2006-08-18 10:00:43 · 6 answers · asked by Tita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Perhaps yes. I'm assuming he married you after you already had a kid or more. Most people that haven't had kids of their own don't realize how difficult it is to deal with children daily. Kids all think they're the center of the universe and don't care if he's had a tough day at work. They want what they want NOW. hehe So yeah I can understand him being strict and tough at first. He'll realize it takes a lot of patience and dedication to get through it without losing all his hair. If he doesn't seem to be adjusting to being a dad, find a family counselor. That might not be a bad idea right now in fact. It would certainly help make the transition for him a lot easier and might help your kid(s) accept him as a controlling/caring force in their life. It'll also help you feel that you don't have to run interference between him and the young ones.
2006-08-18 10:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by cricket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has sometimes been really snappy with our boy and I remind him to think about the situation from the child's perspective and how you want that child to remember you. I think it's important to have rules and boundaries and stick to them dilligently, but enforcing those rules doesn't have to be violent or loud. In fact, when you leave harsh emotions out of teaching your child and teach them with positive reinforcement, they respond better and have more self confidence. Life is all about learning and teaching, kids need help learning about life with a positive spin and then they can grow into people that teach their children in a kind way. That doesn't mean your husband should be a push over, by all means he should be on the same page with you regarding what rules the kids have to follow and you need to allow him to have input on those rules, but enforcing those rules doesn't have to be in a mean way.
2006-08-18 10:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by CMW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well is he in the military????? My husband is the same....the only thing I can say is people usually raise their kids the same way they were raised....I would say it's normal if he's not abusing them and if what ever he is doing works with keeping the child/children disciplined.
2006-08-18 10:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by Cookie48 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My father was very strict with me. And I didn't turn into a skanky pregnant teen with no education and no future.
2006-08-18 10:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
now is he tough on the baby,them he is not normal. he needs help.
2006-08-18 11:08:18 · answer #5 · answered by horseknickers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure - you're just learning; there is no instruction book.
2006-08-18 10:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by ceprn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋