I love him and trust him, but between alcohol and pushy single friends, I'm worried he might get into a sticky situation so to speak.
2006-08-18 07:35:39 · 18 answers · asked by Baby 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My suggestion would be to have a bachlorette party the same night then get a hotel room & have both parties meet there & continue the party there... That's what alot of couples do! It works out great once everyone gets to the hotel there's no need for a designated driver & he or she can drink as well.
2006-08-18 08:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by Lysa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't too overbearing. When events include alcohol that means that people's inhibitions maybe be lax. You need to think about the event itself -- where is it being held, what is the goal of the event? I assume these guys aren't going to have cake & punch in a church basement. Does your fiance deem it necessary to have a bachelor party? There is no code or law about this. :) I recommend that you have a discussion with him about this issue -- perhaps you could have a couples party instead. Marriage is a thing to be taken seriously. If he doesn't understand where you are coming from about the bachelor party, you might want to get some pre-marital counseling before heading down the aisle. Just my 2¢.
2006-08-18 17:27:08 · answer #2 · answered by Giselle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as I despise strippers, I don't think there is much you can do. I get physically sick thinking about a naked girl grinding her nastiness all over my man (I'm in the same situation as you). I don't feel that it's about trust, it's about what the other girl will do. I trust my man 110% but it's not what he might do that worries me ...it's the peer pressure from his friends and the stripper will do anything for money- bouncer or not, I've been to these places they're utterly disgusting. Talk to your guy, tell him how you feel and why it bothers you. Maybe set some guidelines with the best man and tell him your concerns. Guys are going to do what they want anyways, so there is no use in fighting over it, trust me, it just makes for more issues out of something that shouldn't even have to be fought about in the first place. Good luck!
2006-08-18 15:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by beautiful623 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is such a touchy subject. Many people will tell you that it is none of your business what goes on that night, and that nothing that happens that night should affect you at all. Others will tell you that if your husband loves you, he won't do anything to upset you; to make sure this happens, you should put your foot down.
DON'T LISTEN TO ANY OF THEM!!!!
You need to decide for yourself what is right for you. Think about what you can tolerate and get over (note that this is not the same as what you would like his night to be like).
A good rule of thumb is to think to yourself "If I find out the day before the wedding that he did ____, then I will call off the wedding." If you can think of nothing that fits in that blank, then keep your silence and let him have fun.
If, however, there are things that fit in that blank, then you should sit down with your fiance and discuss your concerns with him. If you are close to the best man, then you might want to discuss them with him, too.
But only you can determine what, if anything, fits in that blank.
2006-08-18 15:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about him. Explain your fears.
However, if you trust him then you don't have to worry. Your relationship is headed for marriage--what's going to happen when he gets a job working with models?
Trust your relationship and trust him. He won't let himself get too far.
But like I said, talk to him. Be honest with him about how you feel. Don't keep inside and then not enjoy your OWN last night as an unmarried gal!
2006-08-18 15:37:11 · answer #5 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I just got married in May and my husband had a night out of fun, we didn't call it a bachelor party. I had one too it was awesome. Then when each person was done having all that fun we meet up just him and I and had a great night just he and I we talked and held each other and remembered why we were making the step to spend the rest of our life with one another.
2006-08-18 15:36:21 · answer #6 · answered by Carrie P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the deal is, for the marriage to work , there definetly has to be trust involved. Now if you feel you can't trust him, then you may want to think about postponing the marriage. I know how you feel with everything involved, but at the end of the day, trust must be involved.
2006-08-18 15:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by GJneedsanswers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your concerns - but it will do you no good! Instead of being upset, why don't you and your girlfriend go out on the same night and - suggest that everyone hooks up later for a drink? That way - you see what's going on AND he has something to think about, too!
2006-08-18 14:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by Blond Logic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun this is the beginning of all hell . . it sets that pattern if u are getting bent out of shape or worrying. yes a girl is gonna stuff her boobs in his face its what they do and they do lap dances yep they do they lie lie lie and they get drunk and some get right down bad with dvds sick etc.some jerk always hires a stripper for that occasion in every bunch of guys friends perhaps his best man don't know it or HIM ...unless ur both devoted Christians no worries.. BUT ur getting married nothing u can do so go out see a male review strip show while hes there so u wont feel ripped off. lol
2006-08-18 20:44:36 · answer #9 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is your fiancé, you should be able to talk to him about this situation and how you feel. If your relationship doesn't have this kind of open communication, your marriage doesn't stand a chance, and you should abort the wedding.
2006-08-18 15:11:37 · answer #10 · answered by robertspraguejr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋