At the beginging of our relationship sex was great now i am never in the mood and he gets mad, I am not as horny as him no more and i feel really bad, what should do. help me find my sex drive
2006-08-18 07:58:51 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find ways to spice it up. Maybe tell him that you don't want every experience to lead to sex. Maybe you just want a nice backrub, etc.
With some attention paid to you and your needs, perhaps that will make you feel more in the mood.
2006-08-18 08:03:40 · answer #1 · answered by Kitia_98 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Always at the beginning the relationship is new and fresh and exciting but then the norm sets in and it begins to become habit. The sex used to be exciting and fun and spontaneous but now you don't feel like that anymore and you just really need a break from it. If he loves you and I mean really loves you then he will give you some space but if all that matters or seems to matter to him is sex then maybe thats what the relationship is about for him sexual. There is nothing wrong with you and you not wanting to have sex like you used to nor is there anything wrong with your sex drive sometimes you just need a break from it all. Don't think that there is something wrong with you because there isn't. Tell him that you need sometime and if he can't understand that then how much does he really love you. You have to take care of yourself and your body because there is only one you.
2006-08-18 08:14:31 · answer #2 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello uncaged,
I'm sorry to hear this. I hope that you will get more interested soon.
I think that it's very important to take care of your husband's needs. Otherwise, he's more than likely to take care of them with somebody else. And, who can blame him. There will be a time when only you will be in the mood and you will need him to take care of your business. That's what marriage partners are supposed to do.
You can definitely do the hand job and BJ for him and not break a stride. You really don't have to be in the mood for that. That would take care of him. It's called your wifely duties and it's necessary to keep a happy home.
As far as you, you should go to a doctor and ask him or her about your situation. There might be physical problem that your doctor can help you with. There are medications that have an adverse effect on libido. At least you can start looking there.
I hope that this helps.
--Rick
2006-08-18 08:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your loss of sex drive could be caused by two things: (1) a physical problem impacting on your hormones; or (2) an emotional problem, like you have grown tired of him or angry at him. I would suggest you see a doctor to rule out a physical problem first.
2006-08-18 08:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you mad about something? Or working harder than usual... I am thinking maybe you are tired. If not, you could always talk to your doctor, it could be hormones. I feel bad for the both of you. It is quite common for some women though, I have friends with the same problem, but they have kids...could that be it??
2006-08-18 08:05:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you need to find your sex drive? If he gets mad because you aren't in the mood, tell him to go play with himself till he's satisfied. If you aren't in the mood, there's no reason to change that just cuz he wants the sex.
But otherwise, if you just want to make him happy, you could fake it. Honestly though, if you have to fake it, it's not worth it.
Goodluck.
2006-08-18 08:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be that you have a lot going on in your life right now, that is affecting the way you are feeling, sexually. Find out what it is so you can resolve it. In the meantime, tell your bf not to take it personally...it happens to everyone at some point in their lives..... both male and female.
It's perfectly normal.
If it hasn't happened to him yet...
trust me....it will.
2006-08-18 08:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by DG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give him a BJ. When I do that it makes me horny then we have sex. He likes it cause he gets there twice. I like it because I actually wanted sex.
2006-08-18 08:04:25 · answer #8 · answered by ~College Lovin~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way with my hubby he is always horny we do it like everyday and if he didn't work two jobs we would probably be doing more than once a day!! but I'm not as horny as he is! yes i love to have sex with him but sometimes i don't want to but do it anyways because he wants to plus because he will bug till i give in!! it really is becoming a job to me!!
2006-08-18 08:02:28 · answer #9 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't need a sex drive> if he gets mad that is just wrong of him because he should be more understanding!
2006-08-18 08:04:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋