2006-08-18 07:20:57 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's hard, it's hard to let that hurt go & trust again. But, it's wrong to make another guy pay for the mistakes of your ex's...Just take it day by day and learn to trust the guy you're with - in time, your heart will heal and you'll learn that not ALL men are cheating jerks...
2006-08-18 07:26:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way to tell if someone will cheat. Someday, you will have a friend that you trust and give him a chance. Remember, cheating is just a SYMPTOM of bigger problems, so the relationship wasn't good anyway. Making relationships last a long time takes hard work and patience. Some people would rather try something new and exciting rather than do the work.
2006-08-18 07:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by LifetimeLearner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very difficult to do. I've had the same thing happen to me, only it was a woman who cheated on me. I am trying now, I'm just taking it very very slow. When my wife said that it was over and that there was no hope left, I cried. I cried like you do when someone dies. On that day, the woman I fell in love with and married died along with my heart. Its very difficult for me to trust someone. I don't want to be hurt that bad ever again. To many times I've met someone and they want to move forward and I need to take it slow and everytime its not fast enough for them, but I know eventually, someone will be patient enough with me and give me the time for me to fall in love with them. I guess the best advise I can give you is to let time help heal you. Its hard to trust someone new when you've been hurt so bad in the past. Eventually, we will both find someone to trust, it just takes time. I focus more on my friends right now. One of my friends once told me that all a person really needs in life are 5 good friends. I once read some advise from Ann Landers who said "when life throws lemons at you make lemonade." I've made some pretty sour lemonade over the years. Its okay to be down and depressed (but only for a short time), we all need time to recover. I sincerely wish you the best. I'll think good thoughts for you. Someone is out there and I've been told that when it happens, its something that you will just know.
2006-08-18 07:42:58 · answer #3 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No easy answer to that.
You're going to fight suspicion, hesitancy to be totally open and transparent, and probably latent bitterness for a real long time...and those may be the very things that drive your new guy away.
Part of it is forcing yourself to remember than two bad apples do not mean that ALL guys are cheaters. Part of it is not believing the lie that you're destined to always be cheated on.
But learning to trust someone after being betrayed is hard enough...after being betrayed twice is even harder. You should share all of this with your new guy when the time is right and ask him to be patient with you.
Best of luck to you.
2006-08-18 07:27:51 · answer #4 · answered by Timothy W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all but you have to want to move on even though it may be tough to trust again.
Try dating and not relationships. Dating is just simply spending time with someone to get to know them. That does not imply a relationship other then a friend. Once you figure out that one of the people you date is the person you want more from then you proceed with a relationship. That is the point of dating to get to know someone and make sure they are not just playing you for sex, money and crap like that.
2006-08-18 07:28:44 · answer #5 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sit and just think of how you want your next relationship to be. When you meet the person you start off as friends and then you let that person know what you want out of the elationship and if he can handle that then you take it slow and dont open all the way up but enough to show him that you care and really want the relationship to work.
2006-08-18 07:28:33 · answer #6 · answered by cupcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know, you deserve more than what you are getting from these guys.
it will be hard for you to trust again for a while but don't give up on meeting a good man because they really do exist.
be a little more cautious and really get to know the next person before you give your whole heart. you will meet a good person.
the advice that i gave my daughter was to stop looking and you will meet the right person. god bless you and be strong.
not all men are alike, stay away from the kind of men you normaly date and let the right man find you.
2006-08-18 07:33:20 · answer #7 · answered by KAREN A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to choose carefully. Look for men with good personality traits and morals instead of good lucks. Take sometime to get to the know the guy before you jump in head first. It is possible to find a great guy. The difficulty is in picking him.
2006-08-18 07:29:47 · answer #8 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no door.
Quit looking for Love.
Love will find you.
Focus on improving your life.
Finish school. Find a killer job. Visit your relatives, (especially the older ones). Do volunteer work at the local homeless shelter or library tutoring kids or people who can't read.
Quit tripping on "love" and start truly Loving, yourself, and your fellow humans and things will work out.
2006-08-18 07:32:47 · answer #9 · answered by Dahs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know that there is someone out there who is not like all the other guys... Hes out there. Just dont open your heart that quick unless u know that the person is trustworthy
2006-08-18 07:26:07 · answer #10 · answered by alwaysperfec237 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋