I have a husband and three boys. 17, 13, and 10. not a one of them can aim wortha t d*** if you know what I mean and they all have the attitude get off my back and leave me alone, I am stuck in this messy house. If I do the cleaning I don't teach them how to do it. if I make them do it it looks like crap.
2006-08-18 10:54:43 · 18 answers · asked by memorris900 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have five kids who I can't get to do jack squat around here partly because some of them are so young and partly because their dad showed them how to be lazy.....plus I suffer from seizures, migraines and severe bouts of depression and anxiety....
If anyone gets a party its me....and I don't want a pity one either because I don't get any fun!!!!! I want a real PAR_TAY thank you!!! Because I never get out of this messy house that I have to clean!!!!! You could always have it worse trust me! You could be me!
2006-08-18 11:20:28 · answer #1 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother had the same problem with me to be honest. I never used to clean up my room and leave crap lying around like i owned the place. My mother being Polish and raised VERY strictly.... didn't like my thinking, so she changed it.
At first she would take away ALL my privalages, from T.V. to even going out, to the worst: taking away my sheets from my mattress and giving me a very slim comforter.
And i wouldn't get anything back until i cleaned up, but not only cleaned but also to my mother's liking. Everytime I would clean up, she would come in and "inspect" everything, after which she would suggest if something wasn't clean or properly cleaned that i redo it.
This worked very well, and I now know not to leave anything on the floor.
But also, my mother was one that wouldn't take any mouth from me. *Even when I did call child protection, she told them that "if they wanted to raise me, then take him, if not, get out of my house"*. So you also have to teach the children that THEY are the children and you are the mom.
*EDIT: and everyone else here seems to be asses to you, so just try what I said and see if it works, people these days need to freakin be nicer to others...*
2006-08-18 11:04:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't feel sorry for you. I think you need to spend more time thinking of solutions, than complaining is all. A little less conversation, a little more action. Instead perphaps you could give them rewards with things they like when they be more cleanly around the house. Other than that, you should just pull back some of their luxuries. Don't punish them, just take away a few luxuries that they have around the house that they don't have to. Simply explain that you feel it to be the perfect compensation for having to play maid all the time. The more choices you allow them to have (with your desired outcome at the end of all of them of course) the more cooperation you're likely to have with them. People who have choices feel like they have more power over the situation. That's where you can start.
2006-08-18 11:03:51 · answer #3 · answered by Answerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, my honest opinion is that you should have taken action a decade or so ago!
The thing that never occurs to parents is that they are raising husbands and wives.
I do feel bad for you, but you reap what you sow! That's the hard truth of it.
2006-08-18 11:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by Chris M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey, i don't pity you one bit. i got me this man who was born filthy! and all 8 of our boys are filthy pigs. if they want something clean, then by god they clean it themselves cause i am not their maid! they think that they come in this world for me to wait on them hand and foot, well i don't see it that there way... i had them to do my chores. and i figure when the last one moves out, i'll just fire me up my backhoe and bulldoze the crap out of my front yard and such.
2006-08-18 11:13:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow we reap what we sow. You helped create those monsters. Now at this stage you are trying to change them? You should change your name from "Mom" to "Matt" as in door-mat. Good luck sister, you're on your own. I bet you didn't believe in spanking, now you kinda wish ya had.
2006-08-18 11:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by Tanya N (thesingingbeaner) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the smart thing. I taught my son to SIT WHILE PEEING. no mess:D and if he doesnt clean his room his toys go to the garbage. simple as that. He learned pretty fast.
2006-08-18 11:04:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats men for you i'm afraid, if it were me i'd chuck all there things out the window or door and say "there i've cleaned up"
2006-08-18 11:01:28 · answer #8 · answered by missy minx 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I think you've really gone about venting the wrong way. If there's one thing people hate, it's someone throwing their very own pity-party.
2006-08-18 10:59:37 · answer #9 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't feel sorry for anyone who raised those boys to be like that.
2006-08-18 11:00:13 · answer #10 · answered by Catspaw 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋