advice needed on deppresion?

Question

Hi,

I've been chatting online with one woman for 3 months already.. yeah I asked her to meat too.. So, everything seemed better and better when all of a sudden she changed.. sad, deppresed, etc. How do I make her happy again, is it deppresion or what? Should I ask her to meat me again?

many thanks

Answer 1

You obviously are concerned about her mental health. Good for you for caring. Sorry that you are probably going to get a lot of jokey replies. If your friend is depressed she needs PROFESSIONAL help. The kindest thing you can do is not to abandon her. Try to convince her to go and talk to the Doctor. Depression can rapidly develop into deep depression and a chemical imbalance or psychological imbalance is not going to be helped by anyone except a professional health carer.

Try to let her know that there is nothing shameful in depression. It happens to everyone sometime in their life. The difference is that some brush it aside and get back to normal quickly. Others have no control and spiral out of control rapidly - this is where the danger is. She may need tablets, she may need someone to listen to her that has no other need from her except the truth. You need her as friend. She needs you as a friend too.

Do the kindest thing and support her. She will go up and down like a rollercoaster but if she has you at the end of it all then you are a decent friend to have and one she will value for life!!

Hope it all works out for you both!!!!

Answer 2

Depression is a very complex thing. It depends on how close of a relationship you have with her. If you have only met once, and now she acts differently towards you, I would take it as a hint that she is not interested and does not want to come out and say it. That is a common problem encountered in online dating. If she was still very happy after she met you and then suddenly turned sour a while after that, I would say that it is not your place to interject so shortly into a relationship. All you can do is hope for the best, but know when to cut the strings. This is a sign of worse things to come, and you just may have to walk away.

Answer 3

She can appear to be happy on the outside and depressed in the inside. If it's occasional mood swings, she just needs a day off, or a shopping spree. If it's clinical depression, like the blues, but for weeks or months, send her to a good GP.
Manic Depression is a serious threat to her health and life. That's when she swings around from happy, happy to sad,sad in a matter of minutes. That may take treatment, counseling, and medication. Encourage her to see a doctor. You cannot begin to erase the causes of her depression. That must come from within.
(meat is the noun; meet is the verb) B.

Answer 4

On line isn't the best place to develop a relationship. For all you know she could be 13 or 83. It is easy to pretend to be something you are not when you don't really know each other.

Did you actually meet? It is not up to you to make her happy. You don't want a relationship where you have to keep working so hard to make someone happy. You can never change someones personality. If she has problems with depression it won't go away because you make her smile. The depression will still be there.

Answer 5

You can offer to be a friend and stuff but I would proceed with caution my friend. Do you know what that means? It means to take it slow, because i am telling you something, if that is how she responded to you , then it means that :
1) Shes not interested
2) Shes really depressed and if she is then she needs help and you cant be sure that she was being honest with you while chatting!
3)Shes in another relationship and shes using the word,term depression to hide behind, so that you do not discover the truth.....
And you can not relieve her depression if thats what you meant by making her happy, because if medical institutions and doctors cant find a cure for it how can you possibly do that. And furthermore there are many serious side effects with the many prescribed drugs that are there for depression, so please be aware !

Answer 6

I think you lost it when you offered her the meat.
You may make her happy by offering the meat again, but perhaps a simple Meeting will be best for a first date.
Give it a while before offering the meat again.
Fe Feck sake don't mention the veg

Answer 7

Maybe she just needs a friend right now. Why don't you meet her at, let's say a coffee house. It's a common meeting place so it's not a date. Tell her that you'll be a friend to her...especially since her "troubling times"; if that's what really wrong with her.

Answer 8

All of us fear being hurt. We even pick at a person to make them
go off. Then we can say, "See, I knew he was no good!"
Maybe your friend just doesn't wan't to get hurt. Make sure you
are not just having a THING. If not, tell her you are for real.
Sometimes we need medicines after harassing relationships.
You just got to feel things out.

Answer 9

She needs something that makes her happy and ur going to have to find it for her because obviously she cant find it herself. Also, she needs to stay away from things that make her unhappy. These things can include thoughts, people, objects or places. Falling in LOVE will ALWAYS bring happiness.

Answer 10

I think that you should ask her if she has some trouble or what is making her depressed. She must have some. And it doesn't mean that these problems have anything to do with you...and meeting you. Maybe she's laying and maybe she's afraid.And maybe, maybe, you should stop to think about yourself.
Good luck!
Dragana