my dad died?

Question

my dad died in november 2005. i was really close to him. he had cancer. now everytime somebody brings him up or even says something that my dad did i tear. sometimes i start to think about him and i cry. i know it's hard to let things go. but out of my whole family him and me were super close. we did everything together....what should i do or does anyone just want to say anything about this

Answer 1

i went through the same type of thing...my dad died when i was in high school. its really hard. just remember he will always be there in spirit. you will cry. don't let any one tell you that it's "time to get over it" grieving is a personal experience, and different for every one. i went to group councilling with other high school kids who had lost a parent. it helped to not feel alone. be strong, look to the rest of your family for support.

Answer 2

I am so sorry about your dad. It is understandable that you cry so much for him since you were so close. I don't think anyone could possible tell you what to do or feel at this point because everyone deals with that kind of pain differently. However, as a suggestion, start by praying and ask God to help you to deal with the pain so that you can go forward in life as your dad would want you to. Try to remember that he is resting now and will not be suffering anymore, but he is always looking over you. Maybe if you try to keep active it might help because then you will not have too much wasted time to just sit around and think about it. I could not imagine how you are feeling, but I am sure thinking about it because my dad has diabetes and he is going through a lot, my oldest brother has it too and now it is affecting his kidneys, which does not leave a whole lot of hope for him, then recently the doctor told me that I have it too. Diabetes is somewhat like cancer; it eats away at you with no cure. So, I have a lot to face myself. The thing that keeps me going and gives me strength is prayer. I sure wish I was there to give you a hug. Everything will be ok in time. God will always be by your side. Along with God's love, I share my love with you too.

Answer 3

There is nothing for you to "do"...you can only deal with it as best you can at any particular moment. My mom died three years ago just before Thanksgiving. My entire family is close, so I know how you feel. We were all depressed, off balance, and had difficulty adjusting. Yes, I cried regularly and for no apparent reason (even remembering funny things we did together would make me cry) for a couple of years. I can't tell you how many times I thoughtlessly picked up the phone to call her and suddenly remembered that I couldn't. I no longer cook Thanksgiving dinner (I ALWAYS called mom while I was cooking). Yeah, I finally got to the point where thinking about her wasn't painful....but I still miss her like we lost her yesterday. Everyone is different, so there is no saying how long it will take for you to get past tearing up or crying at the drop of a hat. The only positive thing I can tell you is that it will get easier as time goes on. And eventually you'll remember more things that cause you to smile than will cause you to cry. My condolences on your loss.

Answer 4

It's never easy losing someone you love, but losing your dad is hard. I'm on the verge of losing mine also, he has several medical probs and they tell us it will be a miracle to have another year, but we remain hopeful that he'll do better than they expect because he is stubborn. But, once you lose someone you are that close to, it is gut wrenching and I feel for you so much. The last time I lost someone I was that close to, it was my grandfather-he had leukemia- and I cried every time my thoughts even strayed that way. even now-17 years later- I cry around his b day and father's day, sometimes x-mas. it doesn't ever go away, but it does get easier. I lost my grandmother right before my wedding and she never got to see the birth of my first baby, or my sister's boy, and I'm pregnant now and I wish they could be here. I'm honoring my grandfather by naming my new baby after him.
It is still very fresh pain for you because it's only been a year, but hopefully you know he IS still with you. There is an afterlife and he can see you and still loves you. "Love knows no boundaries" they say and it is true. As long as you keep his memory close and talk to him in your heart, you will never truly lose him and you will see him someday. Good luck and my condolences.

Answer 5

It's going to be tough for a while. I know it's hard to let someone go. I'm sure you already understand that he's better off now than suffering with cancer. For a while, you'll cry... but trust me... it will get easier and you start to think of great things your dad did and laugh instead of cry. For now...don't feel like you're abnormal for crying. It's fine... just remember to value yourself and those around you!

Keep your head high!

Answer 6

First off, Ma'am....I'm sorry for your loss. I will not say that I can imagine how hard it is, because I don't. But your father wouldn't want to see you in tears...remember, he made it his lifes' mission when you were born to keep you happy even if it meant making a few sacrifices himself. He wouldn't want you to cry. There's a saying in my family,"Those whom the gods love, die young". Just think of it and see how good your father was. I will not say you must have devout faith in your religion, whatever it may be, but I will say this - your father is in a better place, a place where he can always look at you and point out to fellow angels,"Look, there's my daughter" and feel proud. Just make sure you do him proud. Your father would've wanted it.

Answer 7

I want to I am very sorry that you lost your dad. It will take sometime to deal with. You are a lot stronger than what you think. And always remember that no matter what your dad is always there. He is in your heart. You just have to have faith in God. Pray everyday for the strength to stay strong and to be able to cope with the pain from missing your dad. Be the woman that he raised you to be. Keep your head up. And remember that you will see him again one day.

Answer 8

In The Bhagwad Geeta Bhagwan Krishna says "Wise do not weep for those who have died, for the 'Atma' - the soul- never dies it only changes form till it meet and unites with the 'Paramatma" -the Supreme soul or Almighty. What has gone was only a body. The thoughts and the deeds of the diseased live in his/her kin".
So cry no more baby!

Answer 9

No shame in crying. Let it out if you have to. it will take a long time, but eventually you will get over the pain. Im not saying you will get over your father, that will never happen, but the pain will be less and less. Especially when you accomplish something in your life, you know you Dad will be proud, so it will make it easier. My prayers to you. Keep your head up.

Answer 10

You don't need to be sad ! Just keep in mind all the great things about your dad ! Remember all the memories. Your dad is looking out for you and never forget that ! Your dad was suffering RIGHT. well, HE'S IN A BETTER PLACE NOW. just KEEP IN MIND THAT EVERY TIME THAT YOU WANT TO CRY : "would YOUR DAD WANT YOU TO BE UNHAPPY?" No, so live on those great memories................. And, make your dad proud of you ! Good=Luck !