Right, I am about 400lbs Nerdy and there is a girl that I like how should I tell her that I like her without embarrising her or myself you see Im the type of guy who has alot of lady friends but now ladies to become intimate with, what Im trying to ask is are looks everything in life I mean I know if I cut about 250 lbs off and developed ripped muscles I could probably get any chick I want, besides the point is there any advice one can give me and all that dating stuff. What excactly do you ladies want in a guy, if a guy was everything in your wildest dreams would you settle for him even if he was a big guy?
Please good answers not 1 2 word response for the points I thank you for any advice I recieve
2006-08-18 09:17:01 · 7 answers · asked by atv400ex 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all remember that you are who you are. you shouldn't change yourself unless you yourself want to. nobodies ever worth changing yourself for. looks aren't everything. tell her how you feel and if she turns you down because or your size then you'll know shes not the one. and remember that the girl your meant for will make you feel 10 times what this girl made you feel. at lease you'll have something to look forward to. all i'm saying is be who you are, nothing else.
2006-08-18 09:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by straitjacket feeling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it seem like she is interested in you ? Does she look and smile at you ? If not then you should not tell her you like her. You dont want to get shot down on the spot right ? Make sure she has some interest before you move forward. Looks aren't everything but you do have to realize that 400 lbs is a lot of weight. Why not loose the weight for your own health ? I'm sure you will have a much better life if you lost the 250 lbs. Is the girl your interested in 400 lbs ? and would you still want her if she was ?
2006-08-18 16:28:50 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm pretty good looking and my husband is 275 and I love him with all my heart.
Anyways back to you. Try to write her secret admire letters for about 3 or 4 weeks see if she says anything to you about it and if she tells you a guy keeps writing her and it is creeping her out stop but if she enjoys keep doing it then when the moment is just right see if she will meet you some where and just tell her how you feel. Just don't go to far with the letters make them short and sweet or just find some poems on the Internet to send to her. anyways good luck and I wish there were more guys out there like you. Just remember the thing we like most is when a guy actually listens to what we have to say.
2006-08-18 16:29:04 · answer #3 · answered by shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i never settle. i personally think that guys that are muscular look nasty... but hey i think that the slacker look is cute. but besides the point. big guys need love too. my ex husband is nothing shy of 350lbs. he's a big solid guy, doesn't mean that he was ugly and he's a kewl person. but one thing he has going from him and think you should keep this is mind is how he carried/carries himself. he dresses well and is always clean cut.(yea i know i sound really old and stuff but we just both turned 21 so...) you'd be amazed what a lil positive outlook can do.
2006-08-18 16:30:59 · answer #4 · answered by daddiesgurl_cah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough one. but i think you should understand self esteem is a beautiful thing from a person. don't under sell yourself. you should just be honest and tell this girl what you think - that you like her but afraid to tell her in case if she doesn't like you that you can't be friends any more. but on a serious note, you should loose some weight not for the look but for your health. think of it this way, wouldn't it be embarrassing if you take her out on hiking and you run out of breath while she was flying pass you? or other activities that matters.
2006-08-18 16:27:25 · answer #5 · answered by Yvette R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont know this for a long time you need to give her time to get to know you first. whenever your with her observe the looks that she gives you. ask her about hanging out, if she puts excuses that are not reasonable, dont bother to let her know that you like her but continue to be her friend.
2006-08-18 16:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by doubtful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably already knows you like her. girls usually notice that. anyway you should lose the weight for your health and for dates. its hard but its worth it.
2006-08-18 16:26:20 · answer #7 · answered by Punchy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋