I am overweight but I see plenty of big women with husbands, how can I find or meet a good guy. I get sad when I see couples and I wonder what is wrong with me how come nobody wants me? I am a nice person clean and decent so what is wrong, why can't I get a good man?
2006-08-18 13:15:59 · 13 answers · asked by Joanne C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok first of all don't try adult friend finder. That's a porno site for the depraved and desperate.
Did you try E Harmony? They have a different approach to on-line dating. You don't even see the other person's picture until you've answered some questions and seen whether or not your compatible.
Check it out and don't be sad.
Losing some weight could be good for you too.
It would make you more attractive to the opposite sex, make you healthier and give your self esteem a serious boost!
But that's a whole nother topic.
For now look into EHarmony.
It really might be the answer, you do sound like a nice person.
So here ya go: http://www.eharmony.com/?cid=1283&aid=4002&GCID=C14727x017
2006-08-18 13:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by perfecttiming1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why start with a put-down> You're a hard-working, observant, introspective person with a lot to offer....stop looking at happy couples (unless they have single friends), and...
1) put on some snappy shoes (in other words, no frumpiness. Buy In-style for Fall Tips).
2) go to church, synagogue, town meetings - places that are frequented by interesting, sincere, committed people. You'll also become current so that when you ....
3) go grocery shopping, to Home Depot, or to the Community Fair, you'll have things to talk about and become the interesting person you are.
No tv. It numbs the brain. Walk, and notice nature. Sign up for hikes, etc. through local nature center. Spend time with happy girlfriends who are not desperate for men...it shows, and men smell it, and it depresses all the women who sit and moan about it.
You can get a good man by being a good woman - now, get out there and go to get some new kicks! (red is hot this season - and how about a pedicure?). Self-valuation is key to projecting a positive image that draws others in. Believe in yourself, and stop over-thinking your own situation. Help others in need and you'll find your troubles melt away.....And write back when you see progress!!
2006-08-18 13:26:32 · answer #2 · answered by MJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you're responsible and independent, so let me ask you this, have you tried just going out for fun, like picking up guys in a bar or starting something that's NOT serious? Take a cue from the way guys act. Lots of guys even nice good ones love a girl who is confident and forward and throws a little money around, and acts carefree. As long as you make sure you put safety first, you could have a good time despite yourself.
For lots of people, one-night-stands and random hook-ups end up being serious relationships and sometimes marriage. In the meantime you can have fun and practice your skills in conversation and seduction etc....
I'm not saying to disrespect yourself, but maybe taking the approach that "im going to have a lot of fun and when I have fun I'm happy and when I'm happy I'm going to attract good people to me." is a good one to adopt here.
Good luck and keep positive. Very few people with perfect bodies out here.
2006-08-18 13:27:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
joina book club, a charity, a church etc. Get into the real world and you will find a guy. Losing weight may help too, not just because you may look better (I don't know how big you are), but if you show you care about yourself then others will see that and respond in kind. But don't do it just to get a man, do it for yourself, and a man will just be an extra perk!
2006-08-18 13:22:09 · answer #4 · answered by parental unit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you have to change your attitude. Men are attracted to confidence. Even if you are overweight, you can get healthy by a reasonable diet and moderate exercise (i.e. walking). Learn how to use makeup and clothing to make yourself look and feel better. There are a lot of men who are attracted to "voluptuous" women, but very few who are attracted to women (fat or skinny) with low self esteem.
Lastly, find out what your best feature is (hair, smile, breasts, cooking, etc.) and WORK IT GIRL!!!!
2006-08-18 13:24:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to more clubs or whatever you do for fun and focus on having a good time as opposed to finding a mate. That takes off a lot of stress, hell don't worry about it. Why do you want a relationship? It's just another time killer. You'll just have less time and money for yourself. Relationships...bah.
2006-08-18 13:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by practical thinking 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had the answer because I am in the same situation.
2006-08-18 13:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by Gizmo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get out more.. go to parties, movies to maybe poetry cafe's... anything that gets you out and about to increase your chances of meeting someone... and maybe then you'll find someone worth while.
2006-08-18 13:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by kitkool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer, unfortunately. Aren't people vapid?
2006-08-18 13:20:35 · answer #9 · answered by Johnny P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Post your pic. Its a start
2006-08-18 13:20:40 · answer #10 · answered by Phil P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋