I Have two boys aged 3 and 4 and a little girl of 9 months. I am 28 years old and cant decide if I want another baby before I am 30 !!
2006-08-18 10:00:31 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Ultimately it's your choice, just take your time over thinking about it as you do have plenty more time to have another child. Also don't feel that you have to complete your family before you are 30. I am thirty now and have 3 children , I would dearly love one more child to complete our family but know that now is not the time and although I don't want to leave it too late in my life I don't intend to have one just yet and would prefer to wait a couple of years . I wish you all the best with whatever you do decide.
2006-08-18 10:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by TB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you afford another baby?
Do you have the time and resources for one withouth taking anything away from the children you already have? Is your house big enough and can you afford to move if it is not? Can you afford the childcare or to support another child on one wage? Children are not just an accessory, you have to cut your coat according to your cloth.
And as for "before I'm 30" - whats the rush? I'm having my first at 34!
My mum had her two children at 36 and 42!
You don't have to do it all before you're 30 no matter what the old wives say. Maybe 60 years ago when medical care was less advanced and women were in general less healthy it made sense to have your children earlier (and even then my grandmother had three perfectly healthy children in her 30s!) but plenty of women don't even start their families till much later now.
Oh and btw before anyone says "older mums" have more risk of birth defects etc, me and my brother were born to an older mum with no problems at all, she had easier pregnancies and labours than most of the 20 year olds she was in hospital with!!! I also know a woman who had a downs syndrome baby when she was in her early 20s so you can't blame everything on age! I've tested low risk for downs.
2006-08-18 10:24:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 2 boys and i sometimes think i might want another then they give me a bad day so that normally puts me off! only jokin. really i want some of my life back my eldest is 4 the other is 19mths, i sometimes would like a girl but i also want to get re-trained and go back to work. it would mean getting a bigger car, and the boys sharing a room to make space for a little one. i look at it as not practical, we're happy with where we're living and no more sleepless nights (well not many anyway). we got a dog instead. if you want another and you could manage another. then it's your life, but dont panic about doing it before 30. i'm 22 and i've had my lot already. but i have a limit also as i don't want my kids to be too far apart in age, so mine is 25. anyway good luck.
2006-08-18 10:14:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the timing and money is right, I say go for it. I'm 33 and have a 6 year old boy , 4 year old girl, and a 15 month old boy. Due again in February with #4. I'm glad about how the ages work out for all of them.
2006-08-18 13:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by dj1973 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 11:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was always told to have babies while you're young...i now have 5 (I'm 30). if you feel like you can handle another baby in another year or two, i say go for it! i believe babies are a blessing as well as God's way of allowing your soul to go on...i also have a 9 mth old little girl. are they not the cutest? 3 is difficult, 4 is challenging, but if you WANT it, then it'll seem like a piece of cake...hope i helped a little
2006-08-18 10:09:57 · answer #6 · answered by cheez 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im 21 and have 2 kids 4 and 1 yr and i was thinking about having another now or later but the more i think about it pretty soon my kids will both be in school and i will have more alone time with my husband and more me time.all of my driends are having babies and i feel left out scince mine are older.but i think in the long run i will be happier with my two daughters i have now.i want to finish college and become an RN. but if you are a stay ayt home mom or can handle having more kids and have plenty of money and time to do then i guess i would.i love babies but for me 2 is good. :)
2006-08-18 14:11:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One way to look at it is to think about what you dream for your children as they get older, and the lifestyle you dream of. Do you want to be able to take them travelling, do you go out to eat a lot? Do you dream of being able to put them through college, buy them each a car, etc? How much time do you and your husband have for them now? Maybe another child wouldn't change any of the dreams you have -then go for it! But if having one more would change any of that in a way that wouldn't be OK with you in the future, be careful how you decide.
2006-08-18 13:18:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your other half think?
And can you afford one? If you are on benefits and not supporting yourself, then no. Because I can't afford to support other people's kids - I have a 9 month old who is expensive enough and I work full time - am 28 as well.
Good luck whatever you decide.
2006-08-18 10:09:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, then the answer is no, you do not want another baby. If you do not mind my 2 cents, I think 3 kids is enough for anyone.
2006-08-18 22:35:48 · answer #10 · answered by ERIC W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋