my boyfriend and i have been together 3 years , i already had kids when we met n we have a child together . we have been through a lot together , recently we have been arguin a lot n a bout anythin , im sick of it . help please .
2006-08-18 12:20:56 · 24 answers · asked by lancaster_hayley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like you two just need some time apart for a little while. Just get out of each other's hair. Time apart usually works wonders unless you two are just tired of each other and don't want to work anything out.
2006-08-18 12:25:01 · answer #1 · answered by MariLin♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you've only been arguing recently, so something must have happened "recently" to make things change. Sit down and talk it out. There's a child involved and your kids that you previously had must be close to him as well. If you need counseling seek it out. Try to make things work out if you can. If you can't then you can't. But if, I were you for the sake of the children and the 2 plus good years you did have, I would try to save the relationship.
2006-08-18 12:31:16 · answer #2 · answered by Phyllobates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do feel for you. I was in the same situation. I had two children when i met my present husband and we then went on to have twins and we went through a really rough patch. A lot of it was because of step-families. It is hard but we have been together 13 years now and its great but it takes a lot of hard work on everyones part but dont give up,......communication is the key keep talking
2006-08-22 07:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can go and live with your parents do so. What you are doing right now is bad for the kids. You are teaching your kids it is ok to live together and it really is not. Your arguments are destructive for the kids also. Whether you move back with your parents or stay with this man, I hope you will consider getting couples counseling. Do it for yourself and for the children. You could try talking to your pastor. That might be a big help. Please take care of yourself and your children.
2006-08-18 12:28:27 · answer #4 · answered by papricka w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him (nicely) if you too can't sort things out you might be better off alone with your kids...he can stay in your life because you have a child together, but don't let that fact be in the way in making any decisions. Happy families are healthy families...
2006-08-22 05:05:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anna N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having young children can be stressful, especially if you also have to accept someone elses. not saying that he can't love your other children, but it does take a special man to do so.
both of you may have some baggage to deal with,and from your side you should work on yours. to argue so much could mean that you have some nager issues to deal with. accept that it takes 2 and be willing to make changes. it will be worth it.
2006-08-21 13:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by saywot? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a break from eachother- then get away together to rekindle the romance- but you have to really wanna make the situation better for it to work- both of you do
2006-08-18 12:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by shannon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to each other, you cant go on in a relationship like this, or it will get worse and you have a child to think about. explain your reasons for why you argued with him and ask him to explain his. then go away for a weekend with him for a "make or break" weekend
2006-08-18 12:30:48 · answer #8 · answered by jemma b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hit him in the face with a frying pan just like good old Pauline! then sleep with his best friend hell soon get the message moody git!
2006-08-20 09:07:35 · answer #9 · answered by pooonmywellies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOOOOH EXPERIENCED AT THIS JUS WHEN A ARGUEMENT BREAKS OUT JUST SAY IN A LOW TONE IN NOT ARGING WITH YOU IN A COOL TONE IF THEY INTERUPT LET THEM WAFFLE ON AND SIMPLY REPEAT AFTER THEYVE STOPPED
2006-08-22 05:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by ASHLEIGH H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋