Ok... so i have been dating this guy for about a year and a half and he always tell me he loves me... but then sometimes when i am over there it almost seems like he doesn't want me there. But then on other days he never wants me to leave! Please tell me what that means!
2006-08-18 08:07:34 · 17 answers · asked by meangel15 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everytime we are together though he says he loves me like 10 timesin 2 hours so when we are together he seems fine but then after so long he asks me when i am going
2006-08-18 08:16:15 · update #1
Okay Meangel,
One simplistic explanation is that guys, like women can get moody.
However, if this is a pattern, I would say that the guy doesn't know how to "love you" the way that you deserve. Trust the actions not the words. Words can be a statement of intent as well...or a way to manipulate.
Its also possible, that he doesn't want you there sometimes...that he can only handle you in doses. I'm sure you've felt that way about people before. IF this is the case, and he treats you poorly...it could be his character flaws, or that he can't handle some of yours...however, its not a good sign for the relationship, since the best marriages occur IMO, when a person can accept a person, love a person entirely, including character flaws.
This is an opportunity for you to evaluate yourself...are you clingy? Demanding? Nosey? Need lots of attention? IF so, develop your own hobbies, interests, become more independent
And evaluate the way he interacts with you.. Is he secretive? abusive? a "Player", If so, RUN, RUN so far away if you want an intimate relationship.
Bottom line, is actions speak louder than words.
2006-08-18 08:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by Idiot Savant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not enough info for us to really know this one. No matter, I'd still suggest that this is one you should be asking him not us! Let him know you need more consistency and he'll have to show his true colours. Don't attack him or anything, just let him know it's important to you that you are not suffocating him and need to get a better idea how much time he would like to be spedning together. I mean, if he'd be ecstatic with every other day instead of six days a week, he'll be happier with the lower frequency and you'll be happier with the warmer receptions! Hey, you may find out he only wants to see you twice a week or something, and should consider his answer no matter what it is and figure out WHY he might want to see you less than you want to see him. Best of luck!
2006-08-18 15:16:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonyman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get hung up on the ILY's.
People say it for so many reasons...it's his actions that speak to you.
Since he hasn't committed to a 'combined' lifestyle with you, occassionally you will intrude. Nothing wrong there.
Other days, he feels a strong emotional tug. Also, pretty normal.
Live your life as an individual (perhaps even meeting someone else), and see him for the individual he is. If the attraction is there, the two of you will move to the next level.
For now, enjoy the level your at...once committed, you will yearn (at times) to go back.
2006-08-18 15:17:19 · answer #3 · answered by hellsbells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing at all. I've been with my gf for over 2 and half years and she gets like that. She says its because sometimes she just wants her space.
2006-08-18 15:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with nadokhalig.
It sounds like he has someone else. At times he may want to be with the other chick but instead he's with you. Either he cant let go or cant decide.
2006-08-18 15:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by RCX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Means he's got a girl on the side, or YOU are the girl on the side.
He's devoting his time to two girls, or more.
Sorry, I think you deserve a man full time (let me know when you start looking!)
Good Luck!
2006-08-18 15:14:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like to me you both are to young.
2006-08-18 15:14:33 · answer #7 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that means that neither of you KNOW HOW to make a relationship good. study relationships and LEARN HOW.
http://www.barbaradeangelis.com/advice.asp
2006-08-18 15:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he does not know what he wants and he is seaching out his feelings
2006-08-18 15:20:53 · answer #9 · answered by Marc G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes he's just not in the mood for it
2006-08-18 15:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋