wedding Question?

Question

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost three monthes two days before our two monthes he asked me to marry him...we love each other so much we have a special bond that can't be broken...the wedding is in febuary 2007..do you think it's to soon to get married???????????we love each other very much we have some problems but we get through them.....we are moving in together in september... tell me what u think

Answer 1

No no no no no!!

Get to know him first before deciding to marry him- date him 2 years, then you can decide if he's the right one for you. Right now everything seems so right because it's new and exciting. Don't make big decisions such as marriage and living together- you must avoid them. Get to know your guy first- please. People change so much after they've been in a relship for a long time (I'd say 2 yrs at least). If things are still perfect 2 years from now, then you can marry him. But not now darling.

Also, there will always be people who say "well my parents did it, or so-and-so did it and they are happily married still". Okay, yes, but guess what, that only applies to very small % of people- it's very, very unlikely & extremely rare for 2 people to have a succesfull lasting marriage after only dating for a few months.

Answer 2

It's not my decision, but yes, I think it's WAY too soon for your to be getting married. How old are you? If you are under 70, then there is no rush. Finish school and get your life together. 3 months is still that 'it's all new and everything is great' stage - you don't completely see the other person because you are blinded by happiness and lust. Love at 3 months is completely different than love at 2 years. And you want to make sure that you are happy with that second type of love. Some people aren't, so it's better to wait.


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Answer 3

Think about the reasons why people get divorced these days, if you're blinded by love you're 100% sure those things will never effect you and your boyfriend. You have a lot more to learn about one another. You're still in that stage where you both are trying to be the person you want everyone to think you are. Once you really get comfortable - you'll see the real you come out of both of you. That's when you are in the position to decide whether you both have what it takes to make it in the long haul. Just be careful. It's still early. And the whole moving in before you get married for a trial run is a bunch of garbage. Not the way that God intend for things to happen. Anyway... that's my two cents.
I'm getting married in October. I've been with my fiance for 4 years. I was ready to get married 2 or 3 years ago. Mainly because I wanted to drop out of college. I'm glad we waited. I graduated and have a good job. Financially we're stable and we'll be ready to start a family maybe in a year or 2. Things weren't always good, but making it through the many bad times was what made me sure that we could make it through just about anything with God's help. I think we've got what it takes to make our marriage a once in a lifetime event.

Answer 4

well theres goes everything when u live together he dont have to marry and yes its to soon and dont ever say special bond that cant be broken as it can too.. I thought the same way once did all u did and u know what when u 2 live together and have ur difference and u will it is easier for him to leave u then to be married and force u 2 to work it out premarital live ins give up easier and that makes u lose. i think u should wait 2 yrs what if u find out he sleeps with a teddy bear or ur a slob? u have to get to know how ur mannerisms are truly and choices u would do and the other things only time can show u both..

Answer 5

YOu barely know each other, You have been dating for short three months and you are already having problems....

You are going too fast. I say to set a wedding date for later on 2007. Move in with him and see if you really can live with each other and get to know better before getting married.

there is no rush, if you love each other then getting married a little later will be no problem. You have to be sure, marriage is forever iand you want to get ot right the fisrt time

Good luck

Answer 6

Only you can tell if its too soon or not. My best friend got married like two months after meeting her husband. So only you can feel its too soon or not.

But I personally would not advice that. Becuz that is a very short amount of time, you should atleast, the least, date the person for 1 1/2-2years. Everything will be very clear to you by then. Believe me, things happen, and people do change. Just dont rush into anything too fast.

If you plant a rose in a garden, it does not grow in a day. It takes time. You need to care for it, water it, and look after it. It would be pretty dam weird if that flower grows in only a day.

so dont rush into anything, and give it time.

Congrats and have fun!

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Answer 7

That is too soon to get married.

You both are still in the phase that you think: "OMG! He's SO handsome and we are SO in love! He is SO perfect!""

You haven't been out of the honeymoon stage.

Marriage is TOUGH job. It's hard work for both sides.

If you think it's soon to get married or if you have to ask, you are feeling guilty and know that it's too soon.

Why the rush for the wedding? Why can't it wait a few years until you both have established your indendpence as two individuals?

Love isn't going to get you through marriage. All you need is NOT love.

You both have a lot of growing and maturing to do--both together and within yourselves.

Answer 8

I'm not saying not to get married or move in together, but get to know each other first.....delay the wedding until at least 2008, plus delay moving in together too. That can wait. Not only will you be more sure of each other, the extra year or so will give you more of a chance to save for the wedding....If it's meant to be, then it will happen.

Answer 9

You're asking the wrong question. The answer to the question you should have asked is --- don't move in with him; that would be really stupid. Date, get to know each other, then if you decide everything is right, get married. Don't live together, most especially after such a short time. Don't be dumb.

Answer 10

Every relationship moves at a different pace so you might be ready for marriage but I have a hard time believing you know as much about him as you should when entering into marriage. If you really want to go through with this, I would recommend taking some pre-marital classes from a local church. It tends to make people realize fairly quickly whether or not they are truly meant for each other.