Ok. I am in high school and it's summer. I've been going out with this wonderful guy. Over the summer we've had some problems, but we worked them out. A few weeks later I opened my cell phone to discover I had a voice message. My boyfriend said:
"___ I'm sorry but I don't want to go out with you anymore. Things are just getting complicated. Don't call me. I still want to be friends. Just don't call. I'm sorry. Bye"
We only had less than 2 weeks till school left! And we've been talking more on the phone so we were close. I had him over my house a week ago and I was going to ask him to come over this week, and to go to the movies. My friend says to do what he told me to do. Not call him. Then I'll talk to him when school starts up again. But I really don't know how to get through this. What should I do? Should I talk to him? When should I talk to him? What should I say to him? Help me please! I've already had a natsy break up before and I want to get through this one easily!
2006-08-18 08:04:39 · 13 answers · asked by Lily Violette 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
G'day Lily Violette,
Thank you for your question.
There is nothing worse than breaking up especially when he didn't even have the courage to do it face to face.
I would see friends and go to the movies or hang out with them. You might also want to do other things such as that project you have been meaning to start.
I wouldn't call him. I wouldn't even go out of your way to speak with him unless he wants to explain his behaviour.
I have attached some sources for further reference.
Have courage and best wishes.
Regards
2006-08-18 14:45:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. I have been there, pretty recently actually, and it's very hard. I think definitely don't call. Not that you have to obey him, of course. It was cowardly of him to break up by voice mail. But the worst thing you could do is seem desperate. Try to surround yourself with friends these next couple of weeks until school, and remember that it will get easier every day. Good luck!
2006-08-18 08:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off he's a coward that didnt have the decency to break up w/ u face to face. So u dont want him anywayz!
Keep, busy, busy, busy, busy, that way if he decides to call, it doesnt appear as if u have no life, or u were anticipating his call. When u stay inside and mope, u think too much, and this will depress u. Get out the house get in some activities u like, Guys love it when girls have an agenda of their own, makes them feel like we're important and have a life.
Good luck Babe
2006-08-18 08:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by funkygurll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl,
I know that it may hurt but if he asked you not to call him then don't call. He may think that this is what he wants but he will eventually get it together. It may seem hard right now, but maybe it was just meant to be so that you can find someone else new and better. He may just wanted a fling for over the summer so that he wouldn't be bored and he chose you and now that school is starting he is ready to try something new. Baby don't worry about it you will find mr. right when it is time. You are too good to be worried about him it's his lost anyway!!1
2006-08-18 08:19:37 · answer #4 · answered by SweetPea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up is never easy, my advice to you is, let your emotions take their course, don't rush it, if you do then it will come back to haunt you. I am sure when you start school again you will have a crush on another boy, boys can change a lot in the summer. So just be sad and cry if you need to and talk to friends and tell them what a big fat jerk he is. Trust me, this is not the last time you get your heart broken.
2006-08-18 08:14:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with your friends, the distraction will make you forget about that guy in no time. I wish it were this easy, but remember that with each day that passes you get stronger. It's his loss, someone far more deserving of your affection will come along...and I assure you the old guy will feel like a total jackass for letting you go! Why would you want to be with such a flake anyway?
2006-08-18 08:38:24 · answer #6 · answered by cinnamon_latin_doll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont call him. if you just had a really bad break up than take some time out without him arround just for yourself. hang out with friends. a break up will take time to get over. give it time for things to calm down. if u try to call him than it will just make things harder on youself. let yourself clear your mind of old memories w/him, though its sometimes hard to do. youll be better off that way. i went through a bad break up the 1st week of summer after dating for 7 months. try to talk to him in a few months when your sure what u want to say to him. it will be easier that way. in the mean time look at other guys that you'd want to give a chance in a relationship.
hope i helped
2006-08-18 08:25:31 · answer #7 · answered by Scarlet5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really irritating and i went through the same thing last chirstmas and it my relationship wasnt even serious! To be completely honest the only thing that got me over it was confronting him and asking him why? muster up the courage and ask him what went wrong.. its the least this guy owes you... at least you wont be sitting there 5months down the road still wondering what exactly happened. Closure is the first step.. or last in my case to getting past it all.
2006-08-18 08:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by harmonize 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave the guy alone. The hardest thing to do is to understand that he does not hold interest in you anymore and once you get over with that the easy part starts... Do not allow yourself to be tied to a relaionship where you are the only one who says "sorry" and "I want us to be together"...
2006-08-18 08:15:51 · answer #9 · answered by kylie k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that will get you through the break up is time. You need time to get over it.
2006-08-18 08:11:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋