When I was in high school & college, my mom always said I was a "party girl"... now I need to "stop working so much." Back then I ate "way too much"... today I'm still very thin, so she tells me I look like I have cancer (nice, right?). Whatever I do or look like, she is disappointed. Are parents ever satisfied?
2006-08-18 07:13:44 · 17 answers · asked by Bunny*Run 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
LOL... kittyrogers: my rear end has been out of there for ten years!
2006-08-18 07:39:28 · update #1
I'm not getting between you and your mom.
2006-08-18 07:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't really tink they'll ever be satisfied. Because you are the most important things they have, and as fans idolize their heroes, they're just looking for that little thing that will make stand out from the rest. This is something you may never identify by yourself, but your parents can see it shining like a beacon. Believe me, your mom is just concerned and wants to make sure you don't go astray. Sometimes a bit of criticism is required to send you on the right path...so accept it, and value it after understanding it's meaning.
2006-08-18 07:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by cradle2resurrection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. In high school I was only deaf student to graduate with regular diploma and only one ever to accomplish four years of ROTC and few other things. My parents complain about how I didn't graduate as valderication. I don't want to be a valderication at all! I don't want to be look at as a snob student who have no life!
I was about to get into Idaho State University to study Anthropology. My parents told me they wouldn't pay for anything unless I go to university for deaf that doesn't even have my interest. I went there and hated every moment of it and failed badly. My mom break down and cried and kick me out for couple days.
I end up got a job at a retails that I don't like and I also got into Muay Thai and start to attend college. What did my parents do? They complain that I don't work full time, I will get hurt, and that I'm not studying to be computer specialist.
Even after I won few fights and got enough sponsor to be able to work only 15 hours a week, they still say being a fighter isn't a real career.
So I end up moved to California to pursure my fighting career and quit my job and start to attend college without letting my parents know.
So now only thing they know about me is I'm training to be a fighter and living in California and that is it! I don't give out much information about myself any more because I get sick of hearing about how I'm not living up to their dream and comparing me with my sister.
2006-08-18 08:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Expectations are first made because that person is trying to control you to some degree or another. It is more your parents problem than yours, that is for sure. Part of the problem could be that they try to control you in certain ways because they don't trust your judgement. If you work on trust it may help alot but generally don't let others make expectations of you. You are your own person with your own views and preferances. Let them know that! If they can't accept you for who you are try doing a reversal on them. Set expectations upon them and show them how it feels! That'll fix em!
2006-08-18 07:23:53 · answer #4 · answered by Star_Zero 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. And you have to ignore Mom's constant blathering. You might also start firing back questions at her, such as, "Gee Mom, looks like you have put on a few pounds. What gives?" If you are now in your twenties and she continues her constant nagging, you have every right to fire back a couple of zingers. This may shut her up. Just be sure the whole thing doesn't start WWIII. And if you are still at home, it might be time to get your rear end out of there and support yourself.
2006-08-18 07:21:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mine are never satisfied with me either so I hit a turning point in my life where I have learned to take care of myself, my husband and my kids and not worry what Anyone else thinks including parents. I could be God himself and they would find SOMETHING wrong....lol....so just ignore it and live your life.
2006-08-18 07:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like they are never satisfied,but they are,they love you and care about you and they just want to make sure you look your best and act your best,trust me,I have pushy parents.
2006-08-18 07:21:53 · answer #7 · answered by ｡◕‿◕｡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha. no. i graduated with a 4.4 GPA in high school, and my parents bitched that i got 6 A's and a B my last semester there. then i got into stanford University, and had a 3.6 GPA there, and they bitched about how i wasn't working part time in addition to 18 units. as long as you meet expectations, they get higher. sorry.
2006-08-18 07:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't try to live up to no one expectations and that includes my parents. So here's my advice to you don't care or worry about what anyone thinks about you.
2006-08-18 07:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by Apple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. They all want their kids to be perfect, even though they aren't. It's weird. My mother tells me it's because she doesn't want me toturn out like her. I don't know, you should probably tell her that you're not perfect so she should stop trying to make you that way.
2006-08-18 07:21:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey dont look for satisfaction from anybody .Feel good about yourself from inside.The more u look for support the more disppointed u will be .becoz most of the times to everybody around us our acheivements wont matter much.
2006-08-18 07:25:10 · answer #11 · answered by chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋