I was in relationship with a man that I loved. I thought everything was good until I notice a change. He started taking me for granted the nice things I did for him wasn't good enough any more. Now he is with a woman who treats him like sh**. How the tables has turn. Now he wants me back. Men say they want a good woman but it seems when they get a one they treat them like sh**. But when they get a b**ch they treat them like gold. Men tell me whats up.
2006-08-18 06:39:51 · 13 answers · asked by Feelsolost 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some men want what they can't have.They like the chase. They want to have to work for it. They believe the idea that anything worth having is worth working for.When they get older they realize it wasn't worth all the trouble and they should have stayed with the good one.
2006-08-18 06:47:16 · answer #1 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've asked the question as a "straw man" argument. If the only two choices a man is presented with are:
"good" woman
or
"b***y" woman
Of course the answer is obvious. But people (both men and women) aren't that obvious, simple or one-faceted.
Much as you hate to admit it, there was something your guy found powerfully attractive about this other woman - which may have nothing to do with her "b****-iness". And there may be things about your former relationship that your man didn't like that he never told you.
Relationships, like people, are incredibly complex. It is never as simple as "all men treat all good women poorly, but all men treat all "b****y" women like gold.
Sorry this has to be so blunt, but I hope this provides a little more objective perspective. I realize it's painful and you hurt from the betrayal, but I hope it's a little food for thought.
2006-08-18 13:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by Timothy W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of times men feel that they need to be the "better man" in public, for everybody to think he's so generous and nice but's it's all for the spotlight and then it wears off and he wants a woman to treat him right because the relationship on the inside is falling apart.
2006-08-18 13:56:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a guy's perspective, was the "bi*tch" better looking than you? In general, guys will tolerate the "bi*tch" act from good looking women just as girls will tolerate the mean/abusive stuff from good looking guys. Beauty is intoxicating. There's no drug more powerful (for a guy) than being sexual with a beautiful women - even if she is a complete bi*tch before and after.
Remember, though, that beauty changes as constantly as the earth revolves around the sun. All women who are fit and trim and in shape (regardless of body type) are beautiful ... so keep in mind that always ... always ... always ... the sweet, gentle, FIT/InShape Babe always gets the guy ... always.
2006-08-18 13:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by robabard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the same reason us women like the bad boys instead of the good guys. There will come a time when that sh*t gets old.
2006-08-18 13:44:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They like the passion involved with this type of woman. The relationship is always edgy and the guy never slips into a comfort zone.
2006-08-18 13:46:16 · answer #6 · answered by The Princess of Pleasure 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sex. sex is whats up. they just want girls who can get up at night and go all night to show off to friends. soon you'll find a guy who actually wants you, doesn't treat you like the family dog. even though girls focus on shoes and hair to impress men and show off their good taste, most guys are interested in the stuff in between the hair and shoes. next guy you find like that, make sure that theirs a big red hand print on his face.
2006-08-18 13:48:19 · answer #7 · answered by Sandman23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just the way it is they like the bad life. He does not how to be treated with respect or dignity. That is all he knows. He was probably scared and did not know what to do when he was with you.
2006-08-18 13:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by Teresa G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
men always like a challenge! They always love women more that apparently love them!
2006-08-18 13:45:42 · answer #9 · answered by Sensualbracelet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont like a bit*hy woman, and if i had a good woman i'll treat her like gold..
2006-08-18 13:46:03 · answer #10 · answered by Funk-Ski Biznez Man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋