Why do people think I'm horrible for not liking children?

Question

Honestly, I can not stand kids of all ages. They yell, scream, ask ridiculous questions. When I am around them in a store or in public, I feel like I need to take meds of some sort just to tolerate them. I am 31. I've never been married and certainly do not have the desire to have any kids. As you can see, I simply do not have the patience to tolerate the little brats. I would never physically harm a child. I just DO NOT want to be around them. But it seems like everywhere I go, they are there. People just keep having them. When will it ever stop??? I feel like once you have kids, you come second. I'm sick of my family, friends, and society, looking at me like I am so sort of freak for not liking kids. If people choose to have them, fine!!! I don't. There are many people out there that have kids that shouldn't. At least I am not one of them! Is it so wrong to have other goals in life than to have children???

Answer 1

Yup, they're a pain. But I've been told you'll feel differently when they're your own kids.

Answer 2

I don't think you are a horrible person.
Maybe a bit selfish.
Well, if people stop having kids, won't that mean that after every other person dies, the world would have become extinct?
I hate to answer your question with another question but were your parents kind to you?(you don't have to answer, and I don't want you to be offended)
I was just wondering because, some people whose parents, were unkind, abusive, etc. end up disliking kids.
Yes, they do yell, scream, and ask ridiculous questions, but I bet you did too. And I bet your parents probably didn't like that.
NOT ALL KIDS ARE BRATS. Some are actually quite kind, loving, and some are even more intelligent then the average "grown-up"
You know, you use to be a kid, so basically your still a kid, a teenager, and an adult, so maybe your just saying your a brat yourself? If you don't want to be around them, your going to have to live in isolation, if people choose to have kids, that is there decision, not yours, and your saying they are brats? no all of them. Don't judge someone, before you get to know them.
And so what they are screaming, maybe there parents hit them! ever thought of that! don't even try to say that, they are brats, ever again, because they might be in a bad situation, that isn't there fault.
Maybe you should go into an Asylum, if you cannot stand them or just don't want them around anymore.
It's never going to stop unless the world will come to an end.
whatever.

Answer 3

I actually can't stand when kids scream or cry, but I have a 13 yo step dtr, a 4 1/2 yo son, and a 6 month old son. I love my kids and would do anything for them. I didn't think I would ever have kids. Personal choice. There is nothing wrong with you. Some people prefer to have careers and/or other goals. The only thing is, if you are at a restaurant/grocery/movie theater, there isn't really a no kid section.

Answer 4

It's ok not to want or like kids. I hear a lot of anger in your words. What are you so angry about? Children will never go away, and yes people will keep having them. To say that you feel that you need meds just to be around them says that this is an issue that YOU need to deal with, it is not the problem of anyone else or the children. I'm glad that you have chosen not to have them, because yes it sounds like you couldn't handle them. On the other hand, if you had one of your own, you would see the love and joy in them that everyone else does.

Answer 5

Remember u were a child once too. They ask riducules questions? R U f*cking stupid? No questions are stupid only the questions that are not asked. And if you think you need medicine to tolerate them then maybe you should go to a good pyshiatric doctor because there is something wrong with you. Little Brats???? Boy you really are an ignorant selfish little girl arent you? How can u insult a helpless child who has done nothing wrong to you? And it will never stop, the making of children, because thats hiow our world will go on idiot.Yes ur right there are alot of ppl out there having kids that shouldnt but hey at least they put them up for adoption for those who cant have children. But you need to watch what comes outta your mouth when you open it otherwise you look very ignorant and immature.

Answer 6

I felt exactly as you do, couldn't stand the screamy whiny sticky little buggers. Over the past couple of months I have undergone a change...now I feel different towards the idea of having kids. i think after seeing what a good job my in-laws done on bringing on their kids in such a difficult world, gave me hope or something? yeh i still don't really like other kids but i think having mine would be different. to be honest i'd rather have a litter of puppies though, if it were possible!! maybe one day you might meet a guy that you feel more maternal with. you never know!

Answer 7

I don't think your attitude towards having kids is the problem, but your attitude towards others who do have children. Kids are going to be pretty much everywhere you go, unless you go into a bar (hopefully) or another place where only adults are allowed.

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I don't think anyone would mind so much that you don't want kids, but the way you expect the rest of the world to stop having them isn't really fair, is it? That's great that you have made that choice, good for you. Live and let live, that's my motto. I just don't think you should expect the rest of the world, especially those of us who have decided to have kids, to feel the same way.

Answer 8

I TOTALLY AND COMPLETELY AGREE WITH YOU ON THIS!!!!! I asked a question a week ago and got ripped a new one for not liking children. Children are brats, they are selfish, loud and obnoxious. DON'T TAKE ANYTHING SAID ON HERE PERSONALLY - most of the people on here are kids all of 15 anyway.

I can't tell you how many times I've gone somewhere and nearly gotten run over by strollers. These women think they are ALL THAT for having babies and think they rule the world. I can't stand it. I'm 28, married and don't want kids at all.

Don't feel bad for not liking kids - there are a few of us smart ones in this world, who know kids only cause pain, stress and nonstop problems.

Hang in there -- I'm infinitely on your side!!!

Answer 9

They think that any woman's goal in life is to have children. A woman who doesn't want children must have some extreme psychological problem in their mind. If you met a man who didn't like sex you or had a passion for musicals you might think the same thing. You might find a man that does not want to have kids too.

Answer 10

I understand exactly how you feel. One of my girlfriends had a late in life baby. She is 50 and her son is 7. He is a sweet kid but I hate to go visit when he is there cause she so proud of him and thinks he is so smart but I dont want to answer his silly questions nor listen to him recite something he just learned. I don't care.
I wouldnt hurt a child either but I choose NOT to be around them.
I even go visit my sister when hers are at camp. Its just the way we are. People will keep having them. and it won't ever stop. We would all fade away if it did. Thats fine for everybody else. Just don't bring them to a restaurant when I'm trying to dine in peace if they are screamers. m

Answer 11

Yeah, it's wrong and weird. It's a natural instinct of all creatures to want to reproduce. Why do you think babies come from having sex and everybody seems to want to do it? You should be grateful your parents didn't feel the same way or you never would have existed to ask such a ridiculous question. Sure, have other goals. Pursue your career. Take up water color painting. When you're seventy and there's not a person in this world who cares about you or even knows you exist, you might change your mind. In the meantime good luck and have a happy life.