My daughter just started kindergarten.She did fine the first five days of school without crying.Now we are on the eleventh day, and she has cryed for the last six days, and she has vomited at school on three of those days.Could she have seperation anxiety?She tells me that she's just missing mom.I have made an appointment with her doctor with the suggestion from her school counselor.But the wait is just making me nervous.
2006-08-18 06:40:39 · 15 answers · asked by trace27 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Of course - it's very common. I don't recommend home schooling; kids have to learn to deal with other people in the real world. Just make sure she's not being teased or picked on by the other kids. A counselor can help you deal with this - the problem is often with the way the parent reacts. If you are telling her how much you missed her or acting upset yourself, she will mirror those feelings.
2006-08-18 06:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by Danger, Will Robinson! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOOD MOVE!! Excellent follow through and communication. While you wait, talk with your little one as much as she comfortably tolerates. Ask "open-ended" questions, which require that she use lots of words, to get as many details as possible, about what she "did" at school. (In other words, don't ask "did you have a good day?" But, rather, "So - what was your FAVORITE thing that you did - saw - etc - taday?" "Why was it your favorite?" Ask her the colours of obkects that she mentions, such a s a desk or table. Ask her to describe the taste or smell of things...) Her teacher's involvement is critical, and it's encouraging to hear that there is communication between the two of you. Would your daytime schedule allow for doing some "volunteering" in your daughter's classroom? If, indeed, she is "just missing mom," she'll feel better, with you present, and the symptoms should resolve, if only briefly. There may be an environmental - either physiological or psychlogical antagonist (poor air or water quality / a bully / something which occurs, daily, that you KNOW to be frightening to your child, based on her life's experience....but that her teacher has no idea of.) It can be very revealing and significant to observe your daughter, in her daily setting, and to see her interact with others ;and, EQUALLY beneficial for her to see YOUR behavior and comfort level, in that same setting. It was next to impossible to get the time off, from work, but I did this once a week for all three of my children during their first years of school. I wish you much success, and your daughter glowing good health and much happiness. * email me, if you need to chat. Be well.
2006-08-18 07:07:26 · answer #2 · answered by patterson589@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I copied and pasted a previous answer I had given to a similar question a while ago. The basic principles are the same, just change all the he's to she's. Here are some possibilities. He is of the age to start showing separation anxiety. As the name implies, he is anxious over being separated from his mom or dad. Most outgrow this after a few months. He just needs reassurance from you when you drop him off. I used to hug, kiss my daughter, tell her when I would return and then the staff would pry her off me and then I would hover at the door where she couldn't see me. After about 10 - 15 minutes she was over it. Oh, tell him when you will return in terms a 2 year old can understand - after nap, after play, after lunch, whatever. Okay, he is also of the age to start manipulating the situation. Please don't be offended. It is what it is. Anyway, he is old enough to have learned that crying and screaming will keep you there longer. He loves you and wants to be with you and this is a great way to make it happen. One other thing to consider is this. Is he happy when you pick him up at the end of the day? Are the other kids happy in the morning at drop off and in the afternoon at pick up? I have a BS in Child Development and worked in childcare/daycare for 5 years then moved on to teach elem. school. I have seen many children do this, including my own. Most times they just need reassurance and consisitency in drop off. Good luck
2016-03-26 20:56:33 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes kids have seperation anxiety. I would talk to the teacher and your daughter maybe something happened at school. Your doctor will give you some ideas too.
2006-08-18 06:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe. I guess it could depend on if your daughter went to PreSchool. Going to Preschool early will most likey get your child used to the separation of parents and learning to get used being in another envirionment.
I would just keep at it and hope for the best.
2006-08-18 06:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by yomamabob1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may be something happening at the school that she wants to avoid, like a bully. I'd ask her about it. Kids can understand a lot more than we give them credit for.
2006-08-18 06:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by mediahoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure she could,its something new for her,try to tell her that mommy will be waitng for her when she gets home, and she can tell mommy what she did all day. also richard scarrey, has an excellent cartoon called busy town and it has a cartoon show of sallys first day of school,its really cute.that might help
2006-08-18 06:48:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my daughter was diagnosed with anxiety disorder at age 5, is fairly common. Don't medicate her, please. She just loves to be around you and there is no medication that will stop that. Blessings!
2006-08-18 06:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by Almita79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes yes yes
DOn't let anyone make you think different. They are human too, no matter what age. YES they can, and they will
2006-08-18 06:46:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple Answer : Home School.
2006-08-18 06:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by rm2kdark_lord 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋