i got hurt recently by this one guy, he totally broke me. he gave all the signs that he was in love?what happ?

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we had fun joking and stuff and we were even kissing and touching in a bf / gf way?but we weren't a couple. i knew he fancied me alot and in sum way i didn't at first him but later i fell 4 him? and now it just sucks.......im mean im like 19 and my hearts totally broken up. i never want that feeling again i still have it hw will i recover from loving him, cuase i dnt want to anymore. speaking what i feel his an asssssss!!!!! pls help me

Answer 1

honey! i know exactly how you feel. about the hurt part. im 20 and i feel like my heart has been shredded. i get so depressed. and comfort eat. i was in a 2 1/2 year relationship. i loved him so much. and we had such a great time when we were together. we were engaged. and he showed all the signs that he truely loved me. i know my situation is different to yours. but when he just upped and left without saying a word, left me to hold out baby, left me absolutely crushed! my ex was alot older than myself but i now realise that he just had his time with me and wanted someone else, someone who he was seeing whilst with me. im so down about what happened to me but i believe the true - the one (if you know what i mean) will come when the time is right. and so will yours.
he probably just wanted someone to fool around with. and thats not good when its more common for us girls to fall for the guy. and we tend to fall for them quite quickly. especially when they seem so interested and you have so much fun together. and its always you don't really fancy them a guy who's giving you interset, but they like you but you fool around with them anyway just for fun then end up falling for them then he gets bored and moves onto the next thing. well that what happened to me anyway. and your right it sucks. these men why can't they just be honest with you straight up and up front about the situation.
as for stoping the loving part. i still love my ex. but i know he's no good! so i wouldn't go there again if the oppurtunity should arise! once an *** always an ***. i don't want to stop loving him but i can't seem to get him out of my head. i've even considered getting counselling and going to supoort groups. maybe that'll help me and maybe it could help you. if you think it'd help. but in the mean time, when you feel good, you look good. so have a bath, candles, bubbles, relaxing music or a book and just relax. put a face mask on, wash your hair. have a cry. that always helps. and just pamper yourself. i've been comforting eating but if that'll only make you feel worse forget that idea. but if not get some chocolate, your favourite drink and order a pizza and watch your fave films that make you laugh. and enjoy your own company or with a sister or friends.
after all he's the one missing out.
your only 19. im 20. we will find real men who care. and will make us feel like princesses. you'll think what the heck did you ever see in that guy!
like my sister told me, you always meet a bad one before you meet the right one.
you'll fnd love. you've plenty, plenty of years ahead of you.

Answer 2

OH yes you will, it's just that it's going to hurt for now but that which hurts you can only make you stronger. I think you guys where on the honey moon thing ,well in a way. with alot of men we get cold feet quick not meaning to hurt anyone but sometime we don't know how to let the other person know that we have rabbit in our blood with out hurting them so in the end we end up doing just that. the thing for you that you should be happy about is that fact that you can love alot of people can never do it an wish they could so in time you will again an it will be right for you because you have done it once an you will know how to go about it without getting yourself to deep until you know forsure what the plan is with the two of you. So for now don't bet yourself up just roll with it because now you know you have alot of love to give to someone who is going to be good to you

Answer 3

you will never recover but your heart will heal. i just got out of a relationship and my heart was broken. there is always something that reminds me of him and makes me sad but there are also the other people in your life that make you happy. concentrate on them and it will help you forget the pain he caused. let what happened stay in the past dont let it effect you now. you need to get out there and meet someone knew, but treat them right. after a broken heart people tend to blame the new guy for the way the old guy treated them. start slow and enjoy yourself.

Answer 4

Dear I think you are not actually love him, because love never think to hurt in any case. let him feel ur importance, How? dont call him dont talked to him and dont let him feel that you need him. Just ignore and if possible try to move around in front of him with another boy. Be positive, think positive. Make more friend. talk to other friend.

Answer 5

You might need to talk to a counselor about this or a loved one or friend or whatever. What you're feeling is normal. You will eventually move on and find another lucky fellow.

You also might want to work on your grammar and spelling, too.

Answer 6

ask him whats going on??? maybe he found somebody. thats why when you are not boyfriend and girlfriend you should make it official first. it always saves feeling in the end because at least you know you had somethin special. i like the way you say "this one guy", move on girl there are pleanty of fishes in the sea.

Answer 7

I know i went through this recently as well. Can only say it will go, just meet other men and think only of the bad times with him.

Answer 8

i've answered these kinds of questions before and i'll say it again...he wasn't into you, just move on.......if he is, he will be all over you and willing to do anything for you....you'll never have to wonder, why don't women get this??????

Answer 9

well why u dont ask him if he really liike you like a gf bf way.

Answer 10

the world is yours to make of it what you will - sometimes we need to let our head rule our hearts