My ex boyfriend and I have maintained a somewhatl friendship based on the length of history we shared together. He is now in an exclusive relationship with another woman. On occasion we will talk on the phone. I usually ask about his family, catch up on what's new in his life, etc. Back in April he invited me to spend the night at his place because he stated he missed me. He made it clear to me that we would be sleeping in separate rooms. I said that he wanted to see what he was missing....and he said, that he really did miss me. I declined his offer. Just a few weeks ago I spoke to him on the phone on two separate occassions, asking him for advise about problems I am going through with my family. He told me he loved me and missed me, and then he said he was sexually aroused listening to my sexy voice. I did not say anything to invite his sexy talk. Do you consider what he did as cheating on his current girlfriend? I should mention he is 56 and I'm 49, both not teens-agers.
2006-08-18 10:46:35 · 25 answers · asked by littleflower_57 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes... or at least an attempt to get you to be the other woman. i would make the relationship clear to him, platonic.
2006-08-18 10:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Even if you were both teens talking is never cheating. Cheating is when someone in a realationship has sex, spends a lot of time with, or spends a lot of money on someone else. I'm married but at work I often talk the talk with other women but always make it clear that it's just talk. Everyone that knows me knows that I'm married.
2006-08-18 10:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by Mario 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the fact that you ask the questions says that you have your own doubts. Look at this way. If you were still with him and he was doing the same thing with someone else and you found out about it......... Would you be upset?? Chances are you would not want your man talking sex with another woman and telling her he was aroused. You should be old enough to know by now that men say what women want to hear and they say it to which ever one they are talking too. Another bet, he tells his current girlfriend that he NEVER talks or sees you ha!
2006-08-18 10:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by katrina64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you think of it in this manner. If you and he were together & he was saying these sames things to an ex-girlfriend (and obviously hiding that fact from you) and somehow you found out about it, how would you feel? Lied to, betrayed, hurt? I would think so. You should tell him that unless he ceases speaking in that manner to you that you don't want to talk to him anymore. Why would you want to be friends with someone who could lie to another woman (who he probably tells he loves)?
2006-08-18 11:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by aka Astra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its great that u and your ex have maintained a friendship. i guess he is not happy in his current relationship or he wouldn't be telling u that he loved u and missed u . my guess is that he wants u back real bad his currant relationship is not what he expected and he realiized he missed u and is happier with u. f and what he is doing is not cheating he wants u back and he doen't know how to tell u
2006-08-18 12:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not physically cheating but in it's own form what he is doing is cheating. He should decide what he wants, but if he wants you back always remember that he is an ex for a reason.
2006-08-18 10:53:05 · answer #6 · answered by stormysunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's totally setting the stage to cheat. He's got one foot out the door and he's on the prowl. It's sad really. Stay away!
2006-08-18 10:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know this is wrong right? I am not a teenager either and
I know we all get mixed up am I doing the right thing confused by .our desires and what thrills us..
how would you feel in his G/F spot JMO
hope this all work out
2006-08-18 11:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by candiesman05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know maybe he's got a young girlfriend and he just wants to get some. it's a good thing u declined his offer he could of raped you
2006-08-18 10:53:10 · answer #9 · answered by priestrada 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 say you need to think about that because sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too.Most man want to keep doing there ex and still be with there women but girl i say no because your going to settlle for less always he probably still love you but way is he there i think he just wants sex.Its not wroth the hurt all over again.For one night.Keep it real and tell him no.
2006-08-18 11:09:05 · answer #10 · answered by summer35 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋