my boyfriend is in the hospital and is dying of cancer. his dad is jealous because i (not trying to be conceited i swear) make him so happy. His parents are insane and put a restriction on his name so i cannot find out what hospital he is at to visit him, and i can't call him because his dad took his phone away so he couldn't talk to me. His parents actually went on a vacation in Alaska (but not until AFTER yelling at him and telling him he was ruining their lives by being sick all the time. as if he ASKED to get stomach cancer..) so now i cannot find out where he is, the nurses wont tell him anything, his sister and all his friends have no clue where he is and are restricted from talking to me and he is going to be all alone until the 26! he need company! what if he loses hope and just gives up? i need to see him and dont know what to do PLEASE HELP ME. im going frantic!
2006-08-18 13:08:54 · 21 answers · asked by chikka 5 in Health ➔ Other - Health
he is 18 and thank you so much to everyone who has answered so far, i'm going to try as many things that you suggest as i feel i can manage!
2006-08-18 17:40:32 · update #1
I had a very good friend die from stomach cancer on August 3rd.
She was only 37 and left a 13--8--and a 1 year old. I feel so bad for the family.
I think what they are doing is absolutely insane. If this guy ever needed anyone by gum it is now. His parents have the right to do what they want but ( BUT ) I feel their should be a limit to that because the boy is 18. If he has ask to see you, then by all means his parents should at least grant his wishes. The survival rate of stomach cancer is very low.
Anything that he wants, it should be granted, no matter what it is. And for the parents to say he is ruining their lives if the most asinine thing I have heard of in a long time. If that is the case, why do they even have a family??
Believe me, his sisters and his friends now exactly where he is and how he is doing. Especially the family. I feel they are doing you very, very wrong.
I wish him the best and I do hope you get to see him again. God bless the both of you.
2006-08-26 07:22:15 · answer #1 · answered by whenwhalesfly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call all the hospitals in the area. Speak to the front desk.
Also try to find hospitals in the Yellow pages, that specialize in oncology(cancer).
Tell whoever answers the phone, that you are his sister. Use her name or his mothers name. Even make up a name if you have to but use his last name. No one will check. I know. I'm an RN, in a hospital.
They won't know the ages of the patients, just the name and the room they are in. Tell that person, you forgot what room he is in. They will either give you the room number or say, "He is not a patient here"> That would be true. They wouldn't lie.
Keep calling until you get his room number.
All rooms have a phone next to the bed. You can call his room by telling them to patch you through or you can go to where he is and just go to his room.
I don't know how old you are, so I'm going to tell you this in case you didn't know.
The first number of his room number is the same as the floor he is on.
Good Luck, Sweetheart.
2006-08-18 20:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by Molly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off I'm sorry to hear that he has cancer I know it is very hard to go through. If your boyfriend is under 18 there is nothing that you or anyone else can do because he is still a minor in the law's eyes. If his parent's really say all that to him that is mental abuise and someone should report his parents to a social worker so that he can get the help that he needs. IF he is over 18 he needs to talk to a lawyer because his parents cannot do that if he doesn't waht it to happen unless he is deamed not mentally able to make his own mind. I hope this helps.
2006-08-18 20:18:37 · answer #3 · answered by schnees7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everything you said is true then you should tell everyone you know about these parents. Write a letter to every hospital telling your story. Surely your boyfriend knows how to get in touch with you doesn't he? I find it hard to believe that his sister doesn't even know where he is? Something is very strange? Has something happened in the past to make this family not trust you? Like I said I would write a letter to each hospital. Do you not know the name of his Dr.? Good luck. I am very sorry for your situation.
2006-08-26 09:56:36 · answer #4 · answered by keepingthefaith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are really out of luck. If he is under age, there is nothing you can do. His parents are within their rights to restrict anyone they want from seeing him.
You can go from hospital to hospital and ask at the information desk for his room number. Usually the people at the desk are volunteers and they will just tell you. Just look like you belong there. They cannot just keep moving him from hospital to hospital.
2006-08-18 20:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by ARE YOUR NEWFS GELLIN'? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has he tried to call you? did you try calling all the local hospitals?how awfull i would be a reck too,why would his parents do that to their son who is dying do they not have a chaos? i would call everyone he knew to try to find out and if that doesn't lead anywhere i would have a serious talk with his parents and let them know that you love him as much as they do and you would really like to be with him at the time where he needs everyone he can get.dont give up on him!if you did you will regret it for the rest of your life.i would kiss his parents butt even though you shouldn't have to so that you can see hI'm im so sorry you would have to go through that good luck.
2006-08-18 20:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by happy-go-lucky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly how old are you both. You could hanging out around the hospital find out where the cancer ward is and ask other patients if your boyfriend is there other than that I don't know what else to try
2006-08-18 20:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not believe how selfish his parents are being. Not to speak of heartless. I don't know what to tell you concerning finding out where he is at. I am sure that he knows that you are thinking of him. I hope you do find him so that he doesn't have to spend the rest of his life alone. I am glad that you love him the way that you do. Just try to keep the faith and pray for him as much as you can. I am so sorry for your situation. I really hope you find him.
2006-08-26 18:29:26 · answer #8 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you!! I've een thinking of a few places to contact so that your boufriend can be out from under his parent's care and independent - and of course free to see his loved ones. Please check out
Dept of Children & Family Services, a social worker in any hospital, any lawyer, a social worker in the police dept/ court house, how about a teacher from his high school, any adult family friends. He needs TLC now - not his parents' BS. The suggestion about calling all the local hospitals and just say you're his sister sounded good.Hurry, make those calls. I think we all send our best to you. HUGS!
2006-08-23 02:29:01 · answer #9 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry my dear i never came across these type of questions and i can understand ur pain towards him, Try to find out his relatives or friends and whomever know's about him.
I don't understand why his parents are behaiving like this,they should feel happy about you.
Try to find out in every hospital in ur City/Town,And i will pray for you i know you will definately meet him soon. GOOD LUCK.
2006-08-26 00:18:12 · answer #10 · answered by NANI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋