We are just seeing each other and he talks about kids every 5 mins, when we go out he just pay attentions on children and babies and say all his friends have kids and all. He is scaring me. I have even cried cause I start feeling likes he wants to use me. Now I am very sure I dont want children now, and maybe I never will. Do I have to break up with him, so I let him free for someone with the same urge of immediate procreation???
2006-08-18 08:56:50 · 20 answers · asked by Graça 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My husband is the exact same way. However, I told him up front that I didn't want children and I'm sticking to my guns. Like you, I have about had enough. Children are a lifetime commitment so please think it over before complying with this idiot. GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-18 09:02:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He must be seeking a life time arrangement ... it could be good. Children are yours for the remainder of your life. You don't say how old the two of you are. Does he or do the two of you have the means to support the family he has in mind? Children are your way of becoming immortal. If you don't want children, then you should make that clear now so both of you can get on with your lives. Good luck ! You are wise to face the music now.
2006-08-18 16:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by Pey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up something that isn't whole? How do you do that . there is no relationship therefore no investment emotionally or financially. Guys like him uses kids as a way to control nothing more. He won't care for the kids and proof of that is that he won't even invest the time to establish a relationship with you! Your attraction to him says something about your self and that may be insecurity. Recognize your value and preserve it. Nobody can love you more than you love yourself
2006-08-18 16:06:14 · answer #3 · answered by phantom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter went out with someone like this, and concluded that she would mean nothing more to him than being a baby machine and she had difficulty getting out of the "relationship" if you could call it that. If your guy wants children so badly, tell him to adopt - there are too many kids in the foster care system that need someone to care about them. Meanwhile, find someone else who will care about you for who you are, not because you have a uterus. And you can have kids when you are ready to, not because someone else is pressuring you.
2006-08-18 16:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by Mother Bear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys will say what they think you want to hear, and mentioning children may make him think if he does that then he is conveying he is a family man...regardless, he has poor communication skills, which is a strike against him because that is one of the most important skills a partner should acquire..he obviously isn't on the same level as you, so I vote dump him.
2006-08-18 16:05:11 · answer #5 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that he wants kids is ok but he needs to learn to RESPECT that you aren't ready for that yet and if he can't wait till you are ready, then maybe you need to move on to someone that understands you and respect your wishes. You have to look at if he want kids bab enough watch out for the TRAP. He might try anything
2006-08-18 16:07:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would end the relationship NOW. Obviously you are not ready for kids and apparently may never be as you say you don't want any. Fine, but he does and he is apparently hot to have them NOW! Don't continue this relationship as it isn't fair to either one of you.
2006-08-18 16:01:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what u need to do is tell him that he should wait till he can financially be responsible to handle a child especially you. of course you can have kids now and make it happen even if you struggle but why do that make it ez let him know and boot him if he won't stop. you might end up getting pregnant un intentionally.
2006-08-18 16:03:42 · answer #8 · answered by da skoolar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want any kids he just wants to use you your right, find someone else that's interested in you and nature. i think life is nice with kids but only with the right person not someone who is obsessed like crazy!
2006-08-18 16:04:33 · answer #9 · answered by lilbad_thang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is trying to rush you into having kids, for the sex part and to draw him to you. If he likes u he will respect your decision and want kids when you want them. I think I would run (if I was a female).
2006-08-18 16:02:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋