAL ART, SPORT, BILLIARDS, SALSA DANCING, DARTS, ETC). MASTERING SKILLS BUILDS YOU UP AND MAKES YOU MORE INTERESTING. IT GIVES YOU CONFIDENCE, AND IT IS SOMETHING YOU CAN SHARE WITH OTHERS.

DON'T RELY ON DRUGS, ALCOHOL, OR STUPID TECHNIQUES THAT FOCUS ON YOU. THE BEST THING IS TO NOT FOCUS ON YOURSELF, BUT ON OTHERS. REMEMBER ALL PEOPLE WANT TO BE NOTICED FOR SOMETHING GOOD, SO LET THEM KNOW YOU NOTICED.

YOU WILL GAIN POPULARITY WHEN PEOPLE FEEL GOOD ABOUT THEMSELVES AROUND YOU.
TAKE CARE!

Answer 2

Dealing with social anxiety for a couple years I find the best way is to take baby steps. Try doing something you wouldn't normally do, have someone with you that you feel comfortable with so they can support you if need be. Try doing the task and if you can't do it stop and try again another time. Once you complete something it feels great and it will help you relax more when you try other tasks. Don't let anyone push you into because that can back fire and make it worse this is something that your going to need control over so make sure to tell who ever is with you.

Answer 3

visualize yourself talking to be people and being calm, don't think so much when you actually do go out. Just do it, like a machine. Believe that you can over come it, but don't just say that, i mean really convince your self you can do it and that nothing will stop you.

Also get some confidence. The way you do this is to convince yourself you can do what ever it is you want. YOU are in control of your anxiety. Its not the other way around. Once you go out there and are able to do it, you gotta keep on doing it.

But start out slow and work your way up with he size of the crowed.

I had the same problem and it kept me from being who i wanted to be. I lived by the tips i just gave you and i was able to do exactly what i dreamed of, and now I'm in the USMC Special Operations.

Remember like a machine, just do it, there is nothing stopping you but you.

Answer 4

Dont think about going. Get stuff ready quickly and then watch TV or distract yourself and think about anything else. Get caught up in watching a programme or listening to music. Put an alarm on your phone or somewhere and as soon as it goes off, get your bag and rush out the door. shut the door behind you and continue walking/driving to wherever your going. I have pretty much the same problem and if i just do this then I find I have to go out, because I can't just walk back into my house. Once i get out of my house it takes me a few breaths and a few steps but then im over it and i go quickly to where im going.

Answer 5

Hang around loving and accepting people.
There are a lot of people that give off anxious vibes-stay away from them. Negative energy creates anxiety. When you are in a situation that breeds safety and acceptance you will feel it.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

It is all in your thought. You have to change the way you think. It is not easy. Anxiety can be overcome.

Answer 8

Socialize. As often as you can. Yeah, it takes courage, but you can do it. Talk to people whenever you have a chance.

Answer 9

try breathing exercises. try holisticonline.com. for thinking try concentration.org. also try more-selfesteem.com. try socialanxietysupport.com. try imagining something pleasant.