I've been going out with this girl for bout 4 mths now, but IDK right now I feel like calling it quits. I mean I really hav never felt for any1 what I'm feelin for this girl, I think I may even love her, but every1 in my family, and in her close circle of friends seems to think that we can't be together. Oh and we are not related in anyway for that to be a reason.(happened to an aunt of mine) I know that no1's opinion but ours really matters, but I'm getting tired of telling her that and telling my family that and telling every1 that's against us that. Any suggestions as to what to do? I don't want to runaway from things so movin is not really an option and I've tried to ignore it but if I start ignoring she doesn't and if she starts ignoring I don't. It's gotten to the point that she broke up with me over a bowl of Shrimp Coctell I didn't eat. We got back together but shrimp is a stupid reason to break up, I now it was deaper than the shrimp, so help! I don't want to lose her!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-18 09:46:38 · 10 answers · asked by raider_way 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well my families reason's for saying not to be with her are stupid really. My mom is 4 years older than my dad, and my Girl is 4 years older than me, that's the main reason my mom doesn't like it she say's she's not happy in her marrage because of the difference in age, so she believes I won't make my Girl happy either. My brother's and sister think she's to controlling, and honestly I think so too but it hasn't gotten to the point in which she's told me to do something I didn't want to do, everything she's wanted and insisted we do I had already decided to do before hand. So not sure if that's controlling or not. and the prob really doesn't lye in me cause I could give a rat's a** bout what people think, but she cares very deeply bout it and I feel she's giving them rather the me the benifit of the daught.
2006-08-18 10:13:45 · update #1
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Your family only wants for you to be in a relationship that does not stress you, and makes you happy.
This relationship is making you miserable.
If you didn't want to eat shrimp; and she insisted to that extreem, then she is being CONTROLLING...
and controlling behavor is all about emotional abuse.
If she wants someone to control, and you do not want to be controlled, there is the reason you two are arguing, I suspect....
A person that insists on you doing their bidding in only 4 months will get worse and more controlling as time goes on. Your attraction to her may be just "lust" (???)
Ask yourself what is really great about this girl besides "physical attraction"...what QUALITIES as a person does she have that makes you proud of her as a person.
If her looks are beautiful, and her personality is ugly, .... in the not too distant future, you will not see the physcial beauty anymore, just the ugly.
Think carefully, before you give your heart, or call this love. Think about things like sharing, caring, trust, being dependable, and comfort just being together. Arguing is very UNcomfortable.
stw
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2006-08-18 09:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered the reasons why these people think your relationship can't work? Sometimes when we are in love, we are blind. But, if they don't have any real reason to think why you two should break up then hang in there. If she`s worth it, try to ignore them. It would be a shame to ruin a great thing over other people's opinions. It`s your relationship, not theirs.
2006-08-18 09:56:56 · answer #2 · answered by Dragonfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and have a serious conversation with her. Tell her how you feel and let her speak her mind. If you feel that strongly about her confess your love and make it work. Sit down and tell your family how you feel and don't let them know personal info on your relationship. Hope it works out!
2006-08-18 09:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by baby8888girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that feeling, my ex's family always said that we will never make it, it caused us to break up though, but if you have confidence in your relationship and you feel that it is going to work, just continue to ignore. It is very hard yes, but you just have to suck up and do it if you truly believe in the relationship.
2006-08-18 09:54:27 · answer #4 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow a penis man!!! Seriously you need therapy if you are that worried about what other people think. She deserves a guy who is strong anyways.
2006-08-18 09:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call it quits trust me man there is plenty of other fish out there
2006-08-18 09:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough one!! But one thing forsure is that blood is always thicker than water...your family will always be there for you and at least they will tell you like it is!!
2006-08-18 09:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by Dorrie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your aunt sounds like a freak can i have her phone number
2006-08-18 09:52:30 · answer #8 · answered by kylito27 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you break up f*(k one of her friends
2006-08-18 09:52:10 · answer #9 · answered by elvee13 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
easy dump her and get another women
2006-08-18 09:53:00 · answer #10 · answered by clin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋