I am sick of people looking at me like crap becos im pregnant and 16 give me ur opinion!!!!!!!!!?

Question

this annoys me every one says teen pregnacie is disgraceful wen actually its not having at kid at 16 is fine as long as u want it and r ready i disagree with enthing yunger becos they r not legal but its their own choice and im sick of the goverment making out this stereotype of teen mums high on drugs hvaing no money and lving in a damp place am i right!? im 16 and i can;t wait for my kid to come along and im gonna be there for the most of his life and im proud and i think the goveremnt shud stop making out this stereotype!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Not another drain on the government and us hard working tax payers. When will you immature little girls get a grip and realise theres more to it than a free lunch. people like you P*ss me off!

Answer 2

I think most of these people that have answer are way too judgmental. You cant tell me that when your typing you dont tend to mispell sometimes when your heated about what it is your talking about. Dont judge a person before you know them- i mean if you all are such good holy people, you should know that judging is of the devil. thats my advice to you people, dont judge.

And to the one that is asking the question, don't worry about it hun, I'm 17 I'm due Sept. 21. Things will be okay, There are so many different directions you take this. Me- i got married(6 months ago yesterday) we have are own place, I mean yeah, It is so expensive to live your own now, but trust me its not impossable. I left school for a while so I could work, but I went back and I only have a few more credits to go, so I'll graduate early. Thats the best advice I have for you, finish school if you can. My husband droped out when he was 16- he is now 21 and hates the fact that he dropped out, so hard to get a good job. But as long as you have your diploma in place, your options get a hole lot wider....
I hope everything works out for you, and at least some of the stuff i said helped. If you would like to chat 1 on 1 my messenger ID is helplessdanger

Answer 3

It's not stereotyping, it is the people who know what is involved in raising a child and creating a good future for yourself and that child looking at you and wishing for your sake that you had not made that choice (notice I did not say mistake). There is no way that a 16 year old has the capacity to be the best mother she can be, because you have not competed enough education to get a worthwhile job which would be neccissary to provide for the child. It's not knocking you down, it just happens to be the truth. And you getting angry over this stuff is just another example of immaturity. Own up to the fact that you have done this, and that you must know you would have been better off waiting. If you don't feel that way now, you will in a few years.

Answer 4

Well put it this way love

If you had an abortion you'd be screamed at by the anti-abortionists for being a murderer.

If you keep the baby you are looked down on for being a teen mum. You can't win really.

I am pregnant with my first baby and I'm 34. I have to say that I would never have wanted a child at 16 or been able to cope with one. I personally do think it is a bit young to deliberately get pregnant, but then accidents happen and if you do fall pregnant and decide to keep the baby and be a good mum then thats commendable. I know a girl who had a baby at 16 and she's a really good mum to her son who's now 5.

The problem with a lot of teen mums is that they don't have any means of financial support for themselves and their babies so they have to rely on government handouts, and that creates resentment from people who have to work 40+ hours per week to keep food on the table and a roof over their heads, to see someone being given a council house with all the benefits just because they got pregnant. You have to understand it from that point of view.

Answer 5

I'm totally wilth you sweetie. I had my first baby at 16 and I wouldnt swap her for the world! She's now 7years old and I have 3more children. You shouldn't bother what other people think if you know what you're doing is right for you. I almost went through a termination because I was pressured into believing that it was wrong for a 16year old to be pregnant with a baby, however, I changed my mind last minute due to the thought of going through with it repulsing me and have never regretted it once! I love all of my children to no end and i have done since i fell pregnant with my first! Don't let other peoples opinions sway you! If you want this baby which it sounds like you do, then ignore everyone else and go for it! Good Luck x
(If you need someone to chat to, please do send me an email! Some people can be so insensitive but I seriously know how you feel!)

Answer 6

It's hard being a mom, and I say that knowing I have the support of a husband. (He helps at home too.)

I do hope for the best for you and your child. I'd recommend that you do whatever it takes to continue your education. Your child will appreciate that the most. Also, it sets an example for your child for when he/she goes to school.

About the rude looks ... in history pregnant women stayed home when they were "showing." It was called "confinement." On the I Love Lucy show, Lucille Ball caused an uproar when she was pregnant on screen. In fact, the word "pregnant" was not allowed on the show by censors. They had to say "expecting." Up until the 60s and early 70s, pregnant teen mothers were sent away to have their babies and give them up for adoption, as though they were never pregnant. Some of these adoptions were by coercion.

Well, pregnant women don't hide at home anymore to wait out their pregnancies. Usually, a belly bursting with life brings smiles from strangers, except when it comes to certain mothers--teen mothers. This you know; thus, your question. While I don't think it's very kind of people to give you such looks, I can see that they do so because they don't approve of your situation.

Maybe you can feel some satisfaction with the knowledge that you're not aborting your baby? (Of course, teens who chose abortion don't face angry stares every time they leave the house--just the one time perhaps--when they go get the abortion. For the record, I'm pro-choice.) I also think they stare because they figure you'll be a welfare mom. So, maybe you get angry looks from people who don't want to pay for your choices? If you can pay for your child, without money from government, great. Then, those people who are giving you the rude looks have no cause. If you can't pay for your child on your own, maybe that's why you're so defensive?

I recommend letting go of the anger you feel towards such people. Really, the only people who will be affected by such anger will be you and your child. Anger can eat you up inside and make you a bitter person. Next, I recommend you persevere. Get your education. (Again, this is extremely important.) Get the help you need from various community services. (Check into these while you're pregnant.) Take parenting classes. (This is especially true if your parents were abusive or neglectful.) This will be one of the biggest--if not the most important--tests of your life. Rise up to the challenge.

Answer 7

OK, having a child at 16 is not the end of the world. My sis did it and was able to make it through. Here is the problem though...it is hard as hell, that is why people look at you like that. You may love the baby, change a diaper, etc, but that is not enough. How do u plan to financially provide for an infant?? At 16 yrs old, a Mc Donalds paycheck ain't gonna cut it! How will u finish school? At 16 u don't know enough to take care of that child, so I hope ur mom is there for u, because it is gonna be the hardest thing in your life. Good luck

Answer 8

You hold your head up high, be proud of the beautiful baby you will have and be the best mother possible.

Being a good mum has nothing to do with age, income, where you live or what you do for a living. Its about love, care, paitence and acceptance. And if your young then you will adapt easier than a stuck up career woman in her 30's who has lived the past 18 years doing what she wants when she wants!

And when your child turns 18 you'll only be 34, young enough to do something great with your life!

You need to stop focusing on the negative, stop caring what other people think and do the best job you can at being a mum - its the most important job you will ever had - and the worst paid!

Good luck!

Answer 9

You really do not know
what you have gotten ur self into
Having a baby is one of the best thing
U could ever imagine

But doing it all alone is another thing
It is a lot of Work

You see the problem with kids like u
You want to grow up too fast
In life there is a time for everything
and once the baby is born

Your life will revolve around the baby
every single minute.

I wish you all the best
but you might be all happy
and excited now
but when you start changing diapers,
having sleepless nights, no one to help you,
and money is tight,
then u will understand what we are all saying

Answer 10

Forget what anyone has to say your life is your life someone will always think of you as less because many people are idiots, Im 21 and I dont have kids but if I did that would be ok too. Dont feel bad everyone needs help sometimes no one can judge you. All of those girls who are calling you trash are probaly jealous beause theyve had 5 or 6 abortions and werent strong enough to handle their responsibility! Be proud you will make a good mother!1 now you are among few, many teen moms dont take great care of their babies just beacause at such a young age many dont understand the responsibility and how fragile a life can be. God Bless

Answer 11

The stereotype you talk about is the one developed as a result of other 16 year olds having babies and raising them to be horrible little kids that are rude to strangers, spoilt and appear to be poorly cared for by having grubby faces etc.

Get used to people looking at you like that, it isn't going to stop. When they look at you smile and smile big! Be proud of being pregnant if you are happy about it because your baby is wanted! And work your butt off to prove people wrong when you raise your baby. Thats all you can do. Referring to your baby as a 'kid' is almost a cheap term for a child. Call them your baby or child, son or daughter. Not your 'kid'. It sounds and come across as much better to a lot of people. Learning to spell will also make people think you are more mature and able to handle your baby. All the best; and read up on parenting stuff not just now but as you raise your baby. Learn how to discipline and raise him/her to be a great child and not another rascal offspring to a young teenager. There are so many of those. Again I say, prove them wrong!