im getting married and i just checked my fiancees my space account he has been e mailing a girl he went to school with but he lied about where we live he said we live in another town i think he just didnt want her to know that he hasnt done anything with his life . he told her we were getting married and most of his messages were talking about how lucky he is to have me should i be worried about him e mailing this girl and should i confront him but then he will know i read his mail what do i do
2006-08-18 08:37:59 · 39 answers · asked by likes_giant_cock 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
"likes_giant_c*ck" That's a great username. Does your fiance know that you go by this name? Maybe you shouldn't log on to other peoples personal accounts.
2006-08-18 08:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you read his messages or his comments?
Reading his comments is not invading his privacy - comments are public - anyone can have access to them. Messages are not public you have to have his password for that. If he gave you his password he probably doesn't care if you read his mail.
And did he e-mail that he lives in a different town or did he just post his town as something else?
Lots of people don't use their real location, because of psycho Internet stalkers. It's no big deal. If he e-mailed her with a different location, he has his reasons. Hopefully they're good. The mentioning of his upcoming wedding and talking about being lucky to be with you are both good indicators.
I would go with not worrying about it.
But I have to agree with the others - your comment about him not doing anything with his life is kind of odd. Why would you want to marry a guy like that. Or why would he want to marry a girl who believes that about him?
Most of the time you should be able to know whether you can trust your guy. What you're probably worried about is can you trust this girl. I have the same problem trusting some woman, because face it, almost all of us have had a run in with one of those types of girls - the ones that are cruel and relentless when they're out to get something they can't have.
But based on what you have to say every thing's probably fine.
2006-08-18 09:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by serndip80 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've never had trust in him.
Why did you check his emai in the first place?
I don't think you should be worried about his emailing habits. You aren't in control of him. You each are indenpendent individuals with different lifestyles and personalities. What draws you together as a couple is more than just love. It's mutual commitment, respect, TRUST, and likes.
Respect his privacy and stop checking his emails.
Tell him that you saw the emails. Explain your insecurities of your relationship. Be honest with him. Once you get married, these trust issues and insecurities aren't going to just go away.
You also need to come to reality with yourself. Are you emotionally ready for marriage? If you already doubting him NOW, what's going to happen later?
Be honet with your fiance and yourself.
2006-08-18 09:03:47 · answer #3 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Geez, girl... if he's bragging about you let it go! Why should you care if he tells this ex the truth about getting married to a great girl? Maybe he told her he lived in a different town because SHE showed some kind of interest and he doesn't want to hurt her or your relationship. Don't worry about him emailing her. It doesn't sound like it's anything to worry about.
2006-08-18 08:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by Hidden .38 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be looking at his account? It seems you don't trust him, and all you discovered for your snooping is messages talking about how lucky he is to have you! I wonder if he would feel the same if he knew you were looking at his private messages without asking? A marriage needs trust as much as love to survive. You better deal with your trust issues before the wedding if you don't want to be getting a divorce in a few years.
2006-08-18 09:03:10 · answer #5 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he told her he is marrying you and praising you so much then I do not think you have anything to worry about. He obviously is head over heels for you sweetie and if you confront him you risk a huge argument and really it all just comes down to if you are willing to risk your upcoming marriage not happening if the blow up is awful. Personally if it were to see my man going on and on about being lucky to be with me I would run to him and give him a huge kiss!!! Hope it all works out:)
2006-08-21 14:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by t_j_a_n_mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's trying to be polite to her, and respectful towards you.
he doesnt want her showing up on his door step, or looking him up, and he wants her to know that he's quite happy to be with you, and there is no chance of him being free.
If it bothers you then you should just tell him that is makes you jealous, and you want to trust him, but you have a hard time trusting another woman.
You're gonig to have to learn now how to be honest, or it'll never work out. Jsut tell him how you feel, and what you're afraid of. He hasnt done anything wrong, so theres nothing to accuse him of, just your own worries and insecurities over another woman talking to him.
He's definitly being great by lying about where he is, and letting her know straight out that he's happy and getting married. Sounds like you have an honest one there.
2006-08-18 08:45:15 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be mad that he didnt tell u about it, however he let her know he is with u and knows hes lucky to have u. It all depends on if u can live with knowing this or want to confront him, saying your not mad but want to know if hes emailing any females, just like he would want to know about u.
2006-08-18 08:45:06 · answer #8 · answered by misstikal311 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be more worried about you marrying someone who you describe as someone who hasn't done anything with his life, then snooping into his mail. That just confirms that you haven't done much with your life, have you?
2006-08-18 08:45:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if he has told her bout the two of you, hes faithful to you. Maybe he told her you live in a different town, cause she was stalking him. Sounds like you have a good guy!
2006-08-18 08:43:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obviously harmless. It is not like he has not mentioned that he is getting married. I think you are over reacting. Why shouldn't he have the right to email an old friend. Don't you trust him that much?
2006-08-18 08:43:34 · answer #11 · answered by meisa777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋