my ex-boyfriend cheated on me and i hated him for that but i still loved him with all my heart!!
2006-08-18 09:07:45 · 15 answers · asked by jdbs_babygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
love and hate are so close and so far away on the spectrum its amaziing. I think it has to do with the vested emotion
2006-08-18 09:12:47 · answer #1 · answered by NNY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because you never got the chance to get over him or even to further exploit your true feelings for him when you were with him. Most likely there was a potential that your love would have reached if he hadn't done the unspeakable and you would be happy with him. Also the reason that you may hate him is because one the thing he did was horrible, two you really want to be over him and you can't so you resort to hate as a quick fix but you shortly find out that it doesn't work and three most girls end up hating their ex before they fall back in love with them. It sounds compliatced but its fact.
2006-08-18 16:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by Practicality 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you hate him, or do you hate what he did??? Try to separate the two. You can forgive him as a person without ever being okay with what happened... there is a distinction, though it is hard to grasp, look for it. If he died tomorrow, would it matter? Would you miss him any less because of what he did to you? Think about what matters... has he earned your forgiveness, is he really sorry?
2006-08-18 16:13:53 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you are not alone. You dont hate him, you hate what he did. You still love him he just really hurted you . I will not be the one to say give him another chance but i will say think about it hard because when you take him back and certain tings are not off your mind you are gonna toture him by always bringing it up. You will be having a great time and then you just lose. if you take him back you have to truly forgive him or you will drive him and yourself insane,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,goodluck kiddo
2006-08-18 16:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by Robyn D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not possible to hate someone u love or loved...U dont hate him u hate what he did to u. He hurt u badly and that is why u feel u hate him. Hate comes from the devil.. Ask God to take that pain from u, so u can love another one day..
2006-08-18 16:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by misstikal311 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you dont love him maybe he is just comforting to you because he is what is familiar to you. Maybe you are infatuated, or in lust. Maybe at one time you did love him but after he crushed your heart you began to hate him and are still reminiscent of the love you once shared. I dont think its possible to both love and hate someone at the same time. If you do still love him, maybe you just hate what he did to you and how it made you feel.
2006-08-18 16:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♫♥ Crystal ♥♫♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and hate are different sides of the same coin. Move on and know that your feelings will change over time.
2006-08-18 16:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by L3-knightw1zard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easily, you dont want to like him, because he has been disloyal but you still have feelings for him, as you would of done, had he not cheated on you. It will probably take a long time to lose all feelings for him, as he has been a big part of your life, and it takes time to move on.
2006-08-18 16:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. Love him from a distance. Once a cheater, always a cheater!
2006-08-18 16:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by greenejl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a jerk. That is not love. Cheating is not love. get away while you can. Be strong
2006-08-18 16:13:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋