I plan to be single by the end of the weekend, hopefully by the end of the night! My bf of 2 yrs. has been getting on my damn nerves for a while now. I am stressed and need to end this relationship in order to restore peace within myself. I love him but I love myself more.
Lately every time he comes around me I can feel my pressure go up. I'm no longer comfortable around him because I have to keep myself from going off on him. When we go out, 9 times out of 10 he shows his A-S-S. I have a very professional and low-key reputation which he jeopardizes since he likes to "start ****" in public. (You are the company you keep) He likes to get an attitude when I socialize with a business connect or anybody of the opposite sex, yet he laughs and jokes with other women.
My friends or family don't like him whatsoever. I've had enough of his lies, cheating, jealousy, and arguments.
I want to dump him with the rest of the trash. Any suggestions???
2006-08-18 08:04:55 · 24 answers · asked by To be or not to be 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tellhim to his face and tell him to never talk or associate with you again..Youve had enough and you need to let it be heard!
2006-08-18 08:09:53 · answer #1 · answered by aoinerekai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're not sure how he's going to react, you might want to consider doing it in a public place...perhaps a park or a restaurant. I would also have some trusted friends or family members close by. You just never know with some guys. Some of them can become extremely irrational when they are beong dumped...and believe me, it's not pretty.
Simply tell him...
"Look we have been going together for over 2 years now, and instead of growing closer we seem to be growing even further apart. I no longer feel that we have the same goals in mind, or even the same feelings for one another that we once had. I'm not sure how you feel, but I no longer feel loved, valued or respected in our relationship, and haven't for quite some time. And I'm sorry, but for me that's reason enough to end the relationship. I'll always value what we once had, but I feel that it's time for each of us to go our separate ways..."
That's the polite, refined way to do it.
or you could just call him on the phone and say..
"I'm sick of you, I'm sick of your crap... and don't call me ever again you cretin!!"...and while he's looking that word up in the dictionary...you hang up on him. ;-)
Good Luck~*
2006-08-18 08:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by DG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away and don't look back. Sounds like you've been putting up with a lot of crap for a long time. Time to get out and get away. If you're not cohabitating, this'll be a lot easier. But here are a few tips:
-tell him what you think of him and your relationship, but DON'T SUGAR COAT IT. He needs to know your real feelings on the matter.
-Keep yourself busy with work, friends, family, whatever. If you're busy, then there's less chance to think about him and conveniently "forget" what an ****** he is.
-I'll probably get flak for this one, but REBOUND! Nothing gets you over someone like a good sloppy make-out session with a hot guy. Makes you remember that you are attractive and desirable to other guys.
-The last piece I'll leave you with is this: if your friends and family don't like him, there's something there. They see things about that person that love and hormones blind us to.
The sooner you get rid of this one, the sooner you can get on with your life and do the the things that are good for you.
Best of luck!
2006-08-18 08:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by April M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A great personality is what everydody admires in a guy. How can you live the rest of your life with a liar, cheat ....
It won't do you any harm to stay away from any boyfriend for quite a while. If you are in a hurry, you may fall into a similar rogue again.
2006-08-18 08:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well good for you!. In this day and age we need all the peace we can get!
It speaks well for you that your willing to end his childish antics in your life before the relationship gets deeper- and your right- you are known by the company you keep. Good Luck
2006-08-18 08:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by Sounder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I will do things that he just could not stand. Do all the opposites. Keep yourself busy with your family and friends. Especially, those he is not compatible with. Give a shot, good luck.
2006-08-18 08:23:09 · answer #6 · answered by SPARTAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha... Go out and have some fun girly. Sounds like you deserve it. Next time a guy starts acting a way that you dont like... Leave him right away so you dont waste 2 years of your life before realizing it. Just tell him flat out, its over, Im over you, Leave me alone from NOW on... Dont call, dont text, dont msg... IM DONE! Good luck! Enjoy your new life... I bet it will be MUCH Better!
2006-08-18 08:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would'v left him a long time ago if this were the case. You are the one who seems to be hanging on to him. Have no fear and trust your instincts, follow this and you will know what to do. No one will make you leave or stay. You have to make that decision on your own.
Good Luck
2006-08-18 08:12:36 · answer #8 · answered by answerhog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good looking out for you. You deserve better than that. I was in a situation like that and trust me, you will feel hundreds of pounds lighter and once you take that big DUMP.
2006-08-18 08:12:18 · answer #9 · answered by Tee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup dump him just tell him look- we aren't at the same level anymore, i'm done partying and i need to get on with my life. Be nice, but don't let him say he's gonna change, if he does, tell him you will believe it when you see it. Good luck to you and good for you for not taking it anymore.
2006-08-18 08:11:43 · answer #10 · answered by siropson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you.you sound like you know what you want and how to get it.too bad for the loser your dumping,but like you said you love yourself more.thats a great attitude.how can we love someone if we can't love ourselves first.it sounds like he needs a good slap in the face to bring him back to the real world.good luck with the rest of your life.(hopefully loser free)
2006-08-18 08:15:33 · answer #11 · answered by spocklogical1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋