Being a christian is more than just "believing", i keep hearing its about actions too.
Would that mean they really arent christians, just wearing the label like a fashion?
2006-08-18 07:16:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
good answers, but im talking about "dating" sex.
Going out on dates and sleeping with 'nice guys' is not an "oops' thing.
2006-08-18 07:34:44 · update #1
robabard: Thanks but i dont need you to "instruct" me nor do i need your "firm"ness. Frankly I think you are a little bit off, possibly a pervert.
2006-08-18 22:28:24 · update #2
There is NEVER any excuse for giving into mere carnal urges. A Christian girl will not even look at a boy with any kind of sexual interest, until her wedding night. A Christian girl should not even be dating boys, let alone letting them touch her, or her touch him!
2006-08-18 07:24:22 · answer #1 · answered by jxt299 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Christians are sinners too. As a matter of fact, we ALL fall short (defin. of sin). That is why Our Father sent His Holy Son as a Sacrifice for us, so that all who BELIEVE shall have ever lasting life. Whether or not the girls are Christians, that is not a judgement that you or I can qualify to make, they will be responsible for their actions. If we judge people the way we want to be judged (by The Father, of course) as it states in Matt. we all need forgiveness. Instead of judging or commenting, pray for them, for their relationship with God.
Actions are important, but lessons come from mistakes. We allmake mistakes.
"Those of you that have no sin, cast the first stone" None of us are qualified to throw that stone.
2006-08-18 07:31:23 · answer #2 · answered by Love Bug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a christian? For how long? Your question enters you into very dangerous territory, so I'm going to be very firm with you.
We live by grace. Everyday is a compromise between the high glory of God and living in this fallen universe with our fallen nature. "That which is lacking cannot be counted." If you have not "researched" about sex with your prospective mate, God is not going to provide you with a fantastic sexual relationship out of thin air after you are married. He doesn't do that. Know that. He blesses seeds that are planted - He doesn't grow things in a barren field. If you want a sexual marriage, you are going to have to plant some sexual seeds in the relationship before you are married. Don't think that standing on the sidelines is the answer. Its not. Its avoiding the entire fallenness problem.
Sex is the most difficult thing to integrate into one's faith. Have you ever really been kissed? That can be almost as erotic as having a woman c*um all over you. So, isn't a hot kiss intimate? So isn't that being sexually intimate before marriage? So, what then, we shouldn't kiss before marriage? Read The Song of Solomon - kissing was done before marriage. So, believe me, you don't have all this figured out. Sex and faith is difficult. "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."
(I will not comment or instruct you on how dangerous it is to get into deciding "who" is a real christian. You need to read more about Jesus and Peter.)
In general, a woman who is monogamous with her sexuality I find to be completely compatible with Christianity. If you talked to her, you might find that she takes marriage so seriously that she wants to make sure that 1)she is compatible with her husband sexually before marriage and 2)that she wants to be confident enough about her sexuality that she can "mate" his socks off throughout their lifelong marriage.
There's a lot in the news now about terrorists and 77 virgins in heaven. Do you think for a minute that those terrorists envision those women as real virgins who are clueless and inexperienced sexually? No! They envision them as miraculous virgins who are as knowledgeable as US porn stars. And don't be quick to judge: those are the expectations that you are gonna bring to your wedding night. You are gonna expect to have your socks "mated" off. How is that gonna happen with a girl who has never kissed, never been touched, never herself grabbed/stroked and touched?
Sex is tough. Christians try to do the best they can. People work out their own salvation in fear and trembling. Don't get in the business of doing it for them, because you'll end up marrying someone who is going to manage YOUR salvation. You reap what you sowe.
Bless you ...
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2006-08-18 07:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by robabard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people find it perfectly easy to go along with their believes, until an urge tells them otherwise. I personally find it wrong for them to proclaim to follow a religion, then constantly go against its teachings, but single time mistakes happen.
Alot of people don't have great impluse control, and when a chemical tells them its right, they believe it. Everyone figures things out eventually, let them make their mistakes, they'll learn.
Try not to judge to harshly, hardly any of us are saints by any religion.
2006-08-18 07:26:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, everybody makes mistakes. Christians get horny too!
2006-08-18 07:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are saying that all Jewish, Muslim, Hindu, Jehovas, Pagans, are NOT having date sex?
2006-08-18 07:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by Shadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give them a break. Everyone needs to get laid
2006-08-18 07:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by hotdog4icecream 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, it just means that they are good girls that are eager to please....perfect!
2006-08-18 07:23:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they have biological urges too
2006-08-18 07:21:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋