2006-08-18 06:49:55 · 19 answers · asked by princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Separated, but not yet divorced, 5 kids, you like him, he likes you. You two want to date. Correct?
Stay clear until the divorce is final. In the mean time, ask yourself if you want to be a step-mom to 5 kids. You are not only taking on him, but all the baggage he comes with. Kids are a blessing and a joy, but they are also a big responsibility. Put yourself in the position of what might happen in the future. Don't think you can get involved with this man without having to eventually deal with the wife and kids. Also, the rest of his family and all of his friends will have to meet you. Make sure you are capable of handling the opinions and disapproval just in case.
If you are already involved, you should have thought of all of this before hand. Think about it now. Then ask yourself if you can see a future with this man and his pre-made family.
2006-08-18 06:59:33 · answer #1 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im gonna guess ur asking what u should do if u met someone that is going thru a divorce with kids....well stop right there, and wait til divorce is final before getting into any kind of relationship other than just a friend ( and i dont mean a friend that provides sex on the side), that way ur relationship wont be based on memories of him being married to somone else and u wont have regrets later....good luck *smile*
2006-08-18 13:59:35 · answer #2 · answered by OmeOmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do nothing. They are just separated, not divorced, which means they aren't done with each other yet. Don't put yourself in the middle or make yourself the other woman, especially if there are children involved. Be his friend, but keep your distance and spare yourself any heartache until you know that it's over.
2006-08-18 13:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away don't walk, first if he is already seeing someone and isn't divorced yet you are either a rebound which will end or he was fooling around while married and that won't be his last time doing that.
2006-08-18 13:56:45 · answer #4 · answered by Rod H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should give him some space and reconsider why you are in this relationship. He's not free--he's still married and they have quite a few children. Ask yourself, Why aren't I involved with a man who is more available to me?
2006-08-18 13:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by That Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him then keep seing him, otherwise don't waste the guys time but give him little more time anyways so he can get over his problems..the wife
2006-08-18 13:59:16 · answer #6 · answered by hotdog4icecream 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has 5 kids, just think, all of those kids will come before you.
2006-08-18 14:07:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i would say that depends on weather you want an instant made family, how you and he and the children feel about each other and then go from there if all is good go for it.
2006-08-18 13:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by lilblueyes8058 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and we?? we what?? what untill the divorce is final or at least make sure the papers are filed and they are legally separated before you do anything besides being friends with him
2006-08-18 13:55:23 · answer #9 · answered by rose t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't even need to hear the rest, you need to keep on going and pass up all that nonsense.
2006-08-18 13:56:37 · answer #10 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋