I met this girl the other day which is the most beautiful girl I've ever seen in my life, the thing is that she is christian, but I mean a real christian, really spiritual. I like that, cause she even inspire me to search God more. But Im not as spiritual as her, and I think she at least will marry a missionary or a preacher. But this is the kind of girl I would like to be the rest of my life with. My question is do you think she will dig me even if Im not as spiritual as her. Im a christian indeed, but not a preacher or a missionary. Any advices girls ??
2006-08-18 08:54:13 · 13 answers · asked by Jordan 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Everyone is in a different place spiritually. We each have different strengths, gifts, and weaknesses. Just because you might not be in the same place doesn't mean you couldn't have a wonderful marriage. Ask her out, if she says no what have you lost?
2006-08-18 09:11:11 · answer #1 · answered by hazydaze 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There was a young woman at my church who met an unsaved man. She would not date him because he was unsaved, however she witnessed to him. Her family witnessed to him. He eventually got saved. No, not just for her. She went off to college and only maintained a friendly relationship. She was very much in the Word and very mature spiritually. Anyway, he grew spiritually. He grew like wildfire! He love for the Lord had nothing to do with her. When she saw that type of real growth...because she was interested in him from the start....she decided to date him. They are now married. They are a wonderful couple who works tirelessly for the Lord.
I also know of another couple where the girl was more spiritual. As she grew she was leaving him behind. He wasn't interested in growth. He tried to pretend because of her. Eventually, he could no longer pretend---no real growth---no real fruit. So they broke up. He no longer even goes to church.
You do not have to be a preacher or a missionary to be "spiritual". You simply have to love God and his commandments. You have to strive to be Christlike.
Personally, I would not date someone who was not interested in church. Church is too big a part of my life. A woman also needs a husband she can rely on spritually. You cannot do that if she is more spiritual than you. You can both be mature. However it will be difficult for you to fulfill your role as a husband if you are not growing in the word.
In conclusion, you need to worry about your relationship with the Lord first. If you are happy as a lukewarm christian and she is an on fire Christian.....you may just put her fire out. That would be tragic. Maybe she could light a flame under you....who knows. However before you go and put out her flame be sure you want spirtual growth. You also may just be very humble. Do you think that just because you are not a preacher you are not spiritual? Pray about this. Ask God to show you where you can serve Him better. Ask God if this is the right girl for you. She may be. But don't fall into the trap of having to keep up with her spirituallly or pretending to be spiritual just to get a date. That will have bad results. You work on yourself. Maybe you see in her what a Christian should be and that is why you are attracted. If so, you can grow. Believe me there is nothing in your past or present that will prevent you from growth if you surrender to the Lord.
**please consider I have no idea what you mean by her being more spiritual than you. so if I made you seem like an infidel, I am sorry. :)
2006-08-18 16:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by Quinn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you what I tell my own daughter. If a young man is interested enough in you as a complete person, he will "do what it takes" to be around you and able to date you.
In our house this means that the young men who come to court my daughter must have a biblical background of some sort.
She is not allowed to date, so if they want to see her, they would have to go to where she is, and that is in chuch on Sunday Morning and evening and on Wednesday evening.
Its not about how spiritual you are, its about if you have accepted the way and the truth in your heart. Your walk with God, which is what you are really asking about, is a life long process and never complete.
This girl you describe will only marry a missionary or a preacher if she feels that she is being called into either of these fields. If you feel no leading to become either one of these, you should not enter into it just because she feels led into this field.
Continue your own walk with God, get to know this girl better is she is willing and keep an eye out and heart open to what God's will is for you and not your own.
2006-08-18 16:04:50 · answer #3 · answered by cindy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like this could actually be a very beneficial relationship for you. I think if you really like this girl, and she feels the same way about you, go for it. I'm sure she would not want you to feel inferior b/c your faith may not be as progressive as hers, besides you might learn alot from her. Stay open, don't count your self out b/c you feel she should be with someone more spiritual. IF IT WILL IT WILL, IF IT WON'T IT WON'T. Life is too short to worry about all the what-ifs. Put your faith in God that you are where you are suppose to be and everything will work out the way it should, according to His will. God Bless you and I hope everything works out for you!
2006-08-18 16:20:03 · answer #4 · answered by sammyw1024 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you will get into the religion more because of the girl. You're supposed to put God first. It looks like she is doing that. It's her call. But don't be a so called christian to land her. Be a true christian for God and everything else falls into place.
2006-08-18 16:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by islandgrl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not good for a couple to be 'unequally yoked' (fancy bible words telling Christians not to marry non-Christians.)
Since you are in fact a Christian, I see no problem. The choice is of course hers as to whether she wants to date you- I'm sure she is looking for other qualities beside the guy just being a Christian! hehe Best thing to do is to talk to her, tell her you'd like to take her on a date but also tell her you won't compromise her morals in any way. That's probably at the top of her list!
2006-08-18 16:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by candyandcaleb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a christian as well and as much as possible i would like to have a man of the same faith... because it would be great to do something together for the Lord...but then if you really like her just tell her, the Holy spirit will guide her though...she's got a free choice and if u are sincere and gentle, she might consider you...dont worry about digging stuff, what she'll do to you is just her duty as a christian, to make sure u will have salvation....goodluck!
2006-08-18 16:08:06 · answer #7 · answered by princesss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that since you are already a Christian you should ask her to go on a date. When one is strong in the faith, they can help someone who is searching (such as yourself) to learn more and deepen their faith. Who knows? Perhaps God is leading you to this young woman and you will end up in the mission field together. God bless you both.
2006-08-18 16:05:15 · answer #8 · answered by celticwoman777 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think if you just tell her how you feel shell understand and she probably wont mind that u arent as spiritual as her or shell help you become more spiritual like her. good luck!
2006-08-18 16:01:42 · answer #9 · answered by wishopeace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the Lord has intended for you two to be together it will happen. It doesn't matter how spiritual you are....
2006-08-18 16:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by Cre8ed2worship 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋