am i spoiled?

Question

im 13...i dont do anything around the house cause im always out with people.my parents find it surprising that i even come home for dinner sometimes....and my parents give me everything i want....i don't do any chores....i don't even have to clean my room!so what do you think?do you consider me as a spoiled brat?

ohh...by the way i have never been grounded..and my parents don't have any rule for

my room is very neat though....

i don't have a curfew

Answer 1

Well, you're very fortunate. As long as you understand that and don't throw a fit if your parents say "no," then you aren't spoiled. Spoiled brats are usually very ungrateful and disrespectful... if you can avoid that type behavior than you'll be ok.

Answer 2

I don't really think your spoiled...I think your parents don't really care. If they did, you would have a curfew and you would have rules. I can see that you don't really do anything around the house, because they want you to learn to be a teen...but as well, they could be just too busy for you and buying you things you either want instead of what you need, is a sign that they want to keep you quiet. Do they sit down and talk with you? Do they hold you and tell you that they love you? Do they take you out and spend time with you? Answer these questions and at the same time you'll have your own answers. I don't think a child is spoiled unless they are loved...and very much loved. There is a spoil...as I Love you, but I know that I screwed up some where so you can have everything. Or there is I love you so much, that I don't want to see you hurt, here is a game, here's cable, here's something to keep you around here so I know where you are at at all times and I don't have to worry about you. That is how much I love you!

Answer 3

No, you are the product of your parents upbringing. The blame falls in there laps. Be careful, you are old enough to know when things are wrong and when the are right. When you get older and out on your own, don't think that you will get everything you want.
Growning up sucks sometimes.....The word RESPONSIBILITY is a very hard word but a word that we must live up to.
This means Cleaning your room, doing laundry, doing dishes, cleaning the bathrooms, yes the toilet to, then not having anyone telling you good job. Worse than that having your children expect you to do these things for you every day.

Good luck,

Answer 4

No. You are a victim of your parents. The fact that you are asking this question means that you are aware that they are doing something wrong by letting you get away with all that. If I were your age, I would take the easy way too if it were offered, but the consequences for you will be tough. Your world will change when you have to take care of yourself. If you go from your parents house to someone else who has to take care of you, you will never be a complete person. Better watch out for this and take some of the responsibilities they are not giving you. Also, be grateful every day for what you have and then you can be considered lucky instead of spoiled. Spoiled means rotten. Has this made you a rotton kid or are you still sweet?

Answer 5

No, I do not think you are spoiled. I think you are severely lacking any parental guidance. Your parents are bordering on child neglect which is a form of child abuse. This could and will likely mean serious trouble for you in the future. Their failure to teach you even the basics you need to survive will almost certainly come back to haunt you. I would recommend looking into some sort of an organization such as Girl Scouts or Big Brothers/Big Sisters of America or if you are into religion, a church youth group. You definitely need to seek some guidance, perhaps even from some of your friends' parents.

Answer 6

Your only a spoiled brat if you act like one. Your parents are not setting boundaries or rules for you, but as long as you know the world has rules for you, you'll be OK. When you leave home in a few years, you'll have to clean your own room and hopefully provide for yourself. Besides, providing for yourself is rewarding. In the meantime, act grateful because you are living with way more freedom and luxury than most will ever have, and maybe more than you need or deserve.

Answer 7

maybe. Sounds to me like your parents don't care what happens to you. Maybe they are just too busy with their lives. Maybe they aren't sure how to relate to you now that you are a teenager and they are just leaving it up to your friends to raise you. Talk to your parents about what they expect from you, do they want to be their daughter or someone who just lives there. Take the initaitive and clean your own room, do the dishes, laundry, vacuuming, anything. Is your mother the maid as well? Help her out.
Stay at home for dinner a few nights a week. Just because your parents are busy (or they don't have the slightest clue as how to be good parents) doesn't mean you can't make time for them.
Adults don't always have the right answers, maybe they need help in the parent department.

Answer 8

Yep. How do you think you will ever learn responsiblity for yourself being like this? They probably do this so you won't stray further away from them-getting you what you want, allowing you to go away with not doing chores at home. This is not cute. When you become an adult, you will expect the same treatment in your relationship with other people. And one day it will all blow up in your face. Your parents won't always be there for you. I don't want to make you feel bad or angry, but for you to ask this question, I'm assuming you know you're spoiled and this is no way to behave. Why do you come and go as you please when you're only 13? Do you think this is okay behavior for yourself? It's okay to enjoy life and have fun, but don't do things that could cause trouble for you with your family. You can still know they love you and care for you without them getting you whatever you want. Have respect for yourself and those who love you and care for you. Stay sweet okay?

Answer 9

I hope your plan is to live with your parents forever. I feel sorry for you. If you don't want to live with your parents forever you should find a friend who have have parents that have rules and learn from these people. I'm so sorry but it seems your parents are trying to live some sort of fantasy life through you. So you are not really spoiled you are just being used. when you get out on your own life is going to be so different from what you are experiencing now so if you find it hard to deal with just go back to your parents and live it up in their house.

Answer 10

You and your parents will regret this later.

I come from a family of 6 children.

Mom had daughter Jen while unmarried with man 1
Mom had me while unmarried with man 2
Mom married Dad (stepdad) who brought in son Russ
Mom and Dad had 3 children together
daughter Misa
son Jeremy
son Matt

While my parents were very strict with Jenn and I (our real fathers were never in our lives) and Russ on the occasion that he didn't run to live with his real mother when things weren't going his way, Misa, Jeremy and Matt were hardly disiplined at all.

Jenn was grounded for 6 full months including a birthday in which she was not allowed to have a party for kissing a mexican boy (dad is stupid prejudice), yet when Misa was 15, she had black boys spend the night and mom (the idiot she was) hid some drug bong or something from my dad so Misa wouldn't get into trouble.

Jenn and I are both married with great families and jobs who make around 100k a year.

Russ runs away from all of his problems and will serve 9 years in prison once his probation officer finds out what he's been up to. (drug charges)

Misa has been in and out of jail, but now that she is closing on 30, has cleaned up her act and has been clean and leading a much better life for 6 years now. The felony will haunt her for the rest of her life, and keep her from making more than 15k a year. (drug charges) Hello WIC, foodstamps, and medicaid. She works 2 jobs and is raising 2 young sons.

Jeremy only got caught stealing once. Luckily, he got a smart gene and cleaned up his act by about age 20.

Matt on the other hand....we're still praying and waiting for that miracle.

My point? Only those taught disipline will learn self disipline and have a chance at a decent life.

If only parents cared enough about their children (you) to do what is right.

It sounds to me like you are craving some sort of disipline, attention, and the love that you rightfully deserve from your parents. Print this and show it to them, I hope it will open up their eyes to show them they are ruining your life.

Good luck and God bless you and your parents.

Answer 11

Not really, I had the same experience. I didn't have to do chores, and everything was handed to me as teenager, although my parents were really strict about going out--however you should learn chores even if you don't need to do them right now such as cooking, cleaning, ironing, etc. because when you reach adulthood, you will have a VERY HARD time adjusting. Trust me. Just because your parents expect little from you doesn't mean you don't need to try learn things.