hey everyone! i'm 26 yrs old.... currently caught up in a serious love triangle. THE FIRST GUY IS 22... I SEE HIM ALMOST EVERY TWO WEEKS, BUT HE DOESN'T CALL ME OFTEN, BUT I SEE HIM MORE THAN THE OTHER GUYS! THEN THERE'S THIS OTHER GUY WHO IS SWEET AND LIKES ME A LOT AND CALLS ME EVERYDAY.. HE WORKS FOR THE POST OFFICE... I HAVEN'T SPENT TIME WITH HIM YET... BUT WOULD LIKE TO KNOW HIM BETTER! THEN THERE'S A DOCTOR... HE LIKES ME ALOT TOO AND WE'VE BEEN ON A FEW WONDERFUL DATES, BUT HE WORKS TOO HARD AND HAS TO TRAVEL OCCASSIONALLY... THE PROBLEM IS I DON'T KNOW WHO TO CHOOSE... I LIKE THEM ALL FOR DIFFERENT ATTRIBUTES THAT THEY EACH POSSESS! MY GODMOTHER SAYS I SHOULD CHOOSE THE DOCTOR CUZ OF HIS JOB STATUS AND BECAUSE HE WENT TO BOTH PRINCETON AND HARVARD.... ANYBODY GOT ANY SOUND ADVICE FOR MY CONFUSED BRAIN??
2006-08-18 07:12:33 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
envision them, each one, in turn, suddenly leaving/vanishing from your life forever... as in you would never see him again. which one would you miss the most?
2006-08-18 07:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by reba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a triangle it is a square, however I would say let them all know that you don't to get serious yet just to date and spend sometime with each guy find out what their future plan is with school, work, family, buying a house finances stuff like that hear what their answer is, get a feel of their personality, meet their family but as a friend no serious thing right, then after some time you ask them what each thing of you, how they view you in a relationship with them but each time you go out with one right down your view and give each guy a score, after a period of time you will know which one you wanna get serious with and let the others know that you don't see the spark between the both of you . But you can be social friends.
Never get serious with a guy because of money or his job, it may never work because it wasn't for love. personality is the key. whether you can be comfortable and happy together. A lot of people get married because one partner had lots of money and it didn't work because there wasn't any love there, they weren't friends before they became lovers. Know your partner before it's too late and you get hurt. be careful OK peace and love girl.
2006-08-18 14:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well try out the post office guy and see what he is like. He may be the one. If not then you still have the doctor though he wouldn't be around enough for your own needs. The 22 year old probably would just be a boy toy nothing to hold on to.
2006-08-18 14:20:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So is there 3 guys? That would be a square. J/k Just keep talking to them all and see who you develop more feelings for. Don't go on status that doesn't always mean anything. What if you choose the dr and he spends NO time with you, would you be happy then?
Just test the waters with them all and see how you feel.
2006-08-18 14:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by starlet_80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, a doctor lives a busy life and you may end up feeling lonely and neglected if you choose him. I say the man from the post office is a good pick. He is obviously very interested in you and shows he cares by calling you each day. A specific job shouldn't be the reason you choose one or another, go with what your heart says.
2006-08-18 14:20:03 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't choose. Be honest and let each of them know that you aren't ready to settle down yet and that you are still interested in dating different people.
The worst thing you can do is settle down (or just plain settle) for one of the guys and end up cheating on him with someone else just because you feel like you're missing out. You don't NEED to be with one specific guy just because other people think that's the right thing to do.
You're still young. Trust me, you should live now, make mistakes, have tons of fun. When the time is right, you'll find the right guy and actually want to be with just him.
Good Luck & God Bless
2006-08-18 14:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by sweetyankee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is someone telling you that you need to
get married right away? Date them all. Don't hide it.
Just enjoy yourself and them. Each one has something
you like. Good. Now spend time with each one and
over time you'll figure out wich one if any!!!
Don't let any one tell you who to choose. Chances are if you
choose the Dr, you may get bored with him, then all yo have is money. Big Deal. Then what you cheat or he cheats.
You want love that is going to last.....
Think about it.
2006-08-18 14:28:22 · answer #7 · answered by abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take notes and compare your feelings for each of them. Is there one that really makes your blood hot and your heart pound? Is there one that you just can't bear to not talk to or not have in your life? Focus on your feelings, not just those of the guys. Maybe none of them is the one for you, or maybe on is. You have to see how you feel. If you decide to go for one of them, then make sure you like him for who he is and not what he has to offer you. THis is what I came to a conclusion about myself when thinking about my boyfriend. Besides, you don't have to commit to any of them, just don't go to bed with all of them, or you will make yourself very unhappy. Take it slow, take time to get to know them (whichever you pick)...and if none is right, dump them all and move on!
2006-08-18 14:22:32 · answer #8 · answered by rollarcoaster brain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't choose money and occupation as a guide for love......choose love and personality. And you have to take in to consideration the sex, who wants to marry someone who is rich but can't lay pipe with out instructions???
2006-08-18 14:20:26 · answer #9 · answered by woodersondylan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love isn't measured by education, job or money. You need to take the time to get to know them and you will know in your heart...but..taking the time..being patient and not rushing is very very very important
2006-08-18 14:19:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anne E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not a triangle. That's a square. Make up your mind and stop playing around.
2006-08-18 14:18:44 · answer #11 · answered by Private Account 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋