I'm in my friend's wedding and I'm the one that is giving her a bridal shower. Do I need to buy a gift for both the shower and the wedding? I would be happy too, but I don't want to anyone to think that I think that I'm better then them. I want to do the right thing. Please help!
2006-08-18 13:02:24 · 16 answers · asked by heavy_d_19 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Dont let it bother you what any one else thinks about you giving your friend gifts. After all this is a special occasion for your friend and you want her to have the best shower and wedding day you can give her. Your gifts dont need to be ellegant just special and from the heart!!! May I suggest for the shower, Have everyone bring a recipe and along with the recipe have them bring the ingrediants. For example my friend just had a bridal shower and I made a recipe card and I got a foil pan and the the ingrediants, That werent pereishable, and wrapped them up in the pan along with some cooking utensils and kitchen towels. This way everyone is bringing something different but no one out does each other, of course you can tell everyone that any gift is welcome. Its just a fun idea. I also was in my friends wedding and I got her a nice gift for her wedding day as well. MY point is, is that you dont have to out do everybody just do something that is from your heart. And the only person it will matter to is your friend who is getting married!
2006-08-18 13:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by spencerluck2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never have to buy a gift for the shower AND the wedding. People bring gifts to the wedding only if they did not go to the shower or send the gift. But since you are giving the shower, you should have a hostess gift that everyone who is helping with the shower pitches in on, like the china.
2006-08-20 13:37:04 · answer #2 · answered by KMSMT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should buy a shower gift and a wedding gift. If you feel a little funny about buying a shower gift, just give her a gift card/certificate in a nice card.
2006-08-22 12:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by Linda M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do buy a gift in addition to giving the bridal shower. Also, you give a wedding gift. If you were not standing up to her wedding, wouldn't you purchase a gift for both?
2006-08-18 20:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by mamaross 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is certainly acceptable if you do decide to give presents for both but definitely not required. Maybe just make the shower gift something small. If she has registered for coasters or napkin rings, than something simple like that would suffice for the shower gift. If this is her first shower and she isn't super organized you could get her a book so that the presents she does get are written down for when she sends out thank you cards.
2006-08-19 08:01:18 · answer #5 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, 2 gifts. It is not because you are in the wedding or hosting the shower, but if you are invited to a shower, you give one gift and then a wedding gift. I think it stinks, but that's how it goes.
2006-08-18 20:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by goofnwfy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone that came to my shower & wedding brought me a gift to both. those that couldn't make the wedding but could make the shower brought a shower gift to the shower as well as a wedding gift
most of the shower gift were smaller thoughtful gifts from my family. (old family pics in a scrapbook). the ones from friends were smaller things from my registry.
i don't know if it's "required" to bring one to both, but it's the thought that counts either way!
2006-08-19 03:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by kiki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gifts are required from everyone participating in a shower, and it has to be a physical gift, not money or giftcards. ALL OTHER GIFTS are optional, you can gift again at wedding time (wedding gift is not brought to reception-- it is shipped to bride's home) if you want to.
2006-08-18 23:55:04 · answer #8 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a joke gift for the shower, then a great gift for the wedding
2006-08-18 20:09:08 · answer #9 · answered by bricabrac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should give a gift for both. Maybe give a bigger gift for the shower and a smaller gift for the wedding.
2006-08-18 20:10:50 · answer #10 · answered by Dorothy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋