cuz it's not that my gf has no money but she doesn't have that much since she help her parents so I have to pay for the whole wedding thing - will 20,000 will do..??
2006-08-18 08:54:43 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
the important thing is that you're married at the end of the day and hopefully 50 or more years later still married. right? So what does it matter how much it costs? You could get married for the cost of the marriage license and the officiant if you want.
I'm getting married in October and we're spending about $6,000 to me that's too much. I mean think about it all the pretty decorations - in the trash or stored in the closet. Food & cake you serve to your guest - in the toilet the next day (sorry, gross but true). Music - forgotten. Dress - worn once. Tuxes - returned to rental store. Photographs and videos are really all you have to show for it. So if you're going to spend some $ spend it in those two areas.
Pick a nice spot that doesn't need much decorating and rather than serving a meal just do cake and punch. It really doesn't have to be as elaborate as some people make it. Especially if you're paying yourself - nothing like financial strain to start a marriage - the #1 reason for divorce. And who wants to pay for a divorce and then still owe on a wedding?!?
2006-08-18 10:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by serndip80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were married at the courthouse. I know its not ideal for most people but we were in love and wanted to be married, we couldnt afford even a fraction of what you are talking about paying. We had a nice small ceremony outside on a lovely april afternoon, our family and friends were there to wish us well, and afterwards we spent what money we did have to have a nice party to celebrate our marriage. It was a great time and I wouldnt change my wedding day for anything in the world. The point Im trying to get across here is that if you are in love and truely want to marry someone it doesnt really matter how much the wedding costs, whats most important is the two or you being together and sharing your love. I hope this helps you.
2006-08-18 09:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♫♥ Crystal ♥♫♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you just have to know how to spend your money. I had a fab wedding for less than $4000. So you can have a wonderful day also. You need to sit down and decide what things you want to spend the most money on and then decide how much money that will be. Most of the time the things that cost the most is the church, reception site, and the food. Shop around and you can get cheap but nice flowers. Look on the internet for your wedding rings there are a lot of web sites that have really nice rings at low prices. One good site is www.jarreds.com
you can also look on the net for wedding ideals that will help you save a lot of money. Good luck!!!
2006-08-18 11:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by pooh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember one thing, Your not marrying the wedding you are marrying the love of your life.
Dont make it all about the money.
However much money you spend on your wedding is totally up to you and your soon to be wife, but please know that whatever amount you decide to spend no matter the amount your day will be filled with much love and joy.
I only spent about 2,000 on my wedding day and it was just a beautiful as it could be and I had all I ever wanted.
My best friend spent over 60,000 on her wedding and she was just as happy as I was spending 2,000. But my point is is that you need to make your wedding day about the two of you and the love you have for each other rather than about the money! I have been married for 8 years now to the love of my life and we are as happy as can be and while are wedding was sure nice and everything we wanted it to be, it doesnt seem to matter any more what we spent on it, the love we had for each other on that day overlooks what we spent!!!!!!!
2006-08-18 13:20:33 · answer #4 · answered by spencerluck2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally....if you have 20,000 to spend on a wedding it would be better as a down payment on a house or make an investment in your future. To me it's crazy to spend a lot of money on an event that is over in less than 12 hours.
Be smart and invest in your marriage not a wedding "day."
2006-08-18 09:02:18 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it buys what you and your gf wanted and they are happy then itfine. But think about what about it was most important to you and make sure to get what you want in those areas and may be make cuts in other areas.
My wedding was traditional with a plated dinner and open bar for 115 people and cost around $15K total. We thought it was perfect and we have had no complaints.
I have a friend who has pretty much severed ties with his parents and has a few close friends but a budget of only about $1000 they got married at a justice of the peace and had a dinner for about 10 people and thought it was perfect too.
2006-08-18 09:05:18 · answer #6 · answered by Matt M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many people are you looking to invite?
You should be good with $20K, unless you're inviting hundreds of people.
But I would urge you to consider going with a "nice" wedding for less instead of an "extravagant" wedding for more, and then using the leftover money to buy a house, or go on a honeymoon, or do something that will be more long-lasting and permanent than memories of a one-day party.
2006-08-18 11:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
positioned a particular % that you may have the funds for out of your paycheck right away right into a particular account only for your wedding ceremony! That way you received't imagine you could spend the money. I also experience more beneficial effectual even as i'm saving if i do not flow out to eat as a lot or flow procuring i am going to imagine that the money that i might want to have spent is more beneficial that could want to flow into what ever im saving for. solid success with the marriage!
2016-11-05 02:52:00 · answer #8 · answered by holliway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shoot go for a court wedding and buy a new car or use that much for a down payment on a house damn that is a lot to spend!! Not sure what the going rate is but if it costs that much to get married i'm glad i never will!!
2006-08-18 09:01:04 · answer #9 · answered by siropson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that is incredibly too much, but I realize that the average wedding now runs about 10-15,000. 20,000 should be enough to cover the honeymoon, too, I would think.
I'll be lucky to have 1,000 for my wedding. If you have any left over, can I have it? Haha.
Good luck!
2006-08-18 19:22:34 · answer #10 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋