Should a girl ever actually bring when when she likes to get married?

Question

Been 2-gether almost 4yrs now and hegoing away 2 school...what you think guys and girls, GUYS ESPECIALLY>>Should woman alk about marriage a whole lot and when they wanna marry etc...I wanna get engaged at least and have been talking about it next year?

Answer 1

if you have been with him four years,,,

you have a right to ask a lot of questions,
do not think you are being pushy..
or manipulative
my goodness, four years means you have shared a lot of time and intimacy right?

THIS PERSON AND YOU SHOULD KNOW EACH OTHER VERY WELL AT THIS TIME,,
all the things you share, your interests, etc, means something,'
i am not saying he owes you marriage, but i wll say lthis
YOU OWE IT TO LYOURSELF, TO LOOK OUT FOR YOU.

IT May not be his "JOB" to take care of you.. right?
MAYBE NOT,,
All lthe time you invested, and of lgiving of yourself, should mean something,
he should be concerned with ''YOUR" wellbeing, your happiness, your future..
i did not say he is the responsible person of record,
but, all the time you have been there witih him and for him...
his emotional needs, and probably sexual needs have been taken care of in maintaining a relationship with you,

If this man does not know whether or lnot he loves you, aOR loves you strong enough to continue having "all of you" EXCLUSIVELY, AND WANTS TO PLAN A LIFE WITH YOU ,, THEN YOU NEED TO TAKE INVENTORY OF LYOUR WITS, YOUR HEART, YOUR GOALS, AND PLANS, AND THEN WRAP IT UP..

Rember, your purpose was more that to just fill your boyfriends needs, and fill in space while he grows up, and prepares himself for the life he wants, \
your purpose is to live your own life, and be fulfilled, and have your own goals and needs, be realized..

good luck

Answer 2

I guess it depends on your cultural background whether or not it's appropriate for a girl to bring up the topic. In mine, I would urge you not to be afraid of bringing it up. Four years is a considerable time, and should mean some level of committment above the casual. You have the right, as a human being, to have a voice in your own future. He has an obligation to let you know whether that future includes him.
If you care that much for him, it's time to gently let him know that you'd like to spend the rest of your life with him. Say that you would like to grace him with the title "My husband". He's a man like me; that will flatter him.
Be prepared for the worst, but anticipate the best. If the worst - he has no intention of ever marrying you - it is time that you know that so that you can accept, adjust and move on. We have a saying: there are plenty of other fish in the sea. If this one is not suitable, you still have time to cast your net after another.
If he answers yes, he is agreeable, set a firm date between the two of you and then both of you publicly announce your betrothal.
I'm sure you'll know what to do from that point on. You go, girl. You deserve a good and faithful man.

Answer 3

Just wondering, how the heck old are you ? Anyway,There is nothing wrong, in my opinion, telling a person that you are in a relationship with, what your intentions are. Telling and hounding are two different things. So keep that in mind but do be honest. Some people do not want to be married and since you do then I think it is good to be up front about that,you might as well save you and the other person the time if they are not interested in the same thing !

Answer 4

Bring it up as a discussion topic where you seek his input on the idea of marriage and not on who will cater it. Four years is a long enough time together that he should understand why the topic is coming up. Just make sure you don't try to corner him into an engagement. That may make him run and hide. Good luck girl, I hope it all works out for you and you get the ring. Have a good one.

Answer 5

Well, you should know by now the kind of person he is and how he would take such an answer or question from you. Maybe he is waiting until he's done with school to make it official. Don't rush it that's for sure. You don't want to mess anything up if things are good. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

It is good to bring it up occassionally just so there are no misunderstandings but most guys don't want to get pressured much. At some point before he goes to school, you should have a serious discussion to make sure he understands your plans and to find out for sure what his plans are.

Answer 7

If it's the guy who wants to marry you, then I'm sure he'd be happy to hear that you are thinking about it and that you'd be likely to say yes to him. If he is not ready for marriage or doesn't want to marry you, then you're probably better off to scare him away since you want to be with someone who wants to be with you and commit to you.

I think you should be honest, if you are thinking about it, then share that with him, because if you want to marry him, he should be like your best friend and be a person to whom you can share your thoughts.

Answer 8

I think you should go straight to the point with him. Don't think he's gonna understand hint you will give him, because there are good chance he won't.

And if he got scared well what kind of guy is he. I think it's normal to talk about it after 4 years of seeing each other.

Answer 9

If he is going away for school, i wouldn't do it, he might meet someone over there and the breakup wil be worst, if he hasn't bring it up, that means he doesn't want to.

he'll probably break up with you, when goes away.

but should bring it up and see what he thinks, just ask him , how old he wants to be when he gets married?

Answer 10

since he's going away for school i'm assuming you two are young. and i say you shouldn't be getting married until you at least have a career and a place to live. and don't get married until at least 25.