I met a girl I really like, and I want to spend as much time as I can talking and hanging out with her. The problem is she doesn't exactly share those same ideas with me. She has a life and a job and such, and I have no life period. I remain logged in to AIM all day just to talk with her. I arranged so that I would have a sinign lesson right before her's so I could she her once a week. I have to ressit the urge to calll her phone. we're not dating, but I fear she likes someone else always, and I fear that she doesn't like me, either the way I like her or just hates me all together.
Am I obessed with this girl? Am I a little too desperate for love? How can I spend time with her but keep it slow and less obessed. How do I control my feelings towards her? How can I overcome my fears about her feelings towards me? And is there anyway I can tell if she likes else?
2006-08-18 11:54:51 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is terrible i cannot believe you stay logged on all day to chat with her or wait for her to come online. Just to let you know she does notice these things. Also people know when someone is obsessed about them and that can be an awkward feeling. She also knows that you arranged your singing time to go right along with hers if anything i would say you are pushing her away from you. Try not to be so obvious with it it'll only get worst if you do, I won't even tell you to occupy your time because that won't work what I will suggest is find someone else in the meantime to conversate with and maybe you may realize that this girl isn't all that anyways. Because if you are feeling this way about her and not seeing anything in return more likely it will stay like that. Find someone who is interested in you as well. Wanting someone so badly and not being able to have them SUCKS!! All in all you will get over her tell yourself that she's not all that anyways. Do what's right for you. You have to keep yourself happy and right now you're not..
2006-08-18 12:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by MariLin♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe too desperate for love which is why you are obsessed.
This girl is being nice to you probably because she is just a nice pereson. Since her feelings are not mutual you should find solace in the fact that she likes you enough to not tell you to leave her alone and MAYBE considers you a friend.
If you keep on obsessing and do something creepy (stalking) she will cut you off completely.
2006-08-18 12:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by TCarrizal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an obsession, my advice, try as hard as you can to move on. Shes not the world, you can try to give her up. Trust me, I know what you are going through... You should waste so much emotion on a being that will probably never return those feelings. I'm very sorry, but you have to move on. You'll look back on this someday as a big mistake. But keep your chin up, and look around. There will be someone else...
2006-08-18 12:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you're bordering on obsessed. If you really liked her, you'd just want her to be happy, even if that meant she was with someone else. And you'd be happy with just being her friend. Don't take this the wrong way; I'm completely serious; get a life. Find a hobby. If you find that you don't do anything but think about her or try to see her, that's a bad thing. Then you're bordering on anti-social and stalkerish tendencies. If this becomes the case, please see a therapist, for your sake and hers.
2006-08-18 12:01:41 · answer #4 · answered by Nuwanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not trying to sound mean but dont you think she wants more out of a boyfriend than someone who sits home all day doing nothing but webbing. honey thats not attractive to women by no means . do you have a job? other friends? most women do not prefer clingy men, we like for you to have things to do than just being attached to our hips . yes you are obsessed , yes you are desperate too. You need to get involved in your own life start making one for yourself and maybe that will catch her interest and at least you will have something to offer her than just yourself. If you would give her the chance to chase you a little she just might . dont be pushy .
2006-08-18 12:09:55 · answer #5 · answered by purpleartof5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a stalker to me, pal. In this day and age.....you had better cool it and stop bothering her. She is not into you so you need to move on! Stay away from her....change the singing lessons.....stay off of AIM (whatever that is) and plain leave her alone sincce you may end up in jail!!!!
2006-08-18 12:03:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you tell her you like her?
yes you are a little obsessed but you are in love and thats just how it goes.
Just tell her! if she doesnt like you that way then move on
shes gonna be freaked out by you because you sorta sound like a stalker
2006-08-18 12:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by Flafibopsicles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yipes... first of all, how old are you?
I wouldn't use the term 'obsessed' but you certainly seem a little preoccupied with her. Take a deep breath and let the chips fall where they may.
2006-08-18 12:00:37 · answer #8 · answered by ceesvamp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds kinda like my friend. well u should hang out with her. dont be online all the time b/c it would seem to the girl that u have no life. try to arrange to hang out. thats what id do
2006-08-18 11:59:33 · answer #9 · answered by polakio92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seem it up on the cosmo web site and google on the thanks to charm a lady or the thanks to win a lady over. each lady is diverse. For awhile, i'd play it cool. Do diffused issues. like you reported, your in a set and if issues get weird and wonderful between you, it is going to get weird and wonderful for each individual finally.
2016-11-26 00:45:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋